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but how please someone tell me HOW do i get over a death? were do i start does anyone know. its been 3 months and im still crying all the time. i have to hide it from people in work they all seem to have forgotton already and expect me to be in a great mood! they ask me whats wrong and i say nothing is wrong but i cant say anything i dont want people all over me pussy footing round me. any advice is good. thanks

thank u so much everyone.

i just hope she can look down on me and look after me.

i can get on with things but i constantly find myself thinking about it. plus its the 1st person ive ever lost close to me so its a new experience.

thanks again x

Answer 1

death is a very hard thing to over come and the only advice i can give to you is to continue to cry when you need to and it will take time. time is the only answer to dealing with death. do not be ashamed and don't hide it from people because then you feel you are doing something wrong and you are NOT. also talking, about the person you lost, will help a lot. remember this person and always cherish the moments in time you had with them. good luck hun and happy holidays to you and your family=)

Answer 2

First of all, I am sorry for your loss. No matter who you lose in your life it can be very difficult and people deal with death differently. 3 months is totally natural for someone to still feel the emptiness and loneliness associated with losing someone. But still crying all the time is not good. I would recommend you look up on the internet for a therapist in your area or support groups that deal with this type of thing. Because there are alot out there. Maybe if you talk about it more and be around people who are dealing with the same thing it will help you to deal with it and help you to move on. Just because we lose people that we love to death doesn't mean we have to stop living. We still have to go on no matter how badly we are hurting. Time heals all wounds.

GOOD LUCK to ya!

Answer 3

Someone who was like a father to me passed away August 31st and I still cry several times a week. I wish I had some good advice for you!! I need that advice myself. I'm just trying to accept that its always going to hurt and hopefully I'll see him again when my own time is up. I'm trying to hold back tears just typing this, its horrible. I've had pictures of him from get-togethers, all of us friends in groups, on my bedroom walls since before he passed and I've considered taking the pics down in case that helps, but then I'd have a total breakdown.
I guess its something a person just has to get used to, god knows how long that'll take.
I'm very sorry for your loss :(

Answer 4

Death is a horrible thing we have to deal with. I lost my mother 3 YEARS ago and my grandmother the next year, a close friend this year, and a friend's child this year. It is a terrible feeling. First off, know you're not alone. I was very bad after my mother died because my father and I were her main caretakers for years, we knew she was going to die, it doesn't make it any easier. ANYWAYS I finally went to a grief support group, it helped me so much I couldn't tell you. It is hard, and you cry, but you start to deal with it and find ways to make it easier. Time does heal, but allow yourself to cry, get mad and all that. It's part of it and it's not healthy to hold it all in. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Listen, u will never forget about that person. My Aunt died three years ago and till this day I cry on her birthday, spare of the moment, looking at her son, hoildays, and so on. Its called a healing process, people take things differently then others. U might always cry everyday, but that is how u remember that person and what he/she has done in ur life. Try to get involved with anything around your community o church. Something that would keep u preoccuiped and not think about it soo much.

take care of urself

Answer 6

You didn't specify who this person was to you - spouse, parent, friend, etc. I lost my dad 5 months ago and I'm still crying over it - remembering things he did, certain songs, etc. You may want to go to your doctor to get put on an anti depressent for a short time. I did that when my sister died and it helped getting over the initial 'shock' period, which was about a year. I'm so sorry for your loss, I feel for you.

Answer 7

THERE'S NOT A TRICK YOU DO TO STOP THE PAIN JUST LIKE WITH A MAGIC WAND! I KNOW IT HURTS A LOT. BUT IT'S ALSO TRUE THAT TIME HEALS ALL THE WOUNDS. IT WILL TAKE A LOT, THOUGH. JUST TRY TO REMEMBER YOUR FRIEND AT HIS BEST. KEEP HIM IN YOUR HEART! AS TIME PASSES THE PAIN WILL LESSEN AND YOU WIL FEEL BETTER. JUST DON'T FORGET THE GOOD TIMES YOU HAD AND HE WILL LIVE IN YOUR HEART! APPARENTLY THE PERSON YOU LOST WAS VERY IMPORTANT FOR YOU, SO FOR HIS SAKE YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE! HE WOULDN'T WANT TO SEE YOU CRYING, THAT'S FOR SURE. DON'T EVEN PAY ATTENTION TO PEOPLE THAT DON'T UNDERSTAND YOU- THEY PROBABLY NEVER HAD TO DEAL WITH A PAIN OF THAT KIND!

Answer 8

I am sorry for your loss. I have lost a daughter and a grandmother and it is really hard. The way I get through the loss is to remember that our loved ones are in a better place and with God now and he will take care of them until you are with them.

Answer 9

death is an untouchable type of subject. certain people handle it differently. i am a christian and believe that i am going to one day be in a better place. for now, you can get counseling, talk to a pastor, or let time take the suffering away. god bless you.

Answer 10

I don't think you will ever get over a death. But if you are a religious person I would pray to God about it. He can help you overcome anything.