2006-12-15 03:46:10 · 66 answers · asked by kacey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not everyone does. It's a case of thinking the grass is greener on the other side. Those people have got issues with themselves and respect for other people. By the way, you look totally gorgeous in your pic :o) xx
2006-12-15 03:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Brigante 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think love, true love, is w/o conditions. That being said someone can truly love you and cheat (sleep w/ someone else). The cheating is physical only. Believe me I'm not saying it's right and that it doesn't hurt the person who has been cheated on but I truly feel that person can still love you b/c love transcends the physical. The truth is though is that if someone truly loves you they should know that getting w/ someone else would hurt you if you found out and so they either shouldn't do it in the first place or they should at least be honest and up front and let you know that they would like to have sex outside of the relationship. I know this is probably not what you want to hear but it is the truth as I know it.
2006-12-15 03:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Twinki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a crappy thing, but sometimes it's because they feel pressure or smothered in the relationship they are in.
Sometimes they're just screwballs that don't have a heart.
Sometimes they just fall into it. Like become friends with someone at work & gradually find they are really attracted to one another & they're not sure how to handle it.
Some people just don't think about the CONSEQUENCES.
Some people have no morals whatsoever.
Sometimes it can be drug or alcohol induced. This effects their mind & they don't make clear choices for themselves.
Regardless of the reason, it happens & majority of the time the reason lies within the relationship itself. What kind of problems are you having as a couple? Still it's not to say that it is ONE person's fault especially when it's the NON-cheater. It's still the person's responsibility to make the right decision that cheats & they can't blame the other totally for their choice.
2006-12-15 03:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jaysangl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish I had an answer for you. I am currently in the same situation. My husband of 16 years, and few months ago cheated with one of his co-workers. they spoke for several months, then he decided that it was really over, because I pushed him around a little harder than I should have. But, I still think that something is going on, though he says no. Not one person was put on this earth to be treated with disrespect, and that is exactly what is happening with you and I. I received some good advice from some other readers. It is all in how much any one person can take. If you can get over it and go on, that is great. If you can't then it is time to get out and go on, I have chosen to keep my marriage, and hopefully someday I will be able to have 100% trust.
2006-12-15 04:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love comes in many forms. A person can love you and not be in love with you. Then others love you and want you in their life, but they are not in love with you and want to be with someone else. Still keeping you in their life as a friend, they just don't know how to go about doing that without hurting you. When someone cheats it is the worse pain to feel. You don't understand why they did it if they love you SO much, and you can't get over the fact that they did it either, when you would never have done that to them. I hope you and him get pass this, and you find a love that loves you and is loyal to you. Merry Christmas and Blessed be.............
2006-12-15 03:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are different levels of Love and the kind they have for their spouse isn't the lasting kind of Love for a Soulmate but the kind that fades into nothingness when the real thing cmes into their lives. This comment is only for the true ones who have a heart. The other ones who say they love their spouse and CHEAT and with more than one outside person , to me they need their private parts castrated or the other stitched up. Thats for the ones that just have SEX and NOT LOVE. Understand????
2006-12-15 03:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by CryBaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it isn't love that they actually feel, they just get lust mixed up with love & say what they think they're feeling....then a little further down the road they see someone else that they can't wait to get into bed & so the cycle continues...they think they're in love all over again...Don't worry Babe, they either grow up or have to be treated for Syphilis before they reach the age of 35...
2006-12-15 06:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because people always have that "the grass is greeener on the other side" mentality. Cheating is something that usually happens on the spur of the moment and hormones tend to take over where the brain should be. People don't realize that it hurts the other person so badly because they aren't thinking of that at the time.
2006-12-15 03:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by TTC Cycle#20 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because love and sexual desire are two different things. It is entirely possible to love someone and still want to cheat. That's human nature. Being a mature, responsible adult in a monogamous relationship requires however that you do not act on these urges.
2006-12-15 03:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because a lot of people don't see commitment as a part of love. It's sad to see how many people don't feel any sense of loyalty anymore and don't stop to think how much pain it will cause the other person if they find out. Not to mention, they seem to forget that its dangerous out there these days!
2006-12-15 03:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by justcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋