i was avor at a friends house and she said that i was not like most gays i dressed like a ragular guy. and then two other girls say that i didnt appear to be gay and asked me if it was a good thing not to semm gay but actually be gay. is it?
2006-12-15 02:22:07 · 7 answers · asked by cmsdking 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
its not only straight people that tell me that
thers this "gay group" that tell me im not gay. i dont have gay friends cuz im too "traight"
is it a good thing to be a "straight gay"?
2006-12-15 06:22:15 · update #1
There is nothing wrong with a gay man or lesbian appearing or acting 'straight'. I do think that for your friends to ask such a question indicates they are expecting a certain misguided sterotype of what they think a gay man should be.
In most cases it, gays act no different than most people do when they are with other people.
Even when you may act flamboyant or bitchy when you are with your gay friends, it is just common courtesy to be polite with mixed company and not try to force your 'gayness' on anyone.
Most straight men act entirely different when they are out with 'the boys' than when they are in the general public.
Unfortunately, in most places of work, it is still to your advantage to blend in if you wish to climb the corporate ladder. Besides, it is too hard to do when you're in heels.
2006-12-15 02:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by roqofages 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just means the stereotypical kind of gay guy. Most people think all gay guys are femmy and wear prada, gucci and other design labels, or at least are fashionistas to some extent. So when people find gay guy who act and dress just like "regular"(this in its self is a very loose and subjective word) then they are suprised. You shouldnt need to fit into any kind of stereotype to be who you are. There are str8 guys who hate sports, and gay guys who hate fashion. Amazing I know, but everyone is different. Some people have a hard time figuring this out.
2006-12-15 02:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by Waytomanyopinions! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just stereotyping dude. There is no one "gay look." It is just an image that the media has made for gay men.. i.e. weak wrist-ed, effeminate guys, when there are a whole variety to what a gay person can be. Don't play into it, just be who you are.
2006-12-15 02:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sui Generis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just tells me how much she knows about Gay people,
2006-12-15 02:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by popo dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she's ignorant.
Point Blank.
there are feminine 100% heterosexual guys.
there are masculine 100 % heterosexual women.
I'm not suprised. You shouldn't be. You will get that a lot.
2006-12-15 02:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by 2s2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You don't need to contort yourself to fit some stereotype your hetero friends have.
2006-12-15 02:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself.
Happy holidays
2006-12-15 02:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by Paulo.GZ. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋