we are separated now but not legally.for all the pain he gave to me i decided to stop between us coz hes a cheater,lier all the bad things that i didnt knew that can do to me well sadly he did the unexpected.the person i knew i was all mistake.its hard to say gudbye to him especially we have kids but i have to do it coz eventhough he wants to come back i told him its over.he never give enough money for the kids and he is noy responsible father im saying this because financially hes not giving money i have to say it first and begging him,cry for the childsupport because i dont have work yet the time he left us.his in states as imigrant.me and kids in manila.we cant live in states because its hard to get visa and were not rich honestly.i dont know if its right that i told him that im not pushing anymore for the childsupport.if they want to give its up to them,cause im getting hurt when im asking for the money its like im the one who made them.i guess its he like what i said abt the cs.
2006-12-14 23:38:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok, first contact your legal aid office in your area; they are in all states and most counties. it should be in your phone book, or call the county court clerks office and ask if they have the number. they go on a sliding scale, so its free to most.
you should not have to beg for child support (your ex likes this by the way, you beg'n). you are your childs ONLY advocate, so you need to be strong for them. so do what you gotta do, stand your ground, take him to court and get a child support order made. here is a calculator. just click on your state, and fill in the fields, it will tell you about how much he will have to pay.
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
here are some other links, just click on your state and find the child support sections. the last ones are to help you and your family :)
hang in there and stay strong.... they need you to be.
2006-12-18 15:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try taking him to court for the c.s, im sorry you have to go through that~ but what dont kill you will surely make you a whole lot stonger & even if it seems as though he is getting away with doing you & the kids this way believe me when i tell you that he isnt ~ what goes around comes around "karma is a b***h", he will pay 1 way or another you just keep ya' head up & stay focused, yes i know being "a single parent" isnt easy, but there are plenty of women doing it & doing a great job at it, so until things pick up for you stay strong & know in your heart that you can do it!!! good luck & best wishes....
2006-12-15 07:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to a lawyer. There are alot of services available for people just like you. Cut off all contact with the bum - he'll only continue to cause you grief. Get some support - they can enforce child-support, and you never have to go to him again - they'll garnish his wages. Go to welfare, or a women's support shelter - they'll help you.
2006-12-15 07:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart you really eed to do it legally, get a restraining order and demand that he pays child support, they WILL get it for you. Don't beat yourself up sweetie a lot of people have been through this, You really need to go to the courthouse, or this can get bad! Please!
2006-12-15 07:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by zelin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In our state we have a child support recovery department that will get the support needed and send it to you.
Don't let him off the hook...this is his responsibility
2006-12-15 07:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Cadman1965 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well bring him to court or something you are the one who made them
2006-12-15 07:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Shanana 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋