I have a friend who is straight and we had a close friendship until his family started to say there was something going on. as any one had this happen to them. I cannot understand why the friendship as gone. :-(
2006-12-14 23:48:33 · 20 answers · asked by lifeonmars1979 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am really sorry this happened to you it is very sad. Your friends family has more control over him then what they should. They are prejudice and that is wrong. So what you are gay, I am a white female neither should make a difference in a friendship situation. Your friend obviously does not know what real friendship is if he could not stand up to his parents and tell them that you and he are just good friends and if they have a problem with it, that is there problem but under no circumstances is he going to end the friendship and that is how it is. Once again I am truly sorry but there are new friends out there and you will find them ones that will fight for the friendship. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-14 23:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a long time friendship dating back to junior high with a guy who turned out to be gay when he grew up. We were best friends all through high school, and hung out together in college, as well.
The hardest thing of it for me was the fact that many straight women I might have been interested in dating just presumed he and I were "together".
All his gay friends could tell I didn't go that way, so dating was no problem for him, but very difficult for me.
I can imagine that kind of stress could cause people to just chuck the friendship in favor of getting laid.
2006-12-14 23:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pride , ego, uncomfort~ the gay man of course wouldnt mind at all being the best of friends with a straight man, but the dilliema comes in when the straight man uses the lil thing he calls a mind~ he begins thinking people are gonna label him as gay or bi or curious, hes gonna start thinking the gay 1 wants him, is in love with him etc.etc. it could work if by chance we could put the straight mans mind on pause..lol
2006-12-14 23:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because straight men look for women , the perception is if you are friends with a gay man then you are gay. and thats the last thing any straight man wants to be said about him. its better to just stay away from gay men all together.
2006-12-14 23:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the straight man is afraid of what others may say about him. For some reason, maybe he feels that if he associates himself with a gay man, that he may himself bcome gay. It all boils down to being homophobic and the fear of the perception others may have about him.
2006-12-14 23:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by Tater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO!
It's fine to have friends no matter who they are or what their sex orientation is all bout. It's no body business but you know people will assume and talk. Assume is the fact that means they will try to make an *** out of u and me. It's people nature to butt their nose in other people business. I had a girl friend that was always worrying about what other people thought. So we could not do any thing for fear of other people talking. I say bull ****. Do what ever you want and the hell with these other A S S holes. Have all the friends u want and do as u please. It's no one business but yours.
2006-12-14 23:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if they were saying things that's the problem, he does not want anyone to think that he is gay and alot of strait guys think that a gay guy will try and turn them gay or hit on them, i know its stupid, but then so are most guys (haha) just talk to him about it and his family. Good luck and hopefully this get fixed
2006-12-14 23:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can and it's too bad that this has happened. Your straight friend needs to be a little more comfortable I think. He is letting his family get to him and he shouldn't. If he is comfortable enough in his own skin he wouldn't let them do this to him or to you. I hope he comes to his senses. Good luck.
2006-12-14 23:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peep are asssholes....and I'm sorry but if he ended the friendship because his family was acting and saying ignorant things...he wasnt a true friend.
2006-12-14 23:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋