I have trouble understanding why as she always looks beautiful and dresses well in my eyes. It's starting to become an issue in our relationship as her mood is constantly up and down. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this?
2006-12-15 03:17:53 · 46 answers · asked by Ben G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She may suffer from depression. If her lows are very low and it's affecting her work or your marriage, you may want to have her talk with a doctor. There are different prescriptions that may help. An alternative to drugs would be to talk to a therapist. Talking out her issues/insecurities with a professional may help her deal with them.
If you don't think she's suffering from depression, but is only concerned with her body image, take steps to help her improve it. If she's over weight, arrange for her to talk to a nutritionist and set up a diet that she (or both of you) can live with. Start taking daily walks together; that will help burn fat and also give you quality time together while showing her you support her.
If she has body issues other than weight, consider the possibilities of plastic surgery. If that's not an option, maybe you can set her up an appointment with a stylist that can show her what styles of clothes would flatter her figure most.
Good luck. I hope you're able to get her feeling better about herself soon. And always tell her how beautiful she is in your eyes. Even if she decides to lose weight or make cosmetic changes, etc, remember to tell her she's always been beautiful to you and you'll love her no matter what.
2006-12-15 03:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by bryndilulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a loving husband, I would expect you to think your wife is as beautiful as ever and you should keep telling her but maybe you should ask her why she's feeling the way she is. I know when I was in a long term relationship I started putting on a lot of weight and although my boyfriends always told me how beautiful and sexy I was, I didn't see it.
Eventually I made a commitment to get healthy and now I feel great. If weight or health isn't the problem she may need some kind of counseling. Maybe she's having a mid-life crisis, or some kind of depression over something that you have no idea about. Just be as supportive as you can!
2006-12-15 03:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by niknac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find out where this has extended from! Has she a bullying superior at work or perhaps there is a click at work that she would like to be a part of!
I am assuming as you are writing this that you have nothing to do with it and you are always complementary to how she looks and dresses.
Just be there for her and everyday you need to complement her on everything she does, sometimes a little unexpected cuddle or a squeeze when she is least expecting it goes a long way!
She needs to know that she is yours and you would do anything for her, that also means hearing the truth from her about her underlying issue.
The very best of luck to you!
2006-12-15 03:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. She is asking you to compliment her when she says stuff like that. You need to tell her she is still beautiful in your eyes and always will be. You might offer her money to go shopping for new clothes, or buy her a gift certifcate to a spa for a facial, massage, whatever, for Christmas, too. You didn't say how old your wife is. If she is going through menopause, that is why she's having mood swings. It will pass. Maybe she needs to see the doctor for the right medication. If she is too young for that, then maybe there's another problem....PMS? Bipolar disorder? I don't know. You have to figure it out and help her through this. Good luck.
2006-12-15 03:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my wife has the same problems. It's like riding a roller coaster. It's cycles every month. I have tried everything - - flowers, communication, counseling, and love. Nothing works. It's partly due to being not happy with her physical body but it's not the entire problem. I suggest changing the bathroom bulbs to Halogen - - it's a better lighting for vitamin E. Some women just choose to be unhappy all their lives. Just enjoy when it is up and leave her alone when it's not.
2006-12-15 03:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Neo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 08:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way she feels about her appearance is just a bi-product of what is really going on fro her. I feel unworthy because I have no job and don't interact with many people. To feel good about ones self these are important factors. Also check out the web link. It was that you said her mood is up and down that made me think this.
2006-12-15 03:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by JAM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a lot of factors. Has she been to the Dr? Is she pregnant? Is there a need for antidepressant drugs? Could she have a hormonal imbalance? All of these things will leave her feeling helpless and it's not her fault at all. Stand by her side just as you've been doing, imagine how she feels not being able to control her own thoughts, she needs you to be her rock right now until she figures out how to stand on her own.
2006-12-15 03:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by razor_sharp_redhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be one of three things:
1) Self-esteem. She has confidence issues with the way she looks. Go out of your way to make sure she feels beautiful and that she knows you love the way she looks.
2) Depression. Could be caused by many things, ranging from hormones to brain chemistry. She should see a therapist to decern how to proceed with treating it.
3) GID (Gender Identity Disorder). This is a life-long condition which causes severe emotional distress. The core problem is that she feels that her body is not correct in terms of gender. As a person with GID gets older, the condition and corrisponding depression worsens. Many people with GID are not aware of it until they soul-search for a solution to their depression. A specialized Gender Therapist should be sought out so that she can recieve the proper counciling and decern the severity of her GID, and thus figure out how to proceed.
I hope for both of your sakes that it is not the third reason... That is a hard life to live.
2006-12-15 03:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be supportive and let her know you think she's beautiful. Some women are just like that and you're not going to be able to convince her otherwise. Just chalk it up to one of her quirks and know that she's got some serious self esteem issues.
I would let her know that the mood swings are starting to take a toll and that you're willing to help her out as far as finding a solution. That way, she gets the hint that it's unacceptable and you're not going to put up with it.
2006-12-15 03:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by Stacey K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋