pregnant and feel alone?

Question

ever since i found out i was pregnant(i'm 6 weeks) i found out just over a week ago, my boyfriend and i have been fighting constantly. about really stupid things that don't even matter. but i've cried over it(hormones-blah) anyway, it just really sucks..i thought i would have a lot of support from him but our relationship is just getting me down..but i can't raise this baby on my own. maybe i'm just thinking to much into it. i'm sure we'll get over it..i hope so *sigh* i'm not really asking anything..just venting

Answer 1

relax, enjoy the best,leave the rest.

Answer 2

Ok, relax, breathe and take a deep breath.

1. Think about nutrition. You need pre-natal vitimins and a great diet of protein, calcium, lots of fruit and vegetables. You need 8-10 hours of sleep every night.
Without that, you will exhibit the signs that you're already showing.
So, try to concentrate on taking care of yourself.
2. Try to talk to your family and friends and (again take care of yourself) so no one has to worry that you're not healthy.
3. Try to talk to a pastor, priest or minister for counseling. It may help to hear the Blessings part of your wonderful experience.
4. Try to get the best ob/gyn and talk to those nurses and staff about what you need to do to relax and stop the stress.
5. This condition is temporary however the results are for the rest of your life. You are becoming a mother and that is such a noble worthwhile job. Sometimes it's thankless but think of all of the mothers who influenced your life. Some became teachers and some became doctors.
6. Stop saying what you can or cannot do. That's all of nothing thinking and will be of no use to you.
7. Think of what you can do this weekend, and each week to have a gratitude lesson by listing 3 things that you are grateful for each day. This will put you in the right frame of mind.
8. Smile, and practice smiling, yes a big smile everytime you pass a mirror. You are submitting control of your body to mother nature, and the experience is over so fast. Remember a man never gets to have this experience, so share your happy thoughts with him.
He's carrying a burden too, and he's not sure what's happening. So allow him to be scared. It's a major change, and will last a lifetime.
9. Remember to love yourself, and then you will pass this love on to others.
10. Spriritual growth is important, and ask GOD for anything, as GOD loves challenges. Remember the only thing GOD can't do is fail. We fail, but GOD can't fail.

11. Remember a "MOTHER" is forever.

GOD bless. (Blessings, mine just turned 17)

Answer 3

Well vent away baby. Now if you really want like somewhere to talk to people I know that babycenter.com has a board that I used to belong to it goes according to when you are due and you can talk and vent to people who are due around the same time. Some of the girls from my board actually lived in the same city and got together to do things. You should check it out. Please don't take what I just said in a wrong way I mean what I say with the best intentions in my heart.

Answer 4

Just finding out that you are pregnant, prepared or not, will cause some fighting b/c the baby and how your life will change are in the forefront of your mind. Dont' sweat the small stuff, you guys will be fine. It just takes a little getting used too, plus your hormones are raging and that changes things too!!

Answer 5

It's just your hormones...I know it can be a lot of stress...but don't take things out on him...this is both of your "problem" ( didn't want to use this word, but couldn't think of another ). You both need to be there for each other in order to be there for the baby! Go sit in a warm tub with some ice cream and it will be all better!

Answer 6

its okay. Me and my boyfriend did that too. He didnt like lamaze...and even fell asleep once, it made me really depressed...I wanted us to be like a perfect little family... where he would rub my belly, and talk to it and stuff... but he was not into any of that, but the day the baby got there it was different. I guess it didnt actually seem real until i was pushing. Guys are just wierd, he might be stressed, or scared? If you dont have friends with babies, then you can join a little mothers group... or just hang out with your friends, it will get better soon.

Answer 7

Talk to him and tell him how you feel and find out what he's feeling. He's probably scared, too. You guys either need to get on the same page or you need to consider leaving him. The relationship isn't going to get better once the baby comes, you know. You don't need that kind of stress right now. Good luck.

Answer 8

the stress of having a baby on the way will throw your relationship for a loop.
sit him down with out distractions-- no tv, food, anything-- and say hey our relationship is really important to me, baby or no baby. i want us to get stronger because of this, not fall apart. what can we do?
and suggest maybe taking a weekend together to refresh your relationship and remember all the reasons you guys are together in the first place.
doing nice things for him, even if you don't feel like he deserves it because he's making you upset or whatever, will remind yourself of why you love him as well as help him see he's still important to you.
your relationship needs a lot of nurturing right now, and even more after the baby comes.
you're in love with him. remember that, you know?

Answer 9

Join a local mommy group or La Leche League.

Get the support of other moms to help you sort through what is a real problem, and what is hormones.

Also many times there is free counselling available to pregnant women, you may want to take advantage of that. (And I mean *acutal* counselling not what to do about the baby counselling)

Answer 10

My hubby and I were fighting all the time too but just once breathe deeply and take a step back and you'll see your just an emotional rollercoaster and your'll realize it. There is nothing you can do that's how pregnancy is, just try to be more concious of it and not explode at your man.

Answer 11

talk to him and tell him how u feel---alot of times because our mood changes we tend to get irritated over little things. try to talk to him and think of this as a huge blessing from God---children are beautiful and ur lucky that u can even get pregnant.......If things dont work out with him dont worry about it-----u will always have urbaby and ur baby needs you so dont stress...hope all gets better for you.