2006-12-15 00:43:58 · 35 answers · asked by budi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on the woman. For example, I would be fine if my man were to be bosom buddies with a lesbian.
2006-12-15 00:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think it is fine - especially if it is a relationship that was formed before the marriage! If it was after marriage I would have to question it. But, my best friend from high school is a guy and his wife has always been great about out friendship. Of course I spend and equal amount of time with her now as I do with him (probably more) and of course there are never any late night get together's without his wife involved - that would be weird. But once he did have to stay over at my house for the night because of car trouble and my husband was gone to work and I thought for sure his wife would hate me and never let him talk to me again - but she said she trusts him and me and know that we are like brother and sister so she had no reason to worry -- and she was right !! I am glad there are people like her on this earth. She is not a jealous controlling woman. My husband is a little uncomfortable sometimes but he is that way about everything and everyone and always has been !
2006-12-15 23:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Ohwhyme? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm stingy. I want my husbands whole being....body, mind, and soul. Since a best friend is someone that you confide in and go to when you are having problems and so forth, I would not feel comfortable with that. I would not want my husband spilling his heart out to another woman. which would always be the case. I want to be the most important person in my husbands life. The one he feels most close to. A best of the same sex can offer something that I can not offer. However, a best friend of the opposite sex he should really have no use for. If he wants a female best friend, then the best friend should be me.
2006-12-15 00:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by reowrrrr 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think you and your husband should be best friends as well as lovers. that relationship should come first.
If you are included in the friendship, things should be OK. But I would feel hurt if he refered to this woman as his "best friend".
If you and your husband stay honest and open with each other, and he does not spend time alone with this female friend, I would say it's alright. But I would expect him, out of respect for you, to not spend time alone with her, to either include you also, or go with other friends (like if they went to a ball game or something like that) And that would make it different from a friendship with "one of the guys", not exactly what you would classify as a "best friend". So, it's very iffy that he can really stay best friends with this woman while being your husband.
there's nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex while married, but I would say having a best friend of the opposite sex is too complicated and doesn't respect the feelings of the spouse.
2006-12-15 01:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by kristin c 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oooooo....I don't know about other women out there, but if my husband has a woman best friend I would be cautious and tremendously jealous all the time. I would surely put tension in our relationship everytime she's around.
But a good husband should know that his wife should be the bestfriend and limit his 'friendliness' towards his female bestfriend.
I wouldn't worry so much about a female friend though.
But it would greatly help if the wife tells the husbands about her feelings as soon as possible to avoid future misunderstanding. Of course, the husband may not understand her reasoning, but he should try to compromise.
2006-12-15 00:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate it! But I have my reason why I do hate my husband's girl bestfriend. Actually before I met my husband, me and his girl bestfriend were friends, new close friends. Then the brother of this girl introduced someone to me (that was my husband now). Then this girl didn't talk to me or even greet me. I know she's jealous coz he is her bestfriend but were also friends. Then everything changes between me and that girl. I tried to talk to her but I received email from that girl telling cruel thing against me which isn't true. Since then everything changes. And when we got married she has a big part there because she's his bestfriend. Now we still see each other on parties etc but were both cold as ice. Even my husband now dont have connection on her. But there still a part of me hoping we'll be ok in the future. We all know, everything changes.
2006-12-15 01:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by aNGie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry i couldn't stand by while my husband was best friends with another woman i would feel insecure and i just couldn't do it. Are you sure it is just good friends? Sorry for the question but had to ask!!
2006-12-15 00:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the woman.......... and the situation.
I am married and my best friend (other than my husband) is a guy but he's in the Air Force and lives in Japan.
2006-12-15 00:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband has many woman friends, they were friends before we got together. in the beginning, i was very jealous, thinking that they all wanted him and vice versa. but now i know that they are just that, friends, and so are we. I am just as close to them as he is. some woman cant stand to have men as a friend because they tend to "fall" for them and that's what i thought, but i totally trust him and he trusts me. that is a big part of a wonderful relationship. I told my husband when we first got serious, that if he ever felt the need to stray from our relationship, just let me know cause if I found out it would be worse. And that she better be better looking than me. but i totally trust him.
2006-12-15 00:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by tsd574 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dr phil states that if men and woman are married and supposed best friend with someone else that they have sex on their mind, I think men and woman can be best friends and be married to other people, I think they could think about sex but big deal if they dont act on it,
humans are too suspicious of everything in life,
2006-12-15 01:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That one is a toughie. Do you know this other woman? If not, it's probably best for your relationship, that YOU have a relationship with her as well. Your husband should respect you enough to allow that. If not, it only can lead to problems, unless you are perfectly fine with it yourself, however, from this question, it appears you are questioning their relationship.
2006-12-15 00:57:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋