i am 1 month pregnant and my bf thinks that i should have an abortion the thing is that i dnt believe in that i think that it is wrong well i am not having one and he is mad i am 15 and scared myself what should i do
2006-12-15 02:48:41 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You know whats best! Don't listen to him, if he's mad thats just a sign of his immaturity and that you don't need him around you right now. You need to surround yourself with people who will support you not make you question what you know is best for you and your growing baby. Just tell him you aren't going to even consider it 'cause its wrong and 2 wrongs wont make things right. I got preg at 17 and got through and am a better person for sticking with the pregnancy (abortion was never an option for me either) I just had to stay strong and close to family and God! You have hard days ahead of you whether or not you keep your baby or bless a couple with your child, but you will make it, just take one day at a time. Good luck and if you ever just want to talk or need anything feel free to get in touch with me. I'll be keeping you and your baby in my prayers!
PS there are many options as far as what you can do...there are homes that you can live at that will help you with medical care for you and the baby, help you finish school, and give you the support of counseling and meeting other girls that are in your same shoes. (and they arent going to "brainwash" you to tell you what to do with the baby, they just give you physical and emotional support) Just explore your options and try not to worry about your boyfriend, he's just as scared as you probably are but without the same convictions!
2006-12-15 03:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by Imlovinmyhubby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being a JERK!! Get rid of him first off. Then get all the information on raising a child and adoptions. There are many people that would love and provide for your baby. If your parents are okay with helping you for a while then keep the baby and finish school. You can raise a baby and go to school. It will be hard but you can do it. Just think that the baby you are carrying inside of you is as innocent as can be. This baby deserves a chance at life and should be given the gift of life. You should like you are a very smart girl that just made one bad choice. Go to the planned parenthood clinic and ask about information on adoption and think long and hard about everything. This will be a life long decision that you are making. DO NOT LET ANYONE (not even your parents) talk you into something that you feel isn't right. You can do this. Keep your head held high and stay positive about everything. God Bless and believe in your self!
2006-12-15 03:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that abortion is probably not the best option. At 15 though, you have to seriously consider whether or not you can raise this baby as your own or if it would be best to put the baby up for adoption. I'm 23 now and one of my friends in high school became pregnant when she was 16 and she put the child up for adoption. She still keeps in contact with the family and occasionally can actually go to see her daughter. As to whether your boyfriend is afraid or just being a jerk, you have to remember that he is young also and is probably more afraid of the fact that he could be a very young father.
2006-12-15 03:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Maverick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being a jerk. If you want to keep your baby then you keep your baby. Just because he is not ready to be a real man and become a father, you shouldn't have to get an abortion. You take care of your child on your own. Many of women have done it before you and trust many will do it after you. it's natural to be scared , even women much older than you are scared of having a child but they get through it. My friend had a baby at 15 too. she said it was hard but we helped her out. You can do it.
2006-12-15 03:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Chiquinn W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15 and without the support of the child's father. You have an uphill struggle ahead of you regardless of what you decide to do.
You will be raising this child if you keep essentially on your own. He may be ordered by a court to pay child support but you can't legislate someone into being an active and attentive parent.
Ultimately, you have to do what is right for you. If your parents are going to be supportive then you may have to turn to them until you finish school and be self sufficent.
If they are not, I would weigh out all of your options with the help of a counsellor and make a decision that you are going to be able to live with.
Best of luck to you.
2006-12-15 02:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are awfully young to have a baby but even younger to have an abortion. Having an abortion will scar you for life.
Talk to a pregnancy help center near you (not planned parenthood) and give yourself some time to decide.
Kick your BF to the curb.
Learn from your mistake this time and don't repeat it in the future.
I hope everything works out for you.
2006-12-15 03:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by BigDozer66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do what you believe in go ahead with the pregnancy he cannot make you have an abortion as for him being a jerk or afraid at this moment it could be either one although his fear is having him act out as a jerk....I hope you have a good support system if you don't there are some agencies out there which do offer services (not abortion) birthright of america offer assistance with baby clothes and diapers and offer referrals to ob gyns and other services and support
2006-12-15 02:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so weird...I am the same age and I just got pregnant 5 weeks and 4 days ago! Well babys dad was like that too but I told him I was not going to and if he isnt going to help then to just tell me now so I want expect something and never get it....And I told him not to talk to me until he had an answer and 2 days later he called me and he is going to help me! Its SHOCK I think because I thought he wanted me to get an abortion b/c he was a jerk but eventually he realized it was his responsibilty. We are going great and we are going to keep it. Email me sometime b/c I really have no one to talk to about this b/c all of my friends are christians and they have never done anything wrong.
2006-12-15 02:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its amazing to me the young guys who will get a girl pregnant at such a young age and just think that it will magically go away if she gets an abortion, without thinking of the emotional consequences on her. I say talk to your parents...if you can't, talk to someone you trust; a counselor, clergyman, whomever you are close to. Get some advice, and do not be persuaded to do ANYTHING you don't want to do. You got yourself in a tough situation, and I applaud you for being responsible enough to know that you got yourself in the situation, and are trying to do the right thing by keeping the baby, just be warned babies are a VERY big responsiblity (I'm sure you know that!). All my luck to you dear, and do yourself a favor, KICK YOUR BF TO THE CURB!!!! ;)
2006-12-15 02:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by zoe and skylar's mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, that's young to have a baby! I'm not going to say your a baby yourself, but...
This is your body - not his. If you have family and friends around that will help you that's awesome!
Just remember, stay in school - finish school so that way you can offer the baby more then if you were to drop out... It's a rough road and tougher when the man is not agreeing with certain things.
Thank heavans for the little ones, cherish it and never lose faith and always know that god is there with you and your baby! Take care of your body!
have faith and love in god and he will bring you threw it!
2006-12-15 02:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by chrispfamily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋