He's been unfaithful to everyone he's ever been with, just recently found that out. Does he have no morals?
2006-12-15 04:20:03 · 24 answers · asked by Jersey Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That makes me wonder if he loves either of you. He sounds like an insecure soul not sure of what he wants. He obviously doesn't seem to know that this will only lead him to lose both of you.
Since he already has a pattern of being unfaithful, you shouldn't even bother to pay attention to what he says - coz, he probably has no clue what he wants and intends to say.
You deserve better. Is there any way you can work on taking that "soon-to-be-" out of that phrase sooner??? Good luck.
2006-12-15 04:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define "morals"... Everyone has a different idea of what it is. I'm sure he has morals, they're just not the same as yours. When you marry a person, the idea is to pick someone whos morals resemble yours to some degree. You picked wrong, is all. Get over it, and do better next time. Best wishes.
2006-12-15 04:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is really about morals - or the lack thereof. After reading a few of the answers you have received, I knew I had to comment.
For some people, fidelity is not one of their setpoints. They do not believe in it, nor do they practice it. They spread the joy around, so to speak. If he is one of these folks, his morals are just fine because fidelity is not part of his value system. The problem comes when your value system and his do not match. THEN, we have moral conflict. Sounds like that describes your situation. I am not condoning cheating by any means. I am just answering your question from a different viewpoint.
2006-12-15 04:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your situation. Though not generally a cheating kind of man I have found myself in the position of loving two women at the same time.
In one case it resulted in marriage to one of them for 17 years and in the second case destruction of that marriage and subsequent loss of the other loved woman.
Frankly, if he cheats repeatedly there is little hope for your happiness. Hate to say it but it is possible to be in a situation where a person truly believes they are in love with two people. Net outcome though is probably not good. From my own experience people who are in a majorly conflicted situation tend to make very bad decisions. Protect your own heart. If you feel out of control consider counseling. I wish you well.
2006-12-15 05:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Paul Finlayson F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he probably has morals but no self-control. That seems to be his main problem. It is possible to love more than one person at a time but in the real world you have to make a choice.
2006-12-15 04:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will never change. Actions always speak louder than words. If he is between two woman and you are letting him have his cake and eat it too. He will continue to have it that way. The bottom line is that he doesn't respect you and love you. If he did, he would never have thought of doing that. There are good men out there and I suggest you stop wasting your time on this loser and go out there and find him.
2006-12-15 05:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by moni6674 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never heard of having his cake and eating it too?
He has no morals, and he doesn't want any either, he just wants what he wants when he wants it and he'll not worry about the consequences either. Once hes out of your marriage, don't see him again unless there are kids involved. You stand an excellent chance of falling for his lines again.
2006-12-15 04:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has no morals. Sorry. And, maybe he does love both of you, just in different ways. It sounds like its good he's going to be your EX husband!!!
2006-12-15 04:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are confusing for us, but rather simple in reality. Take it as it is - Words. Rather we admit it or not, we all tend to "love" our ex's. Yet, they're ex's for a reason! Leave it that way, and realized... it's normal for all humans to have feelings. We still "love", but learn to "get over" them. He willl get over u just as he has all the others. Let it go.
2006-12-15 04:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by bbygirl529 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a liar, a cheater, and has the morals of a maggot! Good thing you are getting out of this relationship.
2006-12-15 04:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by boots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋