im 18 and i really like this girl and she says that she loves me.
2006-12-15 03:48:16 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Does jail sound like fun? If you answered yes thengo ahead. By the way didn't I see you on dateline?
2006-12-15 03:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of "statutory rape"? The federal government says a female does not have the legal consent to have sex (and dont act like yall wont be) until she is 17. Do you want to risk your freedom for a 14 year old? That is a felony crime-day for day-in the federal penitentiary. Then when you come out you have to register as a sex offender. How will that help you when you are looking for a career and not just a job?
Then your second thought...pregnancy. What happens if you get her pregnant? Your life is on track, hers is just starting. Do you want to be partly responsible for giving a baby a baby? Are you going to stick around to be a father and handle your part of raising the child? Do you still live at home with your parents because she does and yall would be bringing an extra mouth to feed into both of your parents' home because you did not use some 18 year old maturity? Do you plan on going to college? Do you have a job that will be able to pay for diapers and formula, clothes, medicines and such? Do you have a personal life because once the baby comes you wont and you cant leave it up to her to care for the child all of the time.
Please find someone your own age. You have nothing in common with a 14 year old. Other than sex and music. Unless you make this choice and then immaturity is another common ground for you both.
2006-12-15 03:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say no. Some 14 year olds can be very mature. And of course when I say date I don't mean sex. At all. No touching etc etc. I'm not trying to be a racist here but americans (i'm talking in general..there are few exceptions) always seem to associate date with sex. I'm from a different background and lifestyle where sex is not everything. Contary to popular belief, you can fall in love at 14. That is depending on the maturity of the girl.
On the other hand you as the guy and the older one should be prepared to be the 'grown up' meaning knowing when to put a stop to things. Although I have lots of doubts on that part. (Sorry but i tend to be cynical when it comes to guys) So i think thats bout it. The both of you would have to be responsible enough to handle stuff.
Oh and someone asked what can a 18 yr old & a 14 yr have in common? Plenty especially if the girl is matured. Guys mature slower. And that is a biological fact.
2006-12-17 09:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by Brie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very wrong, as one person said, she is 14, she doesn't know what love is, and how can an 18 year old relate to a 14 year old? in the Adult world that is a minor age difference, but in the adolscent world, that is a huge developmental gap. 14 year old girls are prone to this, fairy tales, and all the dreams of being in love.
Just remember, I don't know your states laws, in some this would be illegal already, in others, on your next birthday it would be illegal. So, the biggest question, since your 18 and would be charged as an adult, is it worth having hte parents file rape charges and going to jail for a sex crime? Even if you didn't actually do something bad?
The girl will always win, and it is illegal so you have nothing to stand on legally, think about spending the rest of your life as a sex offender and having to register as one everywhere you move... Your picture will be publicly available for everyone to see, as a sex offender.. and no, they don't say that you dated a 14 year old, they just say sexual offense.. your life is ruined.
Think about the reprocussions, and don't say, oh her parents don't mind, it doesn't take just a parent to go to the police.
2006-12-15 03:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not wrong when i was 14 i dated a guy that was 18 and my parents knew about it also when i was 15 i dated a guy that was 20 and another that was 19 im 16 now and im dating this guy that is 16 too i see nothing wrong with u dating a 14 year old
2006-12-15 07:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong.
After you're *both* adults, a 4-year difference is no big deal. But right now, you're officially an adult, and she's barely a teenager. At her age, she doesn't have enough experience to make adult decisions. You do -- which is why you should make the adult decision not to pursue this. If you two are really good together, then waiting 4 years until she's an adult will be no big deal -- you've got your whole lives ahead of you. But don't make a huge mistake with such a young girl -- a mistake that could end you in jail, by the way.
I can't believe her parents allow her to date an 18-year old...are you two sneaking around behind their backs? How adult is that?
2006-12-15 03:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 14 and i have been dating an 18 year old for the past 7 months.I know that not many people will believe me when i say this but we are very much in love.
My advice to you is only start a relationship with her if you are NOT going to use her for sex(for obvious reasons)
And also is SHE ready for a relationship with an adult?(Is she mature enough)
Are you in LOVE with her or is it just lust?
These are just a couple of questions that i think you need to ask yourself before you make a move.
If the answer was yes to the above two questions and if you do not want to use her for sex then i say go for it!!!
Good luck
Oh...and if you do begin a relationship with this chick you will be critised by alot of people.Believe me i know.JUST DON'T LISTEN TO THEM!!!
2006-12-17 20:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Bootsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was 14 i fell in love with this really nice 18 year old guy...i told him i loved him and he never said it back and it hurt...now im turning 16. I do not think its wrong to date a 14 year old girl but if u dont treat her right it could change her so be careful and dont rush her into anything especially sex...make sure she's ready first. AND DONT LISTEN TO THESE OTHER PEOPLE...SHE PROBABLY KNOWS WHAT LOVE IS AND SHE PROBABLY DOES LOVE U IF SHE TOLD U THAT.
2006-12-16 03:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 27 by now, since I was 13 I dated older boys that were your age or older and they always respected me, i never had sex with any of them, i started my sexual life after i was 20, and i felt i really loved some of them. I still remember them in a very nice and special way. I think if your feelings are true and healthy there's nothing wrong in dating her, just be respectful, kind and don't try to rush things that are not yet for her age and that will be a nice relationship.
2006-12-17 08:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by MAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. Not only from a maturity standpoint but also from a legal standpoint. If the two of you were to become sexually involved that is considered statutory rape and you could go to jail. She is just starting High School and you are just getting out of high school. Give it a few years and if the attraction is still there then pursue it. But for the time being I would not entertain the idea of dating her. You could be asking for trouble. Especially if her parents were to find out
2006-12-15 03:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by CHOCOLATE_SCORP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man. It's your life, do whatever you wish with it. You don't need our help in deciding what you want. Now, I went out with a 14 year old girl when I was 19. We went out for almost two years. I didn't have sex with until she was ready to. That's my biggest rule when dating both teens and girls over 18. Good luck and have fun.
2006-12-15 10:09:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋