He's mad because of the money spent. We just moved to a new community and he knows no one except us. I also just remarried 6 mos ago and he doesn't know his stepdad all that well. How can I get him in a holiday mood?
2006-12-15 06:07:22 · 11 answers · asked by juneaulady 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
He is upset that you are not spending Christmas alone with him. He doesn't want to share you with anyone but his father. It happens. He is used to the family he was raised with, not this new man. Let him know that you understand he is upset but you really want to spend Christmas with him. Let him know that you are going to make his fav dishes when he gets in. If he still refuses, then respect it. Don't yell at him or put a guilt trip on him. Let him know that you understand he is mad but you won't force him to come home.
IF it really is about the money, tell him the ticket is non-refundable and it would be a waste if he didn't come.
Good luck.
2006-12-15 06:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by KJ97Y100 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to reassure him that everything will be fine, only if he changes his attitude. I don't think he is as upset about the money as he is about spending the holiday with another man in the house that he doesn't know. Your kind of asking alot of this kid right off the bat for the holidays. When it isn't going to be a Leave it to Beaver kind of situation. He is a young adult now and just talk to him about it. Talk to him about how much you love him and that because you have a new husband that will never change. Kids will always be kids no matter what their age. They just need to be reminded that their loved. And you know that Mom's are the ones that always seem to have to be the glue in a family. You can do things with him you did when he was a little boy that might make him feel abit more comfortable. Like decorating cookies or all of you go sight seeing looking at Christmas lights, then have hot chocolate after wards. You as Mom can only do so much. The fact that he has a Mom that is sending him money to have him visit should say to him that you want to spend time with him. But, he is still young so give him time to adjust to everything.
2006-12-15 14:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that he is upset over the family being separated more so then the money spent for the ticket. I would still send him the ticket and let him know that your door is always open and that your new husband and you are looking forward to his coming. He is 19 and can make his own decisions, so if he chooses not to come for the holidays then just try to have a happy holiday without him.
I have three children, two of which think I am the problem for evrything in their lives, and I intend to have a very merry christmas with or without them. It doesn't mean I don't love them or care about them any less, it's just that I have to make Christmas merry for me and my son.
2006-12-15 15:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by bellslady65 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son is not a baby anymore. He's a grown man. You cant do everything for him. Its enough that you bought him the ticket. He is responsible for his own moods. Im sure by the time he gets home he'll have his attitude together.
2006-12-15 14:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by mine2006aug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe play christams games or play christmas songs , or maybe watch christmas movies. Here are good ones., how the grinch stole christmas, cartoon and new one, frosty the snow man, a christmas story. I love that movie , it's so funny. Thats how I get in the spirt. Hope this helps and merry christmas.
2006-12-15 14:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tihnk once he get home it'll all be okay. Just let him know you wanted to see him and be together as a family for the holidays. It'll make u happy to see him happy.
2006-12-15 14:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No disrespect to you or your son - but what an ungrateful little bastard.
You spent your hard earned money trying to make him happy and he has the nerve to throw it up in your face? He should thank merciful God that he has a mother who cares about his happiness.
If he were my son - I would leave his sorry behind wherever he is and tell him to find his own way home.
2006-12-15 14:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by sugar_pink_candy 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Maybe you can do something special with him. Did you do anything with or for him when he was little? Merry Christmas!
2006-12-15 14:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Lynn M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this boy that YOU are his Mama, and if you want to spend twice that much to get him home, it's YOUR business... he just needs to worry abut getting his butt home so his Mama can spoil him and love on him. he he
2006-12-15 14:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu can't force him to accept your new husband. He wants his family back together. He is angry with the whole situation.
2006-12-15 14:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋