I would like to know what might be the best way to say I love you but I'm not in love with you anymore and don't think this marriage should continue?
2006-12-15 01:59:45 · 31 answers · asked by cntrybmpkn_95 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ask her if she remembers you old _________, and how much you loved it. How you would do just about anything to keep it and kept it for years even though it (didn't work or didn't fit or was full of holes). And then one day I finally let it go.
well that's how this relationship feels to me. I love you and I really don't know how to say this but I'm not in love with you any more. I wish I was but I feel like I am living my life just going through the motions and am doing what is expected of me.
you take it from here.
2006-12-15 02:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write your spouse a letter that can be open for discussion after it has been read. Also, seek some counseling if that is possible.
Marriage is a very important and sacred unity. If you are not 100% sure about this, try and figure out why the marriage should not continue, is it possible to re-create the 'in love' moments again. Is there a chance the the spouse CAN change to become a better person?
(just some things to think about)
2006-12-15 10:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by TracyBee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you turned this situation around, how would you have your spouse present this to you? Treat your spouse the same way as you would want the spouse to treat you. There will be no easy way but be kind and decent. I would assume that if this spouse is not expecting this kind of news there might not be a huge fight but shock. Just keep reminding yourself how you would have this said to you to make this easier if that is possible at all.
2006-12-15 10:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be quite honest the best way is to go out to dinner! to a nice place payed for by you adn simply say look we've been together for a long time we have had our ups and downs real good times and the real bad your like a best friend to me but alot of things change over the years and people change then break it to him, easy tho so u don't fight, just simply say i love you and i always will but i'm not in love with you anymore the spark is gone and we are both here because its comfortable and its what we are used to and i can't go on living this feeling anymore . .now remember your in a resturant so he can't freak out he may walk out but DON'T FOLLOW! you are going to have to be strong if this is really what you want and that means sometimes you might have to move out change your number all of the above and look at it as its going to be hard mountain to conquer . .good luck! hope it works out the way you wnat,
2006-12-15 10:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by tluckie313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love you but I am not in love with you is a cop out. You do not love him/her. If you did you would be committed to working things out. Tell the truth - your feelings have changed and you believe you would be happier alone or with someone else. The I love you but I am not in love with you line gives the spouse false hope that there is a chance things could be worked out.
2006-12-15 10:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down, and tell him the truth. There is no easy way out. If he's not ready to call it quits, he will not go quietly, regardless of how you say it. And if it's that bad a relationship, he won't be surprised. If he is - you haven't been communicating at all.
2006-12-15 10:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to express this very politely at the same firmly. Do the talking in the house. If you do it at a public place there may be a scene even if you dont want to make one.
2006-12-15 10:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rip the band aid off - just do it. There is no easy, pain free way to end a relationship. You have to tell your spouse you want out, and you will need to tell him or her why.
2006-12-15 10:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by fortillfriday 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you and believes that the relationship is worth fighting for, you're going to have to deal with it.
2006-12-15 10:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some place to go before you tell him. If he starts in and wants to fight about it, leave.
2006-12-15 10:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋