I recently found out the my husband purchased a diamond ring for my Christmas gift. I stumbled on the receipt (sheerly by accident I swear!) when emptying his pockets to wash his blazer. This is extremely exciting becuase I never received an engagement ring before we were married. Here is my dilemma: I looked at the receipt and the ring is yellow gold. I have been with my husband for over 5 years, in that time, I have never worn anything gold and have even complained about exes giving me gold jewellery when they knew I did not like nor wear it. Our wedding rings are white gold. He absolutely 100% knows I do not like gold, no question.
I do plan to act extremely happy on Christmas then ask him a few days later to reset to match my wedding ring.
So here's the question, why do you think he would spend so much money on something he knew I wouldn't be happy with? Was he just too lazy too look for something in white gold? I am completely at a loss to explain this...
2006-12-15 04:17:24 · 22 answers · asked by lookinforanswers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please know that I am not trying to be petty at all. I am very appreciative that he would do something like this for me and it has been a long time coming :-) You have to understand my side of it - it's upsetting to think that your husband, who is supposed to know you better than anyone else, didn't take the time to find something he felt you would love. He absolutely, 100% no lie knows I do not like yellow gold.
No it's not for anyone else, I'm positive ;-) and Yes, you could absolutely be right, maybe the receipt is wrong.
For the girl who reamed me for "complaining": I am not complaining, I am trying to figure out why my husband would not be considerate enough to NOT puchase a ring in yellow gold - which he knows I hate. Being that this is a ring I will wear for the rest of my life. Also, you can't mix white and yellow unless you have more than one of either and something to ties it in (two-toned watch).
The kicker - HE doesn't like yellow gold either.
2006-12-15 04:34:51 · update #1
Men are like that. They think they doing something nice, but they get it wrong. Kinda feel sorry for them. I've been dropping hints for weeks now and I seriously doubt he'll get what I want.
I would do exactly what you said. Act happy, then remark how you'd think it would be nicer if your rings matched. He'll agree, you'll get your white gold and you'll go on w/ your lives.
Maybe, just maybe, it was the same price as the gold and they just rung it up as gold. Probably not, but ya never know.
Happy Holidays! As least he didn't get you an appliance!
2006-12-15 04:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well give him a break, maybe it was a brain fart moment or something but the thought is absolutley wonderful and he was thinking of you. AND maybe he has already had it sent away for white gold plating or something. Maybe he is just leaving a receipt in his pocket like that to fool you. Is it possible the ring is for someone else? Or is it definitly an engagment ring?
2006-12-15 04:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just accept his gift with a gracious heart? And you don't 100% know the ring is yellow gold....just because it says that on the receipt doesn't mean it's so. I've gotten receipts all the time say something that isn't what I bought.
2006-12-15 04:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it could be he didnt have enough money or the rings in white gold he didnt feel looked very appealing, maybe he liked the cut of that particular dimond more than the others, don't worry, just get it reset in white gold or silver wear it and carry on with life. hey, he might even give it to you reset in white gold! you could always bring it up in a rather flirty way or something.
2006-12-15 04:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by Eurale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not for you - could be he was helping a pal and the receipt is a sheer coincidence. Never get angry or curious until you have all the facts. If you really want to know - show him the receipt and ask if it is for you ask him now to return it for a white gold before you've seen it so your delight will be genuine. Good Luck!
2006-12-15 04:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the type of ring he got for you was not available in white gold and will probably tell you that when you open the gift. What really matters is the thought of him getting you the ring and show his love and affection for you.
2006-12-15 04:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your idea is right on. Be happy on Christmas Day, then gently ask if you can have it dipped in white gold to match your wedding band. I think its tacky to wear white gold and yellow gold together... but that's just my opinion.
2006-12-15 04:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it means anything other than he is a guy. He meant well, but who knows what he was thinking at the time?
Your idea is a good way to handle it.
My husband, of 29 years, was looking at leather jackets for himself this week. I walked in and said, "I'd love to have a leather jacket." He responded, "I didn't know you'd like to have a leather jacket. When did you start liking them?" I must have given him an odd look because a light came on in his eyes and he said, "Oh...yeah, you have marked leather jackets in catalogues for a while, haven't you?" We both laughed. Then he asked me what sort I like. LOL
If he remembers, next year there is a chance I'll have a leather jacket under the tree next year (then again, my birthday is in March...).
Clueless., but I love him and wouldn't trade him for the world. ; )
2006-12-15 04:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by tantiemeg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I REALLY hope on Christmas morning YOU open a ring of yellow gold!!!
2006-12-15 04:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, he was thinking alot of you to buy you a nice ring. just be appreciative. Maybe he liked it and wants to see you wear it. If you say something it may hurt his feelings and he won't buy you any more surprises
2006-12-15 04:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by Tonya M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋