Me and my dad got into it last night, which is not unusual but this time he actually told me he didnt want me living with him(its not up to him) and he just had an anger outburst over something stupid. I know he has a bad temper anyway but never have I seen him this bad.....his truck has been broke and he's been up home with nothing to do. Could the outburst be because of the depression.
2006-12-15 04:39:22 · 20 answers · asked by queenbee0687 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
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2006-12-15 04:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depressive bouts can often cause anger outbursts and you should see that the freedoms you have he currently does not have and the overall aspect of life not working the way he wants. Depression does have high and lows and can be quick or drawn out but the reality is that the outbursts are worth investigating and checking to see how frequent the emotional response is and what is the nature of the response i.e anger, sadness, crying, elation, joy, happy etc. this will then help you to identify the emotional response and if it is depression. Good Luck!
2006-12-15 05:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by psychologist is in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like his angry outburst was caused by anxiety caused by personal losses. Sometimes, depression can be a result of anxiety or excessive worrying. He needs to feel useful or positive again, most probably. Perhaps, he should talk to a counsellor, a doctor or a good friend.
2006-12-15 05:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by montrealissima 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression definitely is often the source of anger. Often a person is upset with themselves and misdirect it on others. This may have been the case in this instance. If his truck is broke and he is stuck, it could also be due to claustrophobia. I would suggest that you might say you are sorry about his truck and problems and ask if he really meant it. If so, ask why, so you can try to work it out, if you want to that is.
2006-12-15 04:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually, I think his anger is from being overwhelmed. He's having a lot of stress on him right now. He lives with someone he fights with, his truck is broken down, and he's bored.
What this means is that he is worried about a lot of things and almost everything that is happening is out of his control. As you said, it's not his decision on whether you stay there or not.
Please don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming you, but asking you to see what is making him so overwhelmed here. When people have a lot of things out of their control, they will get upset.
So, the best way to help your dad is to help him find ways to get things in control
For instance, what can the two of you do to work things out between you. What can be done to get his truck repaired, or to allow him to do something he enjoys doing?
I have this feeling that when he feels that things are back within his control, he won't get so angry.
So, hang in there. Be supportive of your dad, even if you don't agree with him. If he feels that you won't argue, but just calmly state your position, things might just turn out better.
Have you tried this...the next time you see him. Tell him you love him and give him a hug. Tell him something you like about him and that he did well. Things won't change overnight, but if he starts feeling that less and less things are out of his control, he won't get so angry.
Good luck to you!
2006-12-15 04:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok. well i have depression and anxiety. and yes i have occasional outburts. i'm on medication for it and it has helped.
sometimes this could be bi-polar disorder. people with this will have outburst, withdrawls, stuff like that. [google it!!]
back to the meds and stuff. before i was on the medication, i freaked out like every day. i had so much stress and was so depressed, it was so hard to carry a normal conversation with anyone! [this may be like your dad] you should also google depression and anxiety to see if your dad matches it.
keep in mind that even though you may think he matches the symptoms, he might not be depressed. just stressed.
hope this helped!
=]
-hannah
2006-12-15 04:49:31 · answer #6 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes of course this could be a symptom of depression, but more likely he's trying to deal with stress and frustration. His car has been broken in he feels trapped at home and he has you as a responsibility. He probably feels inadequate right now. It'll pass when things brighten up for him. Give him patience.
2006-12-15 04:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by TONYA P 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like borderline personality disorder. When aggitated by outside stimuli, the outbursts usually occur much more frequently and are usually only directed at people who they feel love them unconditionally. I like with some who had BPD for years(my stepdad).
2006-12-15 04:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by XXXDirtyDirtyGirlXXX 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Clinical depression fogs the mind. When we lack the ability to think clearly we often snap at people. I know because I suffered from it for ten years and burned far too many bridges. Get help through steady therapy, no pills allowed because they fog the mind even more.
2006-12-15 04:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by boozer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's probably feeling overwhelmed by misfortune. Sounds like he is depressed and is pushing people away, which is a typical reaction for someone who is depressed. Don't give up on him - sounds like he needs you now more than ever.
2006-12-15 05:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by myteemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋