how long do me and my bf have to wait to be with each other u know have *** i just had a misscariage very early wednesday mornin and well i think hes about to die hes in so much pain i know it u what i mean blue ***** oh well im 16 and yes i know im to young but we both have the potential and brains to take care a baby i just want it back dispite the pain i woudl do it again i mean now that i know what it feels like to have the misscariage i woudl still take another chance jsut to happy a little bundle of joy olease help how long do we have to wait
2006-12-15 05:46:03 · 19 answers · asked by I luv you James! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ok we havnt been eble to have sex for 3 weeks cause ive been bleeding the whole time and now i think if finnaly stopped i had the miscariage wednesday but it hasnt been just to days and blue balls do exsist i asked my ob doc its not called that but a guy can be in pain from holding in so much sperm for so long god there balls are only so big sperm does not return to there body it stays in there balls untill released
2006-12-15 06:08:05 · update #1
I won't tell you that you shouldn't be having sex, because you will get enough of that from others. I understand that you think you and your boyfriend are ready to have a child, but sweetie, it isn't easy. Take that from a mother of 3, who was married when she had her first one, had been in the military for 4 years, and had wanted a child since she was 16. You need to get your education, both of you, get yourselves established, and then think about having a baby. What is the rush? If you two know that you are going to be together forever, just let things happen. As far as how long do you have to wait, I guess most doctors would tell you 6 weeks or something, I have never had a miscarriage but that is what they say after actually giving birth, however, I was having sex a week after giving birth. It all depends on your body. If you try it and it is too painful or whatever, find other ways to please each other.
Seriously though, don't rush into motherhood, give yourself time to live your life.
And for all those who think I am wrong for telling her how long to wait to have sex and want to give me a thumbs down....have at it...this is exactly what I would tell my daughter if she were this age. Most people have sex by this age these days....What they need to be preached to about is safe sex and sex with only one individual. Telling a teenager not to do something only makes them want to do it so they can find out why they aren't supposed to do it.
2006-12-15 05:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I consider it might rely at the predicament. A pal of mine dated approximately 6 years earlier than getting married since she used to be in poor health most likely and could not pass by way of with the marriage ceremony simply but. If it used to be anything like that, I might wait a even as. If all instances have been ultimate (or up to they would however) so far as cash, a condo, and different matters, I might nonetheless wait a pair years and be content material. I've been engaged for a million.five years proper now, and would possibly not be married for yet another a million.five years. I'm sufferer I wager.
2016-09-03 14:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 16 and want to have a child with your boyfriend? Raising a child has nothing to do with "potential" or "brains." Imagine that you and your boyfriend walked into an adoption agency and attempted to adopt a baby... given your age, education level, income (of lack there-of), marital status, etc., the adoption agency would never let you be a parent. Being a parent is a priviledge and raising a child is a gift. Love only goes so far... you need a lot more - support and money are just two things. Be smart and wait... you will be so thrilled that you did. Get an education, wait at least 4-5 years, marry that boyfriend of yours... and I promise that you will be a great mommy and your children will benefit. Good luck to you!
2006-12-15 05:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by SixEldest 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off your boyfriend is a jackass if he is pulling this ****! Second, you are too young to have a child. If God thought you were ready you would have had the one you just miscarried. Third, you are selfish for trying to have a baby before you are stable enough, in every way possible, to take care of that child. Every child brought into this world deserves the best and you can't give a child that, at least not until you grow up finish school, high school and college, and get married!
2006-12-15 06:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by xalia331 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you wait till you are older and don't drain on the economy being a teenage mother? Maybe you should take it as a sign, that you have a second chance to be a teenager again without being a teenage mother. Look at it that way, go to college, get a good job, then worry about having kids.
2006-12-15 06:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by Jyse 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you noticed the pattern - all the women are on your side and, through experience, advise you to take your time. You have your whole life ahead of you to become an adult. Be a child for a few more years. Then there is the 2 cents worth from a male who's obviously on his own side and can't get laid who advises you badly. The women want what's best for you. The male wants what feels best for himself. Sadly you will discover that most men are like that until they grow up, which can take a lifetime for some.
You mentioned a bundle of joy. That bundle of joy becomes a hive of activity within two years and often a headstrong and wilful bundle of disobedience. While children are God's gift and I love mine, I am very grateful I waited until my thirties to have them. I do not miss my youth which I spent on myself and have the maturity and experience to take care of three (gritted teeth sometimes) bundles of joy by myself after their father walked out. I do not want you to make a life shattering mistake. Think very carefully about whether you want to be tied to this boyfriend for life. Having a child to him could harness you to him forever. And the others are right. Blue balls is a very old deception. I would not like to be with any one who lied to me to get me to have sex with them. It would make me feel like a prostitute.
2006-12-15 06:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would SERIOUSLY get on birth control, first of all.
At 16, you are NOT able to care for a baby financially, unless you were left a TON of money in a will or something. Finish your schooling before having a baby. What do you plan to do? Be a welfare mommy while daddy lives at home with HIS mommy & daddy and works at Burger King to support you???
As for the miscarriage, you should wait at least several weeks before having sex again..
He is NOT in agony with his "blue balls." That is a LIE that BOYS make up to have sex. He's a whiny, immature little boy who is manipulating you.
If he is THAT desperate for sex, hand him a bottle of lotion and tell him to go at it. He'll survive. I promise you this. Your health and well-being are far more important than his access to your crotch.
2006-12-15 05:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Go to the Dr. and get an o.k. from him or her. As far as your boyfriends balls? He'll live. If he really cared he would be in pain because of the loss of your baby, not missing a couple of minutes of sex.
2006-12-15 05:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say u wait until u find a bette guy to have a child with and when u get a little older...maybe sometime in ur twenties...and theres no way hes in plain from not havin sex in 2 days...
2006-12-15 05:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by sandyscheeks 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your boyfriend is in pain, it's not from abstaining from sex for two days. Either he's lying to you or he's got other physical problems.
What did your doctor say about sexual activity after your miscarriage?
Sixteen is way too young to be trying to have a baby. Please wait until you're on your own and able to support a child.
2006-12-15 05:50:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lady J 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋