were in bed and making out, then you know what comes next right, well.. within like 30 seconds he pulled out, i asked him what was wrong and he said that his erection went away. This has happened many times before. Not all at once but like once every two months or so. He was all into it to. I asked him if it was me and he said no. I believe him because we had sex yesturday early morning. He said that he does not have confidence and that all he tends to worry about before we have sex is his performance, or if his penis will work right or not. I told him that its ok and that there is always a next time. He said that is true, and he said that he felt embaressed. What can I do for him not to worry so much before we engage in sex?
2006-12-15 05:37:10 · 21 answers · asked by DDee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well it's good that he opened up and talked to you about it. Most guys will never admit when they cannot perform sexually.
Before engaging in the act - why not start off with some hot foreplay or something you both enjoy. Make the atmosphere relaxed or kinky. Maybe there is something you have not tried together yet or something he may want to try but is afraid to approach the situation fearing that you may reject it.
Me and my man have some hot sessions and sometimes we dont - but we love each other as you and your hubby seem to love each other. You can have sex with anyone - but when you love someone it is just a little bit different.
So yes there will be other times girlfriend - don't be afraid to experiment and explore!
2006-12-15 05:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by sugar_pink_candy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once every two months is "many times before"? If you consider this to be a big problem no wonder he is worried.
If it goes all droopy don't worry about it. You know, sometimes guys are just tired, or stressed, or whatever. If you get mad or hurt you make it FAR worse. Just brush it off and ask him to jerk it onto your boobs or something while you play with yourself. Does EVERY time have to be some grandiose performance?
I know you women find this hard to believe but we under a lot of pressure. A woman could be dead and still have sexual performance acceptable to some. A guy doesn't get upset or hurt if his wife dries up and needs some lube, does he?
2006-12-15 05:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try just being relaxed w/him after this happens. Slowly try to re-arouse him and go for another lap around the track. If you can get the desired response-I guarantee the second round will give him back his confidence. He'll be aroused but the immediate need will have been satisfied and perhaps he'll lean back and relax and experiment the second round giving both of you a pleasant surprise!!
2006-12-15 05:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by T J ! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek a doctor and you both go together. Let him know that you are there and that it's alright to because its life and many men go throught that. Maybe its him stressing out worrying if he'll perform right that makes his erection go away. Tell him to relax and focus.
2006-12-15 05:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Foreveryoung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm an same, continually have had an somewhat intense sex stress. regrettably for me, my husband's is about 0.5 as intense as mine... besides, i imagine my guy sounds like yours, probable extra so. He doesn't voice it, yet i comprehend he concerns about with the flexibility to keep me chuffed. So i'm particular your guy feels somewhat insecure that he received't be able to stay alongside of you, and that you will be tempted to stray in case your sexual needs were no longer met. You reassured him and he replaced into chuffed, and all must be nicely. purely aspect out once in a lengthy time period about how he can fulfill you want no different, he's the in problem-free words guy for you, something alongside those strains. adult males choose reassurance the picture of girls do.
2016-11-26 21:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just having "ed" nothing bad, if it persist I would suggest you consult with a doctor. It could be from stress or anxiety, tell him to relax. Don't forget to talk about it so we won't feel discourage. Maybe things will make better sense if you talk about it. I'm sure you don't mind its just a tiny problem that needs to be fixed.
2006-12-15 05:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something insane to him that he would never expect like going down on him in a movie theater or telling him that your wearing no panties in a really inapropriate place. He just needs it to work right a few times to get his confidence back.
2006-12-15 05:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Franka R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him about my situation.....
Last night I got awaken by a call around 3:00 am. I listened and then yelled...."What the f@#k, do I look like the weatherman!!!"
My wife woke up and asked me who it was, and I told her...."Some guy who asked if the coast was clear!"
2006-12-15 05:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like performance anxiety...Have you ever considered introducing some toys into the bedroom?
2006-12-15 05:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he pre ejaculated,,, he didnt lose his erection,, most men last 5 minutes during intercourse and it takes most woman 15 minutes to respond,, that is why they invented Oral sex and foreplay,
have him masterbate a hour before you have sex, that will have him last longer, or bit his penis head until he yelps, it will help desensitize his penis, you can also pinch or slap it,
2006-12-15 05:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋