how to deal with a negative minded person?

Answer 1

You cannot fight their negativity, but try to reason them to soemthing more positive.

Answer 2

I used to be a very negative minded person,full of self pity, (I had a series of berevements)it took 7 years to come to terms with my loses, my daughter dealt with it this way. Last Christmas her partner started an argument which upset me greatly, going on how negative I was, I came home devastated, phoned them and told them what I thought of them, however it DID make me think so I bought some self help books and cds and a year on I feel fantastic, am more positive, my self confidence is back, have overcome many obstacles and fears, why, I'm even taking swimming lessons, the sad thing is my daughter still has not spoken for a year and I miss her and grandson terribly, all because I was negative, if you have to tell someone they're negative do it gently, be honest, or perhaps buy a book and suggest they read it.whatever you do don't fall out, life's too short.
I have written many times to my daughter but an email said she no longer wanted me in her life, she has not seen the new me.

Answer 3

They may not be a bad person, after all... they could be depressed, have bipolar disorder, OCD, PTSD, or a myriad of other heath, (even non-mental health related) conditions that cause a rather pessimistic attitude.

People who say just to blow them off are heartless, and obviously do not understand that "negative" people are often that way for a reason.

Even if the person doesn't know of a medical condition, something could be there. So... be lucky that you know this person, tomorrow you could not.

Edited to add: My answer...
Be there for them when you can. Be stronger for yourself when you cannot. If you feel as though it is getting to be too much, consider speaking with them as to "what is going on.. you feel so down today." Don't blame them, don't threaten them, just let them feel comfortable talking to you.

If it's nothing, it's nothing.

Again, since it could be a medical, rather than psychological condition, the person could not even know why. I would strongly recommend a physical.

Answer 4

Ignore them. Negativity breeds negativity, and it is SO easy to get sucked into that thought pattern.

It starts simply enough - one person complaining about having to wait in long lines at the store, or how bad traffic was. Next thing you know, people are complaining about how the coffee's too strong, work is too hard, everyone's mean - it all goes downhill from there.

When it's unavoidable to ignore the person, try to find a way to shush them and change the subject. If they're complaining about how poorly people drive, simply say something like "Yes, it can be dangerous out there. But I'm glad you got here in one piece!" and then change the subject.

Answer 5

You have to turn everything into a positive learning experience and don't let it get you down. It depends on your relationship to the person; if it is a spouse or significant other, you need to ask yourself if you want to continue to be emotionally drained.

if it is a family member, then you need to be upbeat and as positve as you can. It happens to the best of us !

Answer 6

ELIMINATION !!

I eliminate OR limit time spent with idiots of this type. Life is too good to waste valuable time on those who find nothing but fault in everyday life.

Looks like most here simply IGNORE. But that is certainly easier said than done IF you must be in the presence of such people. That is why I eliminate them all together. Yes, something also easier said than done for most people.

Good luck !

Answer 7

Be yourself....don't let other people's behavior or actions affect how you act and/ or respond to situations. For some reason negativity is contagious!

Answer 8

It is difficult because their negativity wears you out. Just remember that it is THEIR problem, not yours. Don't try to cheer them up, don't try to get them to see the bright side of things. Let them keep their attitude, and just block it from yourself.

Answer 9

They are suffering inside. You should practice the 4 Noble Truths and The Eightfold Noble Path to help them end their sufferings. Your life through this practice will change how they think, perceive life, speak and how they behave.

Answer 10

Give him examples of persons who had to face a lot of problems in their life before getting success eg;Mr amitabh Bachan ,the famous filmstar, had to face a lot of criticism before getting success,but now the same people are his fans.Nothing in this world is for free, for achieving successs we have to do struggle.Everybody in this world do lot of hard work to succeed and everyone has to face a backforce ie struggle.only those people are able to succeed those who are having +ve attitude because they are having a special power of facing struggle.Tell him that -ve people loose their ability to struggle and are unable to achieve success.

Answer 11

I call that type of person an emotional vampire.... they will suck out all your positive energy. Very toxic, and contact should be kept to a minimum, and only when you are feeling grounded.