I need some ideas on reasons to duck out of the inlaws house while up there for christmas weekend. My wife's brother is going to be there, and we have a very tainted relationship at best (see my previous question). I do not want to cause a scene, therefore I need some ideas for ducking out. Keep in mind that I am going to Pennsylvania, live in Maryland, and my Family is scattered all over the midwest. I would opt out, but I am trying my best to keep the peace during the holiday for my wife's sake. I just need some good excuses to duck out...
2006-12-15 04:30:03 · 16 answers · asked by Jason W 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
You could say you are not feeling well or have a terrible headache.
If you just want to duck out for a little bite here and there, you could find things that you "need" from the store.
Maybe find some cool places to visit and talk your wife into ducking out with you for a little while.
Good Luck.
2006-12-15 04:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your wife if you can do something special together since you are in Pennsylvania. Maybe take a ride and check out the country (depending on where you go) maybe go to the movies or out to a special restaurant. If she would rather spend the time with her family which is perfectly understandable make some plans to do this without her. Let her know that you would like to do something while there. Search on the internet for things to do in the area you are going to and see if she would like to do that instead of the restaurant thing. Have all your options available to you before you approach her with this alternate plan for a few hours alone together. It might make it easier to deal with the brother knowing you will have some time away. Hope this helps
2006-12-15 04:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by prettybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is never a good reason to "duck out" of Christmas day.. if you love your wife... you will just avoid the person at the party.. mingle with other people.. during the other times you can offer to pick up things needed from the store...Say you have some last minute presents to buy... do something with your wife like take walk, have her show you around the town, her favorite spots so forth..if there kids there take them to a park or something.. I remember Pa as always having allot snow at Christmas... snow ball fights, sledding, with my uncle's was always a special memory of mine of Christmas there
2006-12-15 04:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by msmomofmany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest not going at all. If you already have it in your mind that you are going to bail, why even waste your time going in the first place? But, be courteous and at least explain to your wife how uncomfortable and unpleasant the situation is for you and ask her if it is OK if you pass this year. Don't just say "I'm not going!" or else it may turn into a battle and you don't want her to have to choose between her family and you. Send her with your "blessings" and apologies for not coming. She can easily say you weren't feeling well and decided to stay home and rest.
2006-12-15 04:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out for some last minute shopping or come down with a stomach virus right before it's time to leave for Pennsylvania. No body wants to be around anyone that's throwing up and/or having diarrhea!
2006-12-15 04:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by M☆mma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either take the healthy approach and say you are going for a walk to enjoy the scenery, and get some exercise, or work off that meal. Or take up smoking, and say you are going out for a smoke, because you wouldn't want to smoke in their house. That is my husbands excuse, he manages to go outside at least 4 or 5 times on that one.
2006-12-15 04:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by gypsyiiiis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is going to PA as well to visit his Mom but I don't go because of her live in companion. We has had a falling out a few years ago and I have no desire to be near him (he is a bigot). Maybe just stay home this year or just let your wife go overnight and come back christmas day.
2006-12-15 04:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up. Smile and ignore him. Everyone knows what an *** he is, and your ducking out only makes everyone else have to deal with him more. It isn't very long, and your wife will appreciate a real man who sticks by her, rather than one who cuts and runs like a wuss.
2006-12-15 04:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by suzykew70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've used the "i have a headache and must lie down before I puke" excuse. If you don't mind going and reading a book or something in order to get away from them. In-laws are awful!!!
2006-12-15 04:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeze, I like my in-laws, but I know how you feel. Whatever you do, don't take the guys bait. Do you utmost to be totally polite at all times. It will confuse him.Good luck and take lots of walks!
2006-12-15 04:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋