I am currently dating a member of the military. We were together before he went in. I am getting ready to leave for basic in a few months myself. (so long as I am not pregnant) We are not guarenteed to be stationed toegether unless we get married. I have had people in the military tell me we should get married before I ship. Because everything would be easier. So I am unsure if we should get married so soon. So should we get married first or wait?
2006-12-14 21:09:33 · 8 answers · asked by Mikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Edit: I am ready for marriage, but I am unsure if he is.
2006-12-14 21:32:26 · update #1
There are pros & cons...
If you get married now...yes you are going to be stationed in the same place. If you join after it will be a little while before you guys are at the same place. The military has a lot of problems sometimes specially with paperwork. Being a military family is never easy specialy if you have 2 different MOS'es. While one can be deployed and on there way back...the other one might be on his/her way to deployment. There is a lot of divorces in the military but if you put hard work into it can last a lifetime. Stay strong and positive and you guys will overcome that bump. Best Wishes To You!
2006-12-14 21:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by LuLu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage for me is a serious comitment which has to be gotten into with a lot of consideration. There is no one who is perfect in this world, yet there are basic questions that one needs to answer before they finally say yes "I am ready to live with this person".
Some of the questions you need to ask yourself are;
1. Why are people in the military telling you to get married before you ship, are there things about him that they are hiding from you?
2. How well do you know this man?
3. Have you come to accept his limitations?
4. The most important question is "do you LOVE him"?
For me distance would separate us if we do not trust each other and do not communicate. Otherwise, if you need to wait because of a few reasons please do just that for your sake and for the sake of themarriage to last.
2006-12-15 05:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by clare m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are both ready and sure of it. I understand wanting to be stationed together and all, but if one of you isn't ready it's not going to work in the long run. If you are in love and are ready to commit to a life together then go ahead...get married and I wish you both the best of luck. Thank you for serving our country!
2006-12-15 06:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing with my wife. I have been in the Army for 12 years and she has only been in two now. I would say really think about. Is this the person you want to be with the rest of your life? I honestly wish I would have waited now.
2006-12-15 07:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by Damn Good Dawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO,NO,NO. Wait until that is over. You will both go through some serious changes. The person you find on the back end will not be the one you know now.
2006-12-15 06:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your ready to get married.But dont get married for the sake of it.
2006-12-15 05:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by Louis K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say get married before you go in.
If he isn't ready then don't get married until he does
2006-12-15 05:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should fallow your heart .i say to married
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2006-12-15 05:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋