always getting pressure from couples about being single, are some people just meant to be single all their lives?
im happy being single though i do miss companionship at times...
2006-12-15 01:24:40 · 37 answers · asked by tagsyboy_no1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's very important that you do what you want to do and what you know is best for you. If you do hook up - are those people going to spend the time and effort to work on your relationship for you? No. They want you to be a couple - so you'll "fit in" better with them. People who are interested in YOU as a person will find ways to fit you into their lives - as a couple or as a SINGLE person. The people pressuring you are probably the same ones who will criticize your mate - if you ever decide to have one.
I am in a live in situation - and it's what I have chosen. But I will tell you - that my single days were some of my most happy days. Relationships can have huge payoffs - but they take a lot of time and work. It's YOUR choice. Thank goodness you havn't succumbed to social pressures and coupled up just because it is the thing to do. The people who are meant to be single all of their lives are the people who are wise enough to realize that being single is what they need to lead the most fulfilling life possible.
Next time your friends start bugging you about becoming a couple - tell them (jokingly) that you are happy single - and you are hoping that they will join the ranks of your singledome and get a divorce!!!
2006-12-15 01:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by liddabet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people are meant to be single all of their lives. However, as long as you hang out with married couples, your getting married will always come up. Never, never, never get married just because all of your friends are married. Marriage isn't like getting a new pair of jeans that are trendy, it's something you have to deal with the rest of your life.
If you're happy being single, stay single. There are pros and cons on both sides of the marriage issue. Right now, it sounds like all of the pros are with staying single in your case. Sure, you'll miss the companionship once in awhile, everyone does, but don't rush into a relationship simply because everybody around is in one.
2006-12-15 01:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by kenrayf 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE do not let the pressure get to you.
I remember years ago when I graduated from college and my 5 year high school reunion was coming up. I was so worried that I would be the only woman not married...needless to say, i rushed to get married and it lasted 10 years, with the last 5 years being a painful nightmare. When I look back, I wish I had not let the pressure of a successful group of classmates alter my thinking about what I needed in life. Sometimes people who pressure you, are insecure in some area of life.
Being single has been a blessing, so ENJOY being single and take your time making any long term commitments.
2006-12-15 01:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by TracyBee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not wrong to be single. You are better off staying that way until you find the right person for you. If you get married just to make others happy or because you feel you are too old not to be married, you could be making the mistake of your life!
Be yourself, do what you like doing and you might just find a potential partner through pursuing your interests and hobbies.
Stay single until you find the right person, and you will know it when you do!
Best wishes!
2006-12-15 01:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're happy with being single then there's nothing wrong with that. You might need a couple of "opposite-sex" friends to take to wedding receptions, parties, and a "trophy" partner to walk in to Buck House when you get your knighthood, but that doesn't mean you are required to marry the person first.
Anyone who pressures you is probably more concerned about the seating arrangements at dinner parties than anything else. Selfish Gits.
2006-12-15 01:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's wrong to be married just because everyone around you is. Wait till you're ready. Being single is fun. Being married is fun. It's just a matter of what you want at this time in your life. If you're happy being single, stay single. If you get married for the wrong reasons, it will never last, anyway.
2006-12-15 01:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me too. I'm single and all of my friends are either married or living with someone. I'm quite happy living on my own and I don't really feel like I'm missing out on anything. Besides, I guarantee that the majority of your married friends will get divorced at some point in the future! Save yourself the hassle (and the expense).
2006-12-15 06:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People just need to realise that different people find happiness in different ways, I was married for 25yrs but my wife died in 2003 so I am single now, but I have found happiness having my own space when I what it, and having company when I wish it. So be happy the way you are, and dont worry about what other people think.
2006-12-15 08:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by William T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it if you are happy. People just tend to get carried away, they have met their ideal man or woman and are enjoying being with that person, they think that nobody else could be as happy as them and want you to feel as happy as they do. However if you are truly happy being single then just smile and laugh it off, don't take offence and live your life how you choose to.
2006-12-15 01:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No theres nothing wrong with being single. I love it no one in your face all the time. Some people can be single all their lives yes and there is nothing wrong with being with someone either.
2006-12-15 01:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋