I love my hubby soo much and we have great sex, he is a wonderful dad (most of the time) but its weird that it just still doesnt seem like enough, ya know? Does anyone else feel like they really love their partner but something isnt right? What is that feeling?
2006-12-15 05:39:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I feel very complete because we both believe in the same God. God is in our relationship, is yours?
2006-12-15 05:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by truthsayer777 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There will always be *something* missing. If you marry a blonde, you're missing out on the brunettes; if you marry a guy who loves to party, you don't get much "quiet time"; if you marry a homebody, you cut back on your partying, etc. You can't have *everything* in one person. But you CAN have the most important things, and this is what matters.
To summarize - no, I don't feel the way you do. I did give up *some* things when I chose my husband as a spouse. But I'd spent a long time searching for the "right person", and I know just how hard it is to find someone who "feels" right. Being with my husband just "feels" right to me; I've had more passionate, thrilling, "exciting" relationships in the past - but these were people I would not want to end up in a long-term relationship with. I can't even imagine being with anyone but my husband; I cherish every moment we spend together.
I don't know if you have simply not spent much time searching. Perhaps now you're wondering what you might be "missing out" on. It's possible that you ARE missing out on something, there is no way to know. Try to focus on the good things in your relationship; sounds like you have plenty of them!
2006-12-15 14:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As bad as it sounds... it's probably boredom. After a few years of marriage, kids, and just life in general... you lose the excitement. Remember getting all pretty just for him?? Remember when he would go out of his way to do something really special?? Remember not knowing what was coming next?!?!
People get comfortable with each other, and stop trying. Talk to him about what you guys can do to add a little excitement into the relationship. Plan a date night where he has to leave before you get ready and come to the door to pick you up. Or, Surprise him with something that reminds you both of when you were dating. Hopefully he will get the hint and start doing these little things for you too. (but don't hold your breath- you might just have to ask him!) Either way remember- you can't undo an affair- and the grass is not usually greener on the other side.
2006-12-15 13:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by baby_girl_8881 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you seem to be happy (enough) w/ your husband, and your marriage, trouble is, you seem to be unhappy w/ YOU!
do you have a job? if not, that might be it. sometimes women (stay at home moms) feel incomplete. they may be busy as heck w/ the house and kids, but they feel the need to get out there in the world and be productive and make a difference; you know, contribute to society.
how long have you been married? sometimes it's just a phase women go through. could last a few weeks, to several months. no big deal, really. you just don't feel any kind of deep connection w/ your husband. sometimes women hit a low in their life. someone once said women are like waves; they have their ups and downs. and when they're down (about themselves, mostly), they might misinterpret these feelings and transfer them onto their partners. you might blame the marriage for not being enough; you might blame your husband for not being enough, but the problem still lies w/ you.
try changing your routine. try changing your hair color. try taking a different route to work, or school. shop at a different grocery store. if that doesn't help, i suggest you go see a therapist.
sometimes it helps just to talk and get stuff off your chest. once it's all out, i bet you'll start feeling better about your husband and the marriage.
and, a little romance can't hurt! is your husband romantic? does he give you flowers for no apparent reason? does he leave you little notes lying around? does he at least pick up his poopy underwear after himself? maybe you're just feeling overwhelmed cleaning up after him. you probably think, omg! he's a grown man, why do i have to mother him?! that could be it. do you feel like his equal or like his mother? sometimes it's hard to respect a man or feel attracted to a man you tend to mother.
heck, i don't know anymore. hope this helps! good luck! and don't throw away an otherwise good marriage.
2006-12-15 13:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and do some thinking. Do you feel like it is something you personally are missing, or in your relationship. Think about what it is you miss. Once you can answer these questions, sit down and talk to your husband. Tell him what you love and enjoy about him and your relationship. But also express what it is you think you are missing from your connection. There may be a lack of communication between the two of you, that you are not making time for your relationship (especially if you have kids) or that you two differ on an important issued that is keeping you from connecting, like religion, values, or something else important to you. Either way, talking about it and reestablishing the connection you have will only strengthen your bond and improve every facet of your lives. Good luck!
2006-12-15 13:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it isn't something that is missing in your partner but in you. Are you unhappy with something about yourself? Women especially tend to get down on themselves and for some reason it comes out as feeling as though something is wrong with someone or something else. Find something that makes YOU happy or proud of yourself and things might just seem to look better. Good luck!!
2006-12-15 13:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by TTC Cycle#20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be lacking something outside your marriage possibly satisfaction at work (for a job that is challenging and rewarding) any number of things including spiritually, economically and thousands of others do a thorough search of your life and try to identify where you aren't receiving the gratification you wish for and try to resolve that situation ..life is made of a myriad of ingredients and all have some value for you...so try to make the most of all that you can...and good luck...remember we can only do what we are able to!
2006-12-15 13:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can find a hobby, or heck, even just a board game that is a challenge you can enjoy together. A little competitiveness can add some passion and can be funny as hell sometimes. Helped me.... good luck!
2006-12-15 13:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal, it all depends if you do something about it. I myself have made up my mind and i plan on doing something about it. I love my girl and all but like you said it's just not enough. So I will find my missing piece and fill the void!
2006-12-15 14:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by don b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it probably means you need change. Why not go out and do something for yourself. (not find a man) Develop a new passion and the energy will reflect back in the home
2006-12-15 13:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine23511 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think it's normal to have those feelings, you'll probably find everyone has had them. it's just human nature to have wants and needs that fulfill your ego and superego inside you. i hope that it isn't something that becomes more serious, and that you too are very happy!
2006-12-15 13:58:29 · answer #11 · answered by JACK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋