Hi yahoo friends, I need to put my mind at ease. I find it terrible that people cheat, lie to each other in a relationships. Well I happened to have conversation with my girlfriend yesterday about cheating and trust. I guess I trust her but I was meeting her out of a different club one night and saw one of her guy friends hugging her and kissing her all over her face. I was pretty pissed off and the has scared my mind. She tells me that I should not feel jealouse but when she put me in that situation It is not my fault but man It hurts. Even if it was innocent. I know most guys and I know that they are hormone driven so they flirt like crazy. This guys was obviously flirting with my girlfriend. So she apologized and claimed that she did not realize that bothered me and that he was doing what I said he was. So put it behind me. I checked her cell after that and found a message from the dude saying "wish you were here" I told her that I saw it. She claims it was nothing. Can I trust her?
2006-12-15 01:18:32 · 11 answers · asked by exitdc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
See one leads me to believe she could decieve me is that. At a club she promised she would not smoke and when I went to the bathroom I caught her smoking. I hate smoking. She tried to hide it from me. So that I would not get mad. That small thing makes it hard to believe her when she hides that from me. It makes me have doubt... I hate that I want to eliminate that. I want to trust her 100%. How do I? Every relationship I have had in the past I was cheated on. Wich gives me a hard foundation to work from. I am 100 honest and a faithful guy. I know she loves me but these little things clutter my mind.
2006-12-15 01:22:49 · update #1
She's cheating, so that gives you a "cheat with no guilt" pass. But, you sound like a good guy that wants a good girl, so I would keep looking. There is a better girl out there.
2006-12-15 01:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel that noone can trust someone 100% unless you are will them at all time you will always wonder what she is doing if she is cheating and a lot of that comes from the fact you have been cheated on in the past but here is what you do you for get about all the bad things that have happened to you in the past and you truest her as much as your heart will let you and stop jumping when you think something is wrong if you really feel that she is cheating then sit back and watch and wait if you keep saying things to her the you may lose her and her being the best she could to you everyone looks and alot of people flirt alot and dont even know they are doing it. if you love her put some faith in her and as much trust as you can the longer you are with her the more you will begin to trust her
2006-12-15 09:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by whiteangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation and it is very difficult to trust again.First you need to explain why you feel the way you do and she needs to stop lying.If she lied over something insignificant then she would lie over anything and you need to feel that the words coming out of her mouth are truthful.She needs to work on communication and you need to learn to let the small things go.
2006-12-15 10:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Allie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't that that she is wht you are looking for. If she is kissing other guys then she doesn't have the same feelings that you do which is very unfair to you.
I f I were you I would go out and find someone who will treat you the way that you want to be treated!!
2006-12-15 09:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by BriGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's playing you. Honestly. And, I think you've seen enough faults in her already - enough for you to find an exit.
2006-12-15 09:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Twojuly82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a break, but if it happens again then tell her to cool it or your gone.
2006-12-15 09:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by redhot ツ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she lies about smoking she may lie about sex if he wish she was there she may have been there before what was her answere back to him when he said that.
2006-12-15 09:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by seth331982 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on my pal. get a better gal and always have marriage in mind.
2006-12-15 09:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know how you feel and if it cntinues i suggest you find a differnt girl
2006-12-15 09:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by Oreo wit out the O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take chances.
2006-12-15 09:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋