I worked with a man for a few years, and I had strong feelings for him. He got married last year, and since he got married he has been in touch and we were seeing each other for a bit. Everything was going really well, until he just stopped contacting me. Its been about 6 months now, and although I know I'll never get him back I want to punish him, and hurt him like he has hurt me. Should I phone his wife, or write her a letter?
2006-12-15 05:59:38 · 46 answers · asked by pob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no i dont think you should
2006-12-15 06:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by LOL!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are upset because a married man stopped contacting you? You deserve what you get. Don't be so stupid in the future.
Second, If you contact his wife or anything else, all that will do is justify in his mind his reason for getting rid of you. Even if you ruin his life you will always just be some psycho. I will probably get kicked out of the man club for letting you women in on this secret but the best way to get back at a man that has hurt you is to move on and be happy. You will see him sometime and he might not show it, but it will kill him if you are happy without him. Also you cant say it to him. If you make a point to tell him how happy you are that is the same thing as begging him for more.
2006-12-15 06:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by senmonwabio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) You should have known better than to sleep with a married man.
2) If he had strong feelings for you he wouldn't have married someone else.
3) It would appear you were a convenient s**g for a while but he didn't want to continue risking his marriage.
4) You appear to have low self-esteem and other 'issues'.
5) Why be spiteful? You were deluding yourself if you thought there would be any other outcome. You only have yourself to blame.
6) His wife will suffer at some point when she realises she married a ********.
The best revenge ever is to have a better life/relationship without your ex.
2006-12-15 09:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has acted terribly towards you, but I think you need to be the better person here. Why punish his wife? She has done nothing to you, and is an innocent in the situation. Move on - focus on healing yourself, because you sound like you're still in some pain - and find a man who will love you completely. It's natural to want to punish someone who's hurt you, but in the long run it's better for you if you forgive, move on, heal and go on for better things. Be good to yourself and try to be happy without him. And I know this all sounds like rubbish at the moment because you're angry... but in a while, you might see the sense in what I'm saying. Please don't hurt his wife to make yourself feel better - that's unfair. Whatever you do, think about it carefully beforehand, from all points of view. I hope you feel better soon.
2006-12-15 06:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sinead C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're hurting ,,,but you knew what you were getting into. why hurt her? she probably knows or has a feeling that something is going on. let time heal you and go out start a new relationship with someone willing to love you back as much as you love them. put this behind you and chalk it up as a learning experience, that doesn't need repeated. believe me, what goes around comes around. and you don't want this to come back and bite ya in the butt, so leave it alone and get on with your life. if he contacts you in the future, do yourself a favor and hang up on him, he'll get the message,and you'll feel better about yourself. Remember ,time does heal. as far as she is concerned you can bet she is probably going thru her own personal hell. cuz in her heart she knows something is wrong.she may not know what or who but she knows and that will be punishment for him . you can bet she is trying to find out what is going on. so concentrate on yourself,be happy,and get on with your life without him. good luck and MERRY CHRISTMAS and believe you will have a better and happier new year.
2006-12-15 06:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by hummybird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Oh dear... sounds like a bad situation... you have to let it go...you should have let him go once he got married.... I think you know that... all I can say is treat others the way you would like to be treated and that means leave his wife well alone....she more than likely has a marriage ahead of her during which he will cheat on her and all that this entails...so...move on and count yourself lucky that you are shot of him..... he sounds bad news! good riddance! cut up his photos or something! There are some good guys out there who will respect you! He didn't....
2006-12-15 06:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Susie Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some blame for your involvement with a married man and you shouldnt feel like punishing HER anymore than she already is and for what? For yours and his sexual infidelities. Who's really the one hurt here? Hope that he has mended his marriage and is making a commitment and hope YOUR future mate never does that to you...what comes around goes around...youre due.
2006-12-15 06:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by *) ayla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. The guy is a jerk and not good enough for you or his wife, but you can be the bigger person and just walk away. Or just tell all your friends that he is lousy in bed. Having a good laugh about an ex with my mates always makes me feel better
2006-12-15 09:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by michelle p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to punish him now?
He has had his fun with you, and because he is a selfish man he has not contacted you, as maybe he has thought that what he was doing was wrong, and if he had wanted you totally, he would have married you!!!!
2006-12-15 19:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by classychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying "If you are looking for revenge, you may as well dig two graves" If you keep looking behind you, you will fall over what is ahead. Be strong and do something, that in time you will look back on and be proud of. Kind regards.
2006-12-15 10:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by dannainwarrior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you got involved with a married man when you should not off. He wanted a bit of fun on the side and you was it.
you was foolish learn a lesson now move on.
2006-12-15 06:07:25 · answer #11 · answered by Ding Dong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋