he has always been really nice to me, and he seems like he is nice to everyone, but this girl just told me he was a toltal jerk and beat up his sister, and I don't want to ask him if it's true, and I don't want to believe her either. What should I do?
2006-12-15 04:07:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Find out the truth NOW! I spent 10 years of my life in an abusive marriage and I wouldn't want to see anyone else go through what I went through. There are so many nice and respectful men out there now that you DON'T HAVE TO SETTLE!!!! I am with someone now that treats me like a queen and is so good to me and would NEVER think of hurting me in any way!
Life is too short sweetie to be with someone that abuses anyone!
2006-12-15 04:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by TTC Cycle#20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is better for you to watch out for your own safety. I would stay away from this guy until you have positive proof he isn't abusive. Taking care that he doesn't beat you up is most important right now. See if you can talk to his sister. She can tell you if he really beat her up or not. If he did beat her up, ask the sister to report it to the police so he can be arrested for assaulting her. That way he will not be able to do it again. The abusers always are sorry and nice after they have abused someone, then they go off again and repeat the abuse. This guy sounds like he needs professional help and if he doesn't get it, he will abuse again and again and again. You should keep clear of him until whatever doubts you have either are released or are confirmed.
2006-12-15 12:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who told you that? How would they know? Is that person trustworthy? I'd seriously look into this, as I once had a boyfriend that I heard hit his mom. I didn't believe it, only to have him hit me one day. I'm smart and said good bye, but I wish I had listened when I heard that he hit his mom.
Anyway, try asking his sister also. Call the house and if she picks up ask her. Or go for a visit, and snag a few minutes alone with her. I think this is a very important thing to follow up on. You could go down a road that you would have preferred to steer clear of. Good Luck!
2006-12-15 12:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends. Siblings fight, but you never know how serious the situation might have been. I say keep quiet for a couple months and see how he acts. If he is grumpy a lot, he may have an anger problem. I would say a year is enough time to really get to know someone.
2006-12-15 12:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Karma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him about it? And yea, lol...sometimes sisters tend to be fair game for bullying. I have 15+ brothers. Its ok for them to do it to us, but not for another man to touch us. Question him about possibly abusive past relationships too. Ask the sister. Follow ur gut.
2006-12-15 12:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by bbygirl529 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is just wait, but that's not extremly safe. He might not be the person you think, but because you have no proof don't ruin your relationship over someone else "he said she said".
Good Luck
2006-12-15 12:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by sadiebabe81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go by how he treats you, not how others say he treated someone else. If he treats you good then he most likely treats others the same way,if how ever he begins abusing you then get out.
2006-12-15 12:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by fatpeople_atemy_family 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should have said how long you are together, would help more to answear your question, but usally abusive most always abusive, I could be wrong but be careful
2006-12-15 12:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by sidekick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes sisters need to be beaten up
2006-12-15 12:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by stinkypinky 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋