Is masturbation wrong? And men, if you found out your wife/GF was doing it without you how would you feel? Please settle this debate some of my girlfriends and I are having.
2006-12-15 01:39:43 · 47 answers · asked by hurtand still in love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After reading some of the answers let me tell you first of all I am female 36 yrs old, and married for 14 yrs. The girlfriends I am speaking of are MY FRIENDS!! They think I am crazy for masturbating WITH my husband and watching porn with him. No, we do not do it all the time, just occassionally. Making Love is a WONDERFUL experience, but sometimes we just want to spice it up a bit. Just a quickie roll in the hay with my hubby is fine with me sometimes. Not always in the mood to "MAKE LOVE". But I always love him...does that make sense...I hope so.
2006-12-15 01:49:56 · update #1
RE: They think I am crazy for masturbating WITH my husband and watching porn with him.
*** It actually surprised me to learn you (and I’m assuming) your friends are 36 (ish). I would have thought, at that age, your friends would not think this crazy, or at least be more open to you and your husband doing this together.
-That being said.
You have a VERY healthy, open relationship. You are comfortable enough with your partner (and a partner of 14 years at that!) to enjoy your sexuality together. We should all be so lucky.
Sounds like a great arrangement to me!
2006-12-15 02:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 36 and have been married for 14 years as well. I know what you are going through. First, I would keeep what goes on in your bedroom between you and your husband. No one should be passing judgment on how you and your husband please each other. Personally, I don't think it's for anyone to say that masturbation is "wrong". I have masturbated and will most likely masturbate in the future. Having said that, I don't like to masturbate. It takes away from my spirit of pleasuring my wife. But if you masturbate with your spouse it's not masturbating because you are with someone else. IMy wife and I watch porn as well every now and again. If it's done alone then you are pleasuring yourself. In a sense, masturbation is a form of self-worship. That's why I don't like to do it. But it does bring immediate gratification and I suppose it could be viewed as the lesser of two evils, i.e. cheating. But I would be concerned if my wife was doing it without me. I think that would be a problem. Cause if you keep it real, when you masturbate alone, 98% of the time you are not thinking about your spouse. But, talk with your husband. You two do what you gotta do to get by.
2006-12-15 02:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
self gratification is normal and does not reflect on the need for intemesy you have with your partner. It can become habit like anything else can and get between the fullfillment for each of you. As long as your partner is satisfied with the sex life that existe there really is no harm. Some people are just more active than others and you should not be intimidated by this.When masterbation is all that is disired it could be evidence of some other problem as simple as stress over something that has nothing to do with where your partner is concerned. More time consumeing activities could be the answer. The word 'wrong'? Wrong to who.
2006-12-15 01:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't have a problem with my guy masturbating. It's something that he's done his whole life who am I to tell him to stop? I mean I hope he doesn't do it 5 times a day and thinks about other women when he's doing it. But as long as it's only occasional and he let's me watch sometimes then I'm fine without. However, he had practically forbidden me to use my vibrator on myself. He says "why do you need that? I'm not satisfying you?". It's like he's threatened by it or something. Before we started dating I used it everyday. Now I hardly ever do because he makes me feel guilty like I'm cheating on him or something. So to sum it all up, the answer is no. Masturbation is not wrong. I mean it's something you do by yourself. It's harming no one unless you do it all time time.
2006-12-15 01:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by ỀằЃťĦßőūŇŊΜĬşғΪŧ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not wrong. That's just a bunch of hooey that the conservative religious sorts try to press on us. The sex drive is as strong as the drive to eat and breathe. Masturbation is perfectly normal, and a far better option than cheating on a partner or becoming a nympho.
Why else would porn be the #1 driving force of the internet, or would VIP shops be popping up all over the country? Accept your sexuality and enjoy it.
2006-12-15 01:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Erika B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is not wrong at all whether you are with or without your partner. My husband and I watch porn together, like you said to spice it up. When people tell you things like that is wrong, it is because it is the politically correct answer to say.
2006-12-15 02:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is natural. Now if she is banging like 12" rubber dongs in her then maybe the guy is gonna have an issue with that. It's not like she's cheating. Even if she is watching porn. My whole theory is anything to spice it up a notch is cool with me within reason. Better she masturbates then has another dude do something to her.
2006-12-15 01:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by SBSHARPSKINHEAD 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I honestly do not think there is anything wrong with masturbating, or even watching porn. It is healthy and spices up your relationship, sometimes you just want to do something new, and thats what its all about trying new things in bed.
2006-12-15 01:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Latina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people in the health field and medical profession will tell you it is natural. Some religious groups don't approve it. Doing it without you??? If you do it together and by"doing it without you" you mean doing herself while she is alone, there's nothing wrong with that. If "without you" means someone else is with her that's another matter.
Nearly ALL adult men have masturbated. Probably less woman, but still a majority.
2006-12-15 02:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I do it all the time! Sometimes the police had to come and ask me to stop, I shall in the future show them this link on my laptop that there's nothing wrong with it!
Do...do you have any live footage of you doing the dirty oooh...yes! Or does anyone else have some? I had a good dirty magazine but last night another bum came to my bus stop and stole it from me... I had to fight him with a plastic Coca Cola bottle but he was thinner and ran away... now I don't have anything to give me hand pleasure...
2006-12-15 02:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by Derek K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋