I had a huge fight with my wife last night and then went out to a bar, picked up a girl and cheated on my wife. We are both in the military and she is actually pregnant. I did not mean for things to go this far, but they did. What do I do?
2006-12-14 23:02:07 · 20 answers · asked by Damn Good Dawg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess I should add I feel very guilty about doing this and I have never done this before.
2006-12-14 23:03:44 · update #1
The fight was over her coming to me telling me her friends were riding her, because I am not breaking the bank for all of us this Christmas. We cannot afford it and I am trying to save for when the baby comes. She is capable of spending a thousand dollars in a day-we do not have that kind of money to spend like that. I was basically upset, because she tells me these things, but when I ask her what she said back, she says nothing. It is like she does not give a crap anymore.
2006-12-14 23:15:51 · update #2
forgive yourself, ask forgiveness from the lord, and don't ever tell your wife, know it sounds dishonest, but it willdestroy her, and the love and trust she has for u. atleast u know what u did was wrong, and u won't be doing it again, so all is well, and focus on your marriage, and communicating with her, even go to counciling if u think it would help. but never share what happened last night with her, sas she will not understand, no woman does.
2006-12-15 04:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have your hands full with a big spender. If you don't stay in control of that you will be bankrupt. You are doing the right thing by spending on a budget, but all that matters is that you know you are doing the right thing. If the wife is a big spender put your foot down, but you should have never gotten angery enough to cheat. You committed the ultimate betrayal and now you have make up for it some how.
2006-12-15 08:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, if this had happened to me, I would've been totally devastated. I would go out of my mind to know that my husband had cheated on me over a fight. I have a motto in life that it's better to know the painful truth than the blissful lie...but sometimes the truth hurts too much that telling it won't bode very well. If my husband told me that he had 'accidentally' slept with another girl a few nights ago, I wouldn't want to look at him anymore. He may eventually be forgiven but the act would never be forgotten. It will come up in fights in the future.
So....it's your call.
2006-12-15 07:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I Wanted To Strangle My Husband Ray When I Caught Him Red-Handed In An Affair" "I Felt So Devastated, Enraged and Humiliated. I Never Dreamed I Could Save My Marriage, Let Alone Trust Him Again..."
read on....
2006-12-15 07:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ask Jeeves? No Ask Belbiz6! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad situation. You feel bad because what you did was wrong. Think of what it would do to her if she knew. I understand you made a mistake. But that was no way to handle the situation. You didn't get back at her like you felt you were. You dishonored yourself. Learn how to talk to her. Be respectful. Tell her what your intentions are. She will love knowing you are taking responsibility for the baby. Now take responsibility for her. Congratulations on the baby. Good luck.
2006-12-15 12:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being prior military, and being married to a military man, I know that you can have your career really jacked up because of this. I don't know what branch you are in, but I have seen Marines go to court martial over this sort of thing. I think you are very selfish, first of all. Do you know what it takes to be a military spouse? Think of the annual training you go through, and have to leave her alone. Think of deployments, odd shifts, and other oppurtunities she could have to cheat on you, but doesn't. And you go cheat on her because of a money argument? Shame on you. People like you deserve to get kicked out of the military.
2006-12-15 08:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jennalove311 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not good..Cheating is never good..Wow and she's pregnant with YOUR child...Either tell what you did or don't say a word and get over it, BUT NEVER LET IT HAPPEN AGAIN! Lots of things can cause cheating, but seriously spending money at Christmas isn't a good reason.. She didn't deserve it..
Merry Christmas and Good Luck
2006-12-15 07:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being honest in a relation is a basic. But what would it add to both your lifes if you tell her.. Keep quiet, understand she's pregnant and can be in terrible moods, (hormones do weird things, I 've lived it myslf) Just be kind, patient and forgive yourself. Don't ruin your life further. Go for the good.
2006-12-15 08:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by belgium 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
O.k Somethings are best kept to your ownself. Erase that memory and swear by your ownself , your unborn child and GOD that you will not repeat this. Go back and buy some flowers ( Your wife is pregnant damned) and say sorry. It doesnt hurt to lower your ego in front of someone whom you love.
2006-12-15 07:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by Rahul S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in a simalar situation to you, I had a huge argument with me husband, we split up and i went and sha@@ed someone else. Although we wernt officially together i felt really really sh*t. I told him about it and at the time i really wished i hadnt, but now i know that telling him was definately the best thing to do.
2006-12-15 07:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by Lau Lau 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋