Will my heartache ever heal,and will i find love and trust in someone again?.?

Question

HI,I WAS WITH MY WIFE FOR 24 YEARS,AND WE SEPERATED SADLY IN AUGUST THIS YEAR.WE HAD ALWAYS STRUGGLED,BUT LOVED EACH OTHER UNTIL THE TRAGIC EVENTS BACK IN 2004.MY MUM DIED AFTER FIGHTING CANCER FOR 2 YEARS,AND WE FELT HER LOSS SO VERY MUCH.JUST 3 WEEKS LATER,OUR DAUGHTER JACQUELINE DIED TRAGICALLY JUST 1 WEEK AFTER THE BIRTH OF HER BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER LUCY,SHE HAD BEEN AN HEROIN ADDICTSADLY.THIS TOTALLY DEVASTATED ME AND MY FAMILY,AND OTHER KIDS.,AND THE DAY AFTER HER FUNERAL I SUFFERED A MASSIVE HEART ATTACK,AND HAD HEART SURGERY,I AM NOW ON DLA INDEFINATELY.I WENT INTO VERY DEEP GRIEF ,FOR ALMOST A YEAR I FELT NOTHING BUY HEART ACHE,THIS SLOWLY CAUSED MY WIFE TO DRIFT FROM ME,SHE SOUGHT OTHER INTRESTS,AND BEGAN GOING TO THE GYM 5 NIGHTS A WEEK,NOW SHE WORKS THERE.MY WIFE SAID SHE DIDNT LOVE ME IN AUGUST,SAYING WE HAD DRIFTED APART,BUT I NEVER MEANT TO IGNORE HER,I WAS JUST SO SAD AND MY ILLNESS MADE ME TIRED AND STILL DOES. I AM IN THE HOMELESS WITH MY DAUGHTER 1WILL I GET OVER THIS?

Answer 1

yes you will my mum and dad were together for 19 years and my mum left my dad... he was devestated he even thought about suicide.. he loved her so so so much and was very depressed for a long time... 5 years down the line they are friends my bond with my dad is the strongest t could be and he is happy and has had a few girlfriends over the last couple of years.... The first year will be very tough but i promise you, you will get better...

Peace

MERYY CHRISTMAS

Answer 2

I really feel for you, so much grief in a short time. I lost a baby through llness and the man i loved and going to marry walked out on me 2 eeks before the wedding and 4 weeks after the loss of our child. I had a total breakdown, so im here to tell you that you will get better and the pain will ease eventually.
Grief is an awaful thing to go through, but thats what you have to do, you have to ride it and dont fight it,, talk about how you feel to some one you know, or if you feel you cant write your feelings down, but what ever you do dont bottle hings up inside, if you want to cry,you cry, dont matter where, for this is te release.
You may not see things clearly now, but as time goes on you will see things for what they were, and as painful as it is maybe your marriage wasnt as strong as you thought it was. When we are in a relationship and think everything is fine we can tend to blind to the other person, not seeing the signs of things that are not quite righ, for we're not looking for them.
Instead look back on those years you had with your wife and cherish them cause what you had together some people dont even get that. Hard as it s you will get through this, and this sadly is something you have to do yourself, and how much you want thigs to get better in your life. It will take time, but you will get throught it. As for loving and trusting someone else that ill happen as well but first you need time to get over what you been through, you need time to heal. Good luck in the future

Answer 3

I strongly feel that your wife should have stuck by your side no matter what. Through the heartache of loosing family members to helping you deal and heal from your health problems. At some point she became very selfish and put you and the marriage on the back burner. I think that you need to contact a support group, to help you deal with your family loss. (hospice usually has a support group for this) You also need to get into a physical fitness/therapist program if its approved by your doctor. Get some positive energy flowing through your body again and also rebuild your mind and strengthen your soul to move forward through this trying time.
If you have a spiritual family, I would suggest that you find a couple strong men of god to lean on for support.
Best of luck to you and God Bless. IF I could reach out and hug you I would, but hugging you from the heart is being extended.

Answer 4

time is a big healer
u have suffered so much pain mentally and physically...
u shud give each other and Heal urselves... by urself...
discover answers and get over what hppnd slowly
obviously u cnt get over death.. but u can accept it.
cherish the memories u have with u
u must try to be strong for ur self and ur daughter
while ur wife is moving on (or has done so alredy) in her own way, u move on in ur own way.
keep in touch with her remind that uve been thru a lot and only both of u can understand each other well becoz u went thru it al together.. remind her u werent being selfish because u werent
all the best..
be strong! all the best
and merry christmas to ur family

Answer 5

first i would like to say i am sorry for your lost. i wish you all the luck in the world to heal from this tragic moment in your life. If this women really loved you then she would still be around through sickness, and health. I think she is selfish because losing someone close to you isn't easy to get over. she should have been there for you and you should of been there for her. your heart will heal from her leaving and in no time you will resent her for what she did. for the lost that will always be with you but in time will get easier to deal with. i hope everything is all well for this holiday season god bless.

Answer 6

As you know, life is hard. There's nothing we can do to stop things like that happening, but try, try, try to work them out, or to mend your heart. Time heals all, and I firmly stick by that. Your heart may never fully heal, but it will feel better in time. I suggest surrounding yourself with family, and friends - people who are safe. Maybe one day you'll find another person you can love and trust and feel safe with, but for now, the only people who are forced to be safe are your family. And in the matters of love: who needs safe? We have to risk it all to have it all. Maybe you can try to talk to your ex-wife - be her friend. She just may appreciate that. But above all, I tell you, follow your heart. Your heart - along with a good head - makes the best decisions. Good luck.

Answer 7

I'm so sorry you had such a bad time of it recently, we all deal with grief differently you lost your mum and daughter in a short space of time you wife only a daughter. to top it all off you nearly died yourself I would say from a broken heart.

only time will help you too heal and you need to think of yourself too get your self fit and healthy again. your wife is also grieving in her own way so give her time she could be angry with the lose of her daughter but just think you have a little girl to carry on in your daughters name a little grand daughter to watch grow up.

maybe a bit of grief counselling will help you all to come to terms with the lose and time is a great healer

Answer 8

Yes, you will. I was in a 16 year marriage that ended badly. I thought my world had fallen apart. But my mother told me something. She said it hurts bad but everyday it will hurt just a tiny bit less, so tiny that you wont even notice and then one day you ll realize that it actually hurts allot less. That was 14 years ago. Four years ago i met a wonderful man who i am madly in love with. I smile everyday. I never thought that would happen. You have a child to focus on and you need to be at least outwardly happy for your child. So try to smile at least 5 times every day and mean it.

Answer 9

in spite of all the horrific things, never give up hope. u must concentrate on what u do have in life, and be thankful for whatever. life was never suppose to be easy, heartache comes, but is time limited, it is not your falt that your wife left, we all go through depression at times, can't dwell on our losses, go help someone else who has been through what u have, share what u have already learned. things will chage for u, u are not a failure. we can only control our efforts, not our past. we all fear our future, and what it hold's just hang in there,prayer helps alot.

Answer 10

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