What should I do?

Question

I met some girlfriends at the nursing school at my college but they all (or most) seem to be very insecure w/ themselves. I've been there, and let me tell you by experience, when you are insecure w/ yourself it is easy to stab anyone in the back. Because you don't trust, love, respect, and honor yourself, you don't really feel that way towards other people and you tend to use people & their company for your own gain. So, my point is, ever since I started college about 5 yrs now in counting, I still haven't found people I could actually call down-to-earth people. These girls are nice but sometimes superficial and insecure. But, I try to not be so uptight and have fun w/ them. I'm moving out actually w/ one of these girls (I'll be having my own room and restroom)...again, she is very insecure but very sweet. Do you think I'm overanalyzing? And, do you think I should just have fun hanging out w/ them.... see them as acquaintances (of course they don't have to know that).

Answer 1

I would seriously rethink living with this woman. If you are having concerns about her now, it is not going to get any better, and may even get worse, when you live in close quarters. I've had many friendships ruined by making an insecure friend a roommate. There is truth to the saying that you don't really know someone until you live with them.

You don't have to be friends with everybody you meet. You shouldn't have to question your friendships which it sounds like you are doing now. I am not saying don't hang out with them but you should also try to expand your friend base by taking up an activity or joining a group on campus which will allow you to meet people other than those in your classes.