I think I want a divorce how do I make the right decision?

Answer 1

you need to weigh the good and bad about your marriage and then make a logical decision

Answer 2

You first need to ask yourself, why it is you want a divorce. Did he do something so terrible (like cheat on you) that would warrant a divorce? Is he detached from you the marriage and your children (if you have any)? Will you be better off without him should you go through with a divorce or do you think that later on down the road you may regret your decision. Have you spoken to him about the problems which led to this idea. Or are you contemplating a divorce because you see it as an easy way out or because others you know are doing it? You really need to consider all the reasons that would justify getting a divorce before you proceed with one. I would suggest that you guys communicate with each other, try to find out what or who it is that changed and seek to find reasonable solutions to the problem.

Answer 3

I'm NO EXPERT! I just think anyone wanting a divorce needs to actually sit down with thier husband/wife... and TALK! Talk things through thoroughly... and if they don't want to talk... then where's the communication? right? that definately hurts when there's no communication, and I see ur point if that's one of the probs in the relationship... but I do believe we need more DETAILS? is there something that turns you off? Did he do something ? ... What's exactly on ur mind making you think you want a divorce? Get back to me! :)

* YES.. if u want to go see a therapist/or a close best friend! - talk the situation out ... it usually helps you to better understand where you want to go in your relationship! When I talk it out I dig further into the situation and realize what I truelly want/believe.

Answer 4

I've always waited till I KNEW w/out a doubt I wanted the divorce before I made the decision. It usually boiled down to the # of pros to leaving being higher than the # of cons.

Answer 5

Theres is no special test that you can take to see if you should stay or go, but if youre being abused and just arent happy being married anymore then it might be time to move on. But none of us can tell you if youre making the right move or not, thats strictly up to you since youre the one who has to live with the decision. Just decide if youre better with or without him. Good luck and Merry Christmas

Answer 6

Speaking as one who claims not to be any more of an expert on marriage than yourself I defer to the ones who seem to be pretty good at it.

The wisest statement I've ever heard mentioned by a male on the subject of marriage was by Billy Graham on the Oprah show, who proclaimed "he and his wife had recently celebrated 50 years of blissfull incompatibility..."

Although I have only been married for 11 years, this answer seems to be key. It seems too often either the male of female are waiting for the other partner to start thinking and communicating correctly (same as them) before a connection can be formed, which is backwards. It seems pretty clear in order for marriage to work one must learn to speak the others language first and then learn to celebrate one anothers difference.

Give it your best effort before making any decision, and speaking on behalf of all men everywhere, yes we are truly that clueless talk to us first. Good luck!

Answer 7

You may want to be more detailed!Why do you want a Divorce?Are you being abused in any kind of way?Did one of you commit infidelity?Do one of you think the grass is greener on the other side? How long have you two been married?I really can't answer your question,but weigh your options.Ask yourself do you deserve better or is that the way you want to live your life! I wish I could be a better ad visor!

Answer 8

Hey...Has he cheated on you? Does he beat you? If the answers to those questions are no, then why would you not want to be with him. Remember, when you said "i do" it was suppose to be meant forever. Work it out...thats what marriage is all about. When you get married you are suppose to make sacrafices and you are suppose to compromise. I don't understand what is the point of marrying somebody is you didn't love them til death "do us part". But unless he cheated on you or beats or maybe doesnt want a family, then there really is no justice in getting a divorce...in the eyes of God I believe.

Answer 9

You'll make the right decision when you aren't asking anyone what to do. You'll have this inner peace with the decision you make and you won't need anyone to reassure you that what you're about to do is the right thing. Listen to your inner voice. Once you've made your mind up, you'll be free from the agonizing decision as to what to do. Relate it to something else you've done in your life, that you just did, you didn't ask anyone what to do. Yet once you did it, it felt right.

Answer 10

Young people today quit on marriage way too soon in my estimation. Marriage is supposed to last forever. You take VOWS to stay together through thick and thin. So, unless HE has broken his vows, you need to hold to yours. If he has cheated on you, beaten you, been verbally abusive or controlling (that's not cherishing), or commited a crime, you need to give this marriage a chance. Go to a counselor and talk it out. Get him to go, too, if you can, but go alone if he won't go. The right decision is to stay with this guy you loved enough to marry, unless he's already broken the vows and you can't live with that.

Answer 11

There's no easy way. I'd say though if you have some serious doubts, then don't do anything. If you think you want to try and save the marriage, then I'd highly reccommend counseling. Maybe you need to talk to a therapist anyway, and get that impartial 3rd party view. Don't ask your friends or family, they're not going to be impartial. Best of luck to you.