love enough to make him come back.?
my ex and i broke up a while ago. he says hhe loves me . he says his heart is with me n will always be.he sed if u love some one let them go if they come back there always ures. i have been a cow to him since we broke up because i didnt know how to deal with it. threatening him with various things, which i regret totally.
he now says he needs to 'find out who he is', his 'heart is with me but his head isnt' and 'circumstances mean we cnt be together at mo' becaus he cant forget the bad stuff that happened at the end. some explanations please. is he needing this time to forget the bad stuff , if so do u think he ever will? or can if he LOVES ME
the whole purpose of not finding somone knew is thti love him and know it can be gd
i asked if he waNts me to move on , and he sed no he doesnt but knows he cant tell me to wait.
he says his heart is always with him but his head not with me at the moment. dont say move on bcus how can i knowin he loves m
2006-12-14 23:41:46 · 6 answers · asked by lola f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It possible to love someone but not be with them anymore. I dont know what happened in your relationship but somethings are hard to forget . If you cheated while in the relationship are did something causeing him not to trust you It hard to let someone back in ..YOU may still love them but you worry that if you take them back you will have to go through that pain you felt all over again . If trust has been broken the relationship is screwed It will cause problems forever. Give him some time ,if its going to be it will be . After a break up your head isnt clear anyway you are scared to move on afraid of losing what you had but after going threw problems that require seperation , what you had is gone anyway . The only way to go on is to forgive and start fresh , just takes a long time if ever for the forgiving part. good luck
2006-12-14 23:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by tigerb29209 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him then be patient with him, you must have said or did some really horrible things to him to make him feel that he needs time right now. Give him all the time he needs and keep loving him. Show him that you have changed and really change. He is telling you he can not ask you to wait but if you don't and you move on you may be losing the love of your life forever. Tell him you are not waiting for him because it is what he wants, tell him you are waiting because you know in your heart that the two of you are meant to be together and you will do what ever you need to do to work things out, including giving him his space to work things through. Be patient and love him and support him in his decision. In time things will get better. In the mean time work on you and be happy with yourself and then all will work out. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-14 23:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother and his ex had a similar situation...however, despite the fact that they worked it all out and both still love each other, they came to realize that they make better friends than partners. You can always still love someone but not be "in" love any longer...it happens.
This has worked out for them...they have two children and it was important to both parents that the kids not be a part of any nasty situations.
My brother also told her he had to find himself...in the very early days it was very difficult for both of them...but after awhile they came to the reasoning that it couldn't be all about them...they had to ensure the kids made it through ok, that's what allowed them to act with maturity and class.
Good luck
2006-12-14 23:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says he loves you and wants you back because he wants sex, don't be a victim. Go on your way and let him figure out what his is. He'll play you in everyway he can to take advantage of that which he had. If you're still in his life it will be easier for him to do it. Be careful sweetie.
2006-12-14 23:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by zelin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you move on knowing he loves you?....argh...he got you with that old line...He just wants his cake and eat it too...Wants to see what else is out there....but boy is it nice to know someone is so gullible to be waiting for him if it doesn't work out...Is this all you are worth?...Move on!...I know it is painful...and I am sorry for that...but you really need to do it...Time and new things in your life will eventually help....Good luck.
2006-12-14 23:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is muddled. Just give him time.
2006-12-14 23:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋