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I have an aunt who fits in the category of someone I love, but don't like much. I've never liked her, and neither does my brother. When he was a toddler he actually blurted it out because he didn't want to sit beside her. Everyone else seems to find her so sweet and thoughtful, but I think she's affected and manipulative. She tries too hard...she'll pull me into the corner and ask me to give her my special prayer requests. I feel she only does it because she's needy rather than really wanting to reach out. When someone confronts her about something, she will just chuckle like it's funny and not let it touch her instead of giving it serious consideration. Am I the cynic or do you think my baby brother was right?

2006-12-15 04:04:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Yes that is why kids never get stolen or kidnapped from their parents because they are such good judges of characters they know exactly who to avoid. That is why as parents you don't even need to tell your kids not to take candy from strangers they will only take candy from safe strangers since they are such good judges of character.

2006-12-15 04:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Yes. But your situation has changed. You and your brother have grown. Try to find something good about her. And try to forgive her. Was she abusive to you or your brother when younger? Or do you see the superficial side of her only. Maybe she has things going on you don't know about. If she doesn't like herself how can she like anyone else right? No. Look for the beauty she holds. Everyone has beauty to hold. May need a little help to develop and show it. Am sure your mom and dad would appreciate your effort. You will be glad you did. Good luck.

2006-12-15 04:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1 0

Your baby brother may NOT have been right, but collectively you and he have observed characteristic annoyances that have given you deep rooted feelings toward your aunt enough so that you’ve asked a question here. Your “feelings” seem to be based on observation more than intuition. If the characteristics your aunt has annoy you and you have confronted her about them and there is no change in her conduct, then you need to avoid her as much as you can. If she invites you to the corner, just say “God has answered my prayers” and let it go at that.

2006-12-15 04:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

They posess no special insight nor judging skills. They merely react to simple stimuli like body language.

Animals look for whether the person/object is threatening. Children are only moved by fear...if something about the person/object evokes primal fear (body language, appearance, voice, etc.) then they react.

This is why kids can be abducted...the abductor lures them with niceness and manipulative smiles. If kids were a truly good judge of character they couldn't be lured. If animals were truly a good judge of character, they couldn't be stolen or caught by the dog catcher.

2006-12-15 04:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by none 2 · 1 0

No...kids and animals are too naive, trusting and forgiving. Often a child may chose to go with an abusive parent instead of the other because they are looking for acceptance. They don't really understand acceptance much but do identify with it to a certain degree. Growing up, I thought my aunt was a total b!#$%. As an adult, I realize sarcasm and her cantankerous demeanor are just portrayed qualities.

2006-12-15 04:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by bugguy 2 · 2 0

Not always. This is more of a myth than a fact. Remember some hardened gang members who rape, murder, vandalize property, and intimidate honest people often get along very well with animals and some little children. So I wouldn't place too much weight on the "child and animal" character detector theory.

2006-12-15 04:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Curious 6 · 0 0

I think animals and small children have very good instincts. They have to, because they know that the world isn't really 100% safe for them and they need to be wary. Sometimes they can be wrong, but on the whole, I think their instincts are better than grown-ups.

Adults try and over-think certain things and make excuses for people's behavior.

I know hubby's family didn't accept me until the dogs and the babies all decided I was okay.

2006-12-15 04:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0 0

Yes, because when you are child you see stuff clearly than adults. Children and dogs have great intuition about people. They sense evil in some people. I wouldn't use this as a tool to get through life. She is your aunt and you can't exchange blood. She's family and you are stuck with her for life but you don't have to be around her.

2006-12-15 04:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by Gail S 2 · 0 0

Yes I believe for some unknown reason it's true. My aunt has a husband that no one likes everytime the crook picks up my son he would cry none stop and my daughter would run away.

Also my daughter is so wicked and always up to no good every time we go by someone who has a dog the dog would run away from her. And for good reason too she hugs and chokes them like they were humans. :-)

2006-12-15 04:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by seandel g 2 · 0 0

Animals have a six sense when it comes to judging a person, for Instance, a dog knows when you fear them.

Kids are great judges of character. Kids really don't know any wrong until they grow older, they base their feelings on what they feel solely, without any intended harm.

2006-12-15 04:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by law-inspired 3 · 0 0

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