I have been with my boyfriend almost 4 years, the entire time i was in college, im out of college now and was expecting him to propose right away, but he hasnt, how much longer should i wait for him to do it? How long is too long?
2006-12-15 05:20:15 · 12 answers · asked by marmar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes we have talked about it, and he says he wants to marry me, so i dont want to ask anymore, because im scared to seem too pushy and scare him off.
2006-12-15 05:28:58 · update #1
This is a tough question, and one that only you can answer. However, here is my advice: Take a few days to do some soul searching. Why do you want to get married? Do you think you are ready for such a committment, and if so, are you sure that your boyfriend is the man of your dreams and you want to spend the rest of eternity with him? Have you two talked about marriage, what it means to each of you, and your committment to one another?
If you can answer these questions, and you still want to get married, I reccommend talking to him. If he loves you, he recognize that it is important to you, and will be open to the discussion. Once you know where he stands, and vice versa, the apprehension should be eased. It is more about the two of you and your relationship than the "right" time in your life. Then you can make a decision about your next course of action. Ultimately, you know how you feel about him, and it is up to you to decide how long you want to wait. Just keep in mind that marriage is a choice, and a lot of work. It will be much better to have you both happily married rather than doing it out of obligation. Talk to him. You will feel much better. Take care and good luck!
2006-12-15 05:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2-3 years
2006-12-15 16:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by maamawalanis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was with my fiance almost 3 years when he proposed to me. Now we've been together 5 years and we're STILL not married. But it was both of our choice, he's still in college and I've been out for a year- we didn't have the money for the wedding we wanted. But it just seems like we'll never get married!
2006-12-15 16:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by hevs55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you guys ever talked about getting married after college? If no, he may not even know that you are expecting him to propose. Maybe it's not what he wants, but unless the 2 of you talk about it, there will be no way for him to know how you feel and for you to know how he feels about marriage
2006-12-15 13:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that's something the two of you should talk about? Especially if you're planning on marrying this guy, communication is KEY! Is he still in school? Does he have a plan or something he's waiting for til he pops the question? Hope it works out!
2006-12-15 13:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by Elsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well did you ever talk about marriage and if you have the most a person should wait especially with going to college is wait at the most 2 years and if he doesn't then leave.
2006-12-15 13:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just got out of college, and you want to get married? I hate to tell you, but you haven't even BEGUN to live yet. If you get married to this guy, you're going to regret it within two years. See if I'm wrong.
2006-12-15 13:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y don't u ask him if he has thought about it. if u feel he isn't going to do it and u can't settle for just dating for eternity then move on. don't give him a time frame cause u don't want to scare someone into marriage
2006-12-15 13:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by cupid6980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait as long as you has to. Don't rush anything at all. You've waited this long so just be patient. It'll come when you least expect it. He hasn't forgotten you at all.
2006-12-15 13:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Foreveryoung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest talking to him about the issue and determine from there.
2006-12-15 13:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine23511 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋