2006-12-15 04:49:19 · 11 answers · asked by Pyrene 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think marriage does change a relationship. If you have a good relationship built on trust and honesty and real love it shouldn't change anything. But ,I don't know what it is ,but when people marry it seems like one or the other changes in some way, usually bad. It is like this side of the person you have never seen before. They become jealous, when they weren't before, or controlling or insecure. Just make sure you have spent a lot of time with the person you intend on marrying, maybe live together for a year or so before you say I do. You really don't know a person until you live with them for about two years. If you love each other you can wait. Marriage is suppose to be for life, to many people these days don't take that into consideration before saying I do. Divorce is an easy way out for people. Nothing stays the same in life, everything changes with time, even people.
2006-12-15 05:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by jlynncogbill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, as a married couple we are a team. We make every decision together. It's also comforting to know that this is the man that will still love me when I'm wrinkled and grey.
We also argue less. Before my husband and I got married the few times we got into big arguments, the first thing that went through my mind is "I don't need this cr@p if he's going to be like this, I'm moving on" Now that we're married, we've learned how to communicate better with one another and we rarely argue but when we do I don't have the immediate thought of giving up and leaving him. Similar to dba_gregg's point: it's in both of our best interest to try harder to work things out.
2006-12-15 13:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by CA DIVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the very beginning, sex went way down, and the stress went way up. We had to adjust to living with eachother, that was tough. Our first year was hell, then we got passed it, and as time went on, we got into routines with eachother. Sex is back, stress is at a moderate level (which doesn't have anything to do with our marriage, just kids and bills and stuff). Marriage will change things in your relationship, because it is a life change. But you adapt, go with it, not against it.
2006-12-15 12:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, marriage made it not so big of a deal if we accidently got pregnant, and we got to sleep in the same bed when we went back to her families house for holidays. Other than that it's pretty much the same.
2006-12-15 12:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by bkweeks2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is the last resort ! Men think once the ring goes on the finger he can do or say whatever he wants. Ever hear the saying "She got the ring and i got the finger" ?
2006-12-15 12:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was a week before i was going to get married, and we were moving into our new home... i was pregnant and moving things when i should not of had... i went to go lay down and he started yelling at me telling me to go and cook dinner i said no lets just order out I'm to sleepy.. he raised his hand to me to hit me over this, but i caught him before he could and punched him in his face. He told me "now that you're mine, you will do whatever I say"... That this time he was going to let me off the hook for hitting him but to watch out because i had it coming for me next time.. that in his family the woman does everything in the house, takes care of the kids, cooks dinner, cleans the house and holds a job... before we even moved in together he had in his mind that he would be able to control me once we were married.. so watch out girl, it can be hard.. and NO we're not together anymore, i walked out that night..
2006-12-15 13:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by chopsticksnworms 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my exhusband became abusive.
Guess he assumed a marriage license was the same as a car title or something.
2006-12-15 13:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For me I think it gave me a sense of security and contentment. For him, he said he doesn't notice any difference. He said he already felt married before we signed the paper.
2006-12-15 13:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, now I have a 50/50 chance to lose half my belongings.
2006-12-15 12:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We took ourselves more seriously, other people respected us more as a couple, we know we're in it through think and thin so we take good care of each other. There's sense of permanence that allows us to be much more relaxed and future-oriented.
2006-12-15 12:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋