any suggestions?
2006-12-15 02:04:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You just have to start loving yourself and surround yourself by good, positive people. There are no specific ways because what works for me [feeding off of daily compliments by strangers, staring at myself, listening to a man a decade older than me tell me I'm beautiful each night, shopping and being glad that so many clothes fit my petite body, having the satisfaction of knowing that some clothes are not small enough] may won't work for you. It's not like an overnight thing, it takes time. Good luck.
2006-12-15 02:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting...how can you have a shattered self-esteem and at the same time talk ****...does not make any sense unless...I'll leave that one alone. Whatever happened to I won't change for anybody? There is one person you will change for...yourself. Self-esteem comes in many forms and boils down to what you think of yourself. Rebuilding is easier said then done but all you have to do is accomplish something that you can take credit for and are happy to say you did that. This can be anything but start small and work your way up to larger things.
2006-12-15 02:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer might depend on what shattered your self esteem in the 1st place. whatever you're going thru now seems lots worse than it will a month from now. i guess the usual suspects for shattered self esteem are failure at accomplishing something important to you and rejection by someone you think a lot about. there are a multitude of cliches one might use to make you feel better like 'other fish in the sea' or 'dust yourself off and try again' or 'what doesn't kill us makes us stronger'. sure, they're cliche, but they got to be that way for a reason. you WILL be stronger for going thru whatever this might be. you'll learn something and be a better person for the experience. remember, it's not the end, but the beginning, and those can be difficult. also, i saw your 360 page and you're a nice looking gal. i can't imagine you having a self esteem problem. i'm sure you have guys throwing themselves at you on a daily basis. let one of them take you out and tell you nice things. that might make you feel better. one last thing i might tell you is that when i start to worry about what other people are saying or thinking about me, i try to remember that none of it matters at all. if i worried about what others think, i would waste a lot of time trying to do something to make them think better of me. i find that letting go of that brings me peace.
2006-12-15 02:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by Dale B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One good way to start is to believe in yourself, that way your self esteem can be rebuilt. It may not be a quick fix, but it works.
(P.S.: Do not worry about the person(s) that shattered your self esteem in the first place. Just believe and know that you can do whatever you wish to!)
2006-12-15 02:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by Shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of ways...
1. Think positively about life and things you do throughout the day. Its common to start to have a negative perception of life (especially in how it relates to you) and this will only make it harder.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others...be who you are and be proud of it.
3. Start hanging around positive people who will build you up and respect you.
That should be a good start...there are many great books about it too.
2006-12-15 02:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Trevor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing to do is to go out and do something nice or something that makes you feel good for yourself. Then once you have a bit of a good feeling about yourself, dwell on it and make it grow. Don't worry about what others think of you. Keep in your own mind, I'm important, I'm special, I'm doing this for me and me alone. Sometimes when I feel the lowest, I sit and just think of things in my past that pleasured me, like getting up on Christmas morning or getting together with family for the holidays for a huge turkey dinner and then just laying around after wards and napping. Everyone is different and everyone has something that makes them happy. Find that thing that makes you happy and go with it. Good luck my friend.
2006-12-15 02:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As corny as it sounds, make a list of good things about yourself (i.e. good friend, supportive friend, nice smile, intelligent, etc) and keep it with you in your purse or wallet and when you are feeling down, look at the list to remind yourself that you are worth it and that you do deserve good things. Try to make the list as long as you can... even if something seems "too insignificant" to put it on there, write it anyway. I hope you feel better soon!
2006-12-15 02:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by betterlife_travel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take small-risks everyday, gradually increading what you accomplish. The key is baby steps.
Surround yourself with a more positive community of friends to help you.
Don't put yourself in a situation that's self-demeaning or self-demoralizing. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, remember that.
Judge your progress by how you feel, not by what other people say.
2006-12-15 02:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Practice. Live your life as though you have a strong self-esteem and one day you will.
2006-12-15 02:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by lisateric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are kidding cause no one as good looking as you should have self-esteem problems.
2006-12-15 02:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋