She is hurting so bad and I want to make this a present show her I care for several obvious reasons. Thanks for any help you can give.
2006-12-15 02:37:40 · 15 answers · asked by TLC 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
A hug and an iPod.
2006-12-15 02:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think presents are incorrect to give at the time of one's death. However, if you feel you must do something, you should donate to a charity that the person liked, or give the family some money in a card to help with expenses.
Most of all, be there for the person if you can. I lost my mom two years ago, and after the funeral, nobody was around.
2006-12-15 02:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that getting her out of the house and doing stuff with her. We have the Buffalo Philharmonic Orchestra that puts on a wonderful Christmas show every year. Take her to a Christmas pageant at a church or a Cantata. Christmas carolling lightens the spirits as well. Every year this little town near us has what they call the carolcade. They block off main street and the whole town comes out to sing Christmas carols. It's a really wonderful thing. Or just walking or driving around just looking at the lights. Perhaps you two could volunteer at a mission or food pantry...often times helping some one else will lift our spirits.
2006-12-15 02:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by tas211 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing in this world for a present that will make her feel better...believe me I have been through it. The best present people could give me was thier compassion and support. Unless she wants to talk about it do not force her to...everyone grieves in different ways. It helped me to keep my mind occupied on positive things so maybe you could invite her out to do something fun for the two of you so she is not sitting around dwelling on it all of the time. I wish her well.
2006-12-15 02:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah just be there for her. Now if you want to give her a gift. Give her a retreat, or something. Like a spa. Where you can talk to her so she can let her feelings out. Or make the family dinner. Food is always good. I heard it's the comfort food, somewhere.
2006-12-15 03:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best present you can give is your presence. Allowing her to express her grief and anger is the most healing thing you could do. And man, it is hard! But you'll know you've set an example of caring and sharing that'll inspire others. And you may even save a life...
2006-12-15 02:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best gift is time you just be there play cards, watch a tv game show do things that do not take a lot of concentrating but help to distract also she needs time to greive we cannot take away the greif but only provide some relief also don't bring the death to much
2006-12-15 02:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Shirley B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional support and understanding. No material object can ever bring her mother back or change what happened, so the best gift is your being there for her in her time of need.
2006-12-15 02:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a scrapbook of her mother would be nice. She'll cry a lot, but it will be in a good way. It's good when people think about the person's life instead of their death.
And of course, be there for her emotionally and listen to her talk, even if it's for hours.
2006-12-15 02:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by ....... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try to give her love she really need someone to care about her and not someone who gave her gifts because it means nothing for her now
2006-12-15 02:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont need to give her a present...just be there for her
2006-12-15 02:38:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋