My friend Rhonda is 18 and my friend Andrew is 33. Guess what Rhonda likes Andrew. She even wants me to introduce her to this guy. I have told her that I will not do this I think that there is too much of an age gap.
She is being really isistant. She keeps pestering me about this. All I hear is "I Really like Andrew. I feel that i can't keep putting her off.
But wouldn't feel right about intrducing them. It would be better for me if they were closer in age.
How do I tell Rhonda once and for all that I will not do this. She is threatening to cut off the friendship if I dontrespond soon.
2006-12-15 05:05:16 · 20 answers · asked by bikini bandit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If age is your only hang up then I say introduce them. Its common for women to want to date older men. Who knows it may be a perfect match, it may not be. Tell her if you do introduce them, which i think you should. That if it fails its her own doing and not to blame you for it. Good Luck..
2006-12-15 05:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? Your eighteen-year-old friend is of the legal age of consent. In my family alone my father was over eleven years older than my mother and they were married for forty-two years until my father passed away almost four years ago and my sister is married to a wonderful guy and he's over eleven years older than she is. The difference between your eighteen-year-old friend and your thirty-three-year-old friend is only four more years. I, personally, never understood why people will only date people of a certain age. Not only that but in a lot of cases, the man must be the older of the spouses with some, too. I married a woman almost eight years older than me and we have an incredibly loving relationship. If a person puts certain restrictions on the people they want to get to know better then those people are being ignorant to perhaps getting to know an incredible person and may eventually wind up regretting it, and desevingly so, if that particular person every wakes up and stops being this way.
2006-12-17 19:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let Rhonda cut off the friendship. Your friend Andrew is way too old for her. She needs to find someone closer to her age. My daughter has men old enough to be her dad who want to date her. Their in there 50's and she's only 29. No way will she date them.
2006-12-15 05:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight up with her that there is way to big of a age difference between them and that you dont agree with it. How has she talked to andrew to think that she likes him? I'd tell her if she wants to meet him then for her to talk it out with him and that you don't want to be involved in it. She is so young still and needs to look for someone her age that way when she in in her 30's the person she is with isnt 60 and can hardly get around and she would have to be a stay at home wife just to take care of them all the time at a young age. She needs to realize that.
2006-12-15 05:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the actual age gap is as big of a problem as the fact that she's 18. If she were 25 and he were 40, it wouldn't be so bad. But she and he are likely at very different places in terms of maturity and life experiences. Have you stopped to consider your friend's motives in wanting this guy? Is she looking for a sugar daddy? I would just tell her that you don't want to risk losing either of their friendships.
2006-12-15 05:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh... one suggestion: never get involved in a relationship or be 'the' cupid.
If the relationship don't work out, they'll blame you; and there's always a chance it might not work out.
Your eighteen-year-old sounds too immature, which makes me conclude that a mature thirty-three-year-old might cannot even stand her for a short ten-minute.
And truth, there's no use in upholding a friendship that can so easily be threatened or tested for a 'guy'. If she's so tough to threaten you and the friendship, then she must got some nerve to go and make her own match.
Stay out of this, period.
2006-12-15 08:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Noel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, thats gotta suck! anywho, yeah I agree way too much of an age gap, and if she is going to threaten you then tell her to piss off! that is so not right and if she really likes this guy tell her to meet him herself! Hey sorry if I offend you but this girl Rhonda is a total *****!!
2006-12-15 05:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Moggs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a dumb 18 year old...I highly doubt Andrew would be interested in her for anything more than an easy lay...sorry but thats the way it is for most guys. I am 28 and I would have NO interest in a girl that young, they are just full of drama and really immature...yes, even the "mature" ones.
2006-12-15 05:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Trevor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a right combination. If Rhonda is threatening you then let her walk - because if something goes wrong ...guess what, she'll come bak and blame you anyway and then walk....
Besides I bet if you asked Andrew I don't think he would be that interested...unless he's just looking for a piece...and then she'll get hurt
2006-12-15 05:08:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should introduce them what happens from there is up to them for all you know they could end up falling in love. That's what happened to me and my boyfriend he is 31 and I'm 19 I love him so much and I'm glad I took the chance with the age gap it's not a big deal to us we are just to close and to much like friends to notice we have alot more in common than you would think we do.
Hope it helps
2006-12-15 05:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋