about cocaine?

Question

Is it true cocaine is hard to beat ,example one has been clean 3 months and relaspes over and over ,give me some advise if you were in my shoes Im married to a user ,he says he has been clean one month how do I know for sure?

I need to add that he has went to rehab only because he lost his job and that was the only way to get it back ,he was in 8 weeks ,I also have put him in detox centers ,he has controll of all his income ,I have been taking care of him a year now because when he uses he gets really bad off because he over uses ,also he almost died once we had to call 911 his heart almost burst ,I am in conseling already .for posttramatic stress from sister being murdered .I like al the input im learnig from each one .so rehab has been in the picture and he stopped after 8 weeks .thank u all

Answer 1

Well, the first thing I would do is find your local Al anon group and get to some meetings, because this is not just about your partner getting better, it's about your learning to live your life again. Yeah, I know its a drag to have to think his problem has become your problem but it is the way things are.... Try a number of groups and give them a chance... Now, to answer your question about COKE. I am a coke addict, haven't used it since 1986 but my life was totally out of control for years before that date and for sometime into my recovery. One has to go to support group AA 0r NA. I could never have quit on my own, even after treatment. I needed the support of a group and a sponsor to help me make the correct decisions regarding staying straight. Like, "Gosh, I've been straight 6 months, I can handle a little taste", WRONG!!!! The mental part of the recovery is really difficult. First thing is to get away from the network of supposed friends who supply the crap. That will help but to an addict, finding the poison is never a problem.
I could go on but you need to get to Al anon, he needs to find AA or NA. It is a hard road but I am grateful that I stuck with it, my wife and I have been together over 30 years and I know she was thinking many of the things your thinking about when I was using. It can work....

Answer 2

It is true cocaine is hard to beat, any counseling? he may need to do rehab for a while in order to kick the habit. Most cocaine users have up and down moods swings when they need a fix. You can tell that way most definitely if his mood is steady he is not using. If he becomes angry and violent he is on the verge of using or has used again. You have to be clean for more than a month to see any results. Trust your gut feeling and watch the signs.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Yes cocaine is hard to beat, I went through a relationship that he used crack, and relasped over and over. If your s/o wants to be clean, then be supportive, but don't babysit. If you question the honesty, you can get drug tests over the counter, and free from some places like a planned parenthood etc. If they haven't used, and being clean is a basis to stay in the relationship, they shouldn't have a problem taking the test!

Answer 4

ALL DRUGS ARE VERY, VERY HARD TO BEAT! THE USER MUST BE TOTALLY CONVINCED THAT HE WANTS TO STOP AND EVEN THEN- IT'S NOT GUARRANTEED THAT HE WON'T START ONCE AGAIN. I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GUY ADDICTED TO HEROIN. AT FIRST, I DIDNN'T KNOW ABOUT HIS PROBLEM. WE WERE MADLY IN LOVE, WE WERE SURE WE WERE MEANT FOR EACHOTHER. I HAVE A SON FROM HIM, WHO IS THREE YEARS OLD NOW. BUT EVEN HIS SON AND I WERE NOT ENOUGH REASON FOR HIM TO STOP. THE DRUGS CHANGE YOUR PRIORITIES IN LIFE. THEY CHANGE YOUR WHOLE BRAIN. DRUGS BECOME THE MOST IMPORTANT THING, EVEN THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS! EVERYTHING ELSE IS SECONDARY! YOU CAN NEVER BE SURE WHETHER HE IS CLEAN OR NOT, UNLESS HE MAKES A TEST IN FRONT OF YOU. YOU CAN'T BELIEVE A WORD HE SAYS, COS HE WOULD SAY ANYTHING, TRUST ME ON THIS ONE! THE WORST PART IS THAT YOU CAN'T DO ANYTHING TO HELP HIM, UNTIL HE REACHES THE BOTTOM, WHERE THERE'S NO WAY DOWN- HE WOULD EITHER TRY REALLY TO GAIN BACK HIS LIFE, OR DIE. THE BOTTOM IS DIFFERENT FOR EVERYBODY. ALL YOU CAN DO IS ASSURE HIM THAT HE IS NOT ALONE IN THAT BATTLE AGAINST COCAINE, THAT YOU WILL BE THERE TO HELP HIM. I WAS THERE, I DID EVERYTHING IN MY POWERS, BUT UNFORTUNATELY IT DIDN'T WORK OUT FOR ME. WE ARE SEPARATED NOW, AFTER YEARS OF REHABS, STOPS AND RELAPSES, TREATMENTS AND SO ON. I HOPE IT WORKS FOR YOU.

Answer 5

If the cocaine was on the verge of ruining your marriage then you need to give your husband rules and expectations. He will need to subject himself to random drug tests that you can arrange at a local clinic. Many of these clinics are open very late so it won't disturb anyones work day. Just tell him to get in the car and drive to the clinic they will make sure he doesn't dilute his urine or anything.

Another thing you can and should do is watch your money very tightly. Keep an eye out for withdrawals and make him show reciepts for all purchases. He needs to account for all money he spends. Tell him he has to agree to this for at least 6 months and you reserve the right to do random drug testing for the next 5 years or maybe even forever.

If he doesn't like then get the hell out because who wants to be married to a drug user.

Answer 6

cocaine is a psychological addiction. Not a physical addiction. So, mainly it is in his head. If he wants to quit he can, he should and would need to change his behaviors, not be around anyone that he use to do drugs with. He may want to entertain the idea of chemical dependency treatment, either in patient or out patient. He can quit, however only if he chooses to. And unfortunately their is little you can do to assit him, until he has made up his mind to do so. Out patient treatment is very helpful and they will educate him on the affects of addiction and triggers of abuse. Suggest to him to seek out some assistance. He could also attend some NA (Narcotics Annonymous) meetings you can find the local number in your yellow pages if not listed call AA and ask them about the meetings. Relapse is quite common in the begining of trying to get clean, however, not a reason to give up, try again. However if what he is doing is not working, try something new. Good luck to you and God bless****

Answer 7

my husband was hooked on meth for a while and he has been clean now for almost two years. He has had help from re hab and the methadone clinic has helped a lot also. I believe anyone can change if they have the desire to change. He deserves as many chances as you are able to give to him - if it starts hurting you in anyway then you will have to re-think your situation and do what is best for the both of you ! Good luck and hope this helps some!

Answer 8

observe his financial status,, and/or belongings "missing". unexpected trips to the "store", etc, strange and vague phones conversations. does he itch and/or twitch much,, erratic temperament (though that could also come from abstaining from it if that is the case) many can eat and sleep just fine on coke so that doesnt mean much. in my opinion it isnt that hard to "beat" the actual drug, more so the life and the "party" that you think your having so much fun with. especially once someone has already gone 3 month,, there really shouldnt be any biological factors playing in anymore.

Answer 9

All I know is that it is ridiculous to start taking dugs, to destroy your life, for what?
Everyone had bad times, stress etc, but there are many that dont turn to drugs that is a weak way out that not only destroys their life but others around them also

Answer 10

if you love him you will have t o trust him. if he is one of those people that relapse over and over ask him to give you proof. DONT UPSET HIM
coke users can be very touchy & unstable
good luck and i comend you for giving him a chance even though he has been addicted in the past