with him? and how do i get over him fast we've been together since may 05. i don't want a long distance relationship, it doesn't work
2006-12-15 04:34:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just because he's not able to come home for Christmas doesn't mean it's a reason to break up with him. I mean, you've been with the guy for so long already. You should be understanding and not angry with him. I'm gonna go back home for Christmas and MY boyfriend's gonna be working for that whole month off for break. I understand. I'm not upset with him.
Long distance relationships DO work. But if it doesn't work for you, you need to let him know that.
2006-12-15 04:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a rediculous reason to break up with him just because he's not coming home for xmas but I also understand that having a long distance relationship can be hard on a person. You should see how long he's going to be there before deciding what you want to do. At the same time, if you decide to break off with him just because he can't be with you on Christmas then maybe he deserves someone else who's willing to wait for his return.
2006-12-15 05:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by pangfvlx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont break it off just cuz he cant come home.I would say just give it time but u should prolly talk to him about the long distance relationship cuz i know how that goes and try to work it out and if it doesnt there is really no way to get over him fast
2006-12-15 04:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Landon R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that seems a little harsh....just b/c he isn't coming home is no reason to break up with him...geesh! by your statement "he's in new Orleans working (construction)"...makes it sound like its just a temporary thing...if so then its not really a long distance relationship. why not see if you can go to New Orleans and be with him for the holiday. if its not temporary, then why are you waiting close to 2yrs to all of a sudden say its not working....doesn't make sense
2006-12-15 04:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he give you a valid reason for not coming home? Is it due to work or something out of his control?
If so, you would be cruel to break it off with him - especially if he *wants* to come home to you, but simply can't.
And there is no getting over someone "fast". Those things take time; and the time is different for everyone.
Honestly? From the tone of your post, you are already "over him". Break up with him so that both of you can get on with your lives.
2006-12-15 04:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by skatoolaki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you do not like long-distance relationships, then yes, but if you truly love him and want to be with him, no. Is he working down in NewOrleans because of Katrina? Which i am sure he is, so i dont really think you should, because he is doing something for a great cause and he can't help that he has to work over there for x-mas...
2006-12-15 04:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by Kaysee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to break up with him just because he cant come home for x-mis? That is just stupid. If you really wanted to be with him you can make a long distance relationship work. But you have to work at it and trust him. Good luck in all you do!
2006-12-15 04:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard but some do work if your truly IN LOVE. As long as the lines of communication stay open both ways and your sure you trust him it makes the "visits" that much more special but hard to let him go. However it sounds like you do have your mind made up. Talk to him open and honestly. If he loves you it has to be hard on him too.
2006-12-15 04:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by ♥kissie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what ever sooner than later. You need a closer relationship where you can be happier. When he comes home for good, if he does, then things may work out again. Just be honest with him and let him know why.
2006-12-15 04:42:49 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he work there perminantly? Go be with him for Christmas! That would be the ultimate gift for him too. If it's a perm. thing... don't kno what to tell ya. Move? - If u truly love him. If he's there for the clean up... It's not perm. He'll be home. U allowing him to be there is a gift from u to alot of other people. Do u love him enuff to do that for other people? Soul search girl!
2006-12-15 04:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by bbygirl529 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋