My wife and I are in the process of fostering/adopting a child and we have been told that the child may have been sexually abused. The child is displaying inappropriate sexual behaviour (this is a VERY young child) to the point where she can not be left unsupervised around other children. We are committed to this child who is otherwise well-behaved and want to give her a the loving and secure home she has never had, but we have no idea how to support this child or get her the help that she needs.
Time and money are no object here but we need to know what we could or should do about this. How do you stop this behaviour? How do you talk to a 6 year old about sex and what is sexually appropriate? Are there any specialists in this area that we can take her to? Any advice anyone has about this would be great!
2006-12-14 20:44:42 · 9 answers · asked by jaynic72 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You talk openly and honestly. I told my then 5 yr old that it was not appropriate to touch herself in the living room while watching cartoons. I explained masturbation, and that it is a private thing and she needs to close her bedroom door if she wants to do it, because it's not appropriate for others to see it. She told me what time that she closed her door because she was proud she was following the rules.
She is now 7, and she doesn't do it at all. I imagine she was just curious about her body when she was 5, because that's way to young. Using the same open method, talk to your kid and let her know what is and isn't appropriate so that she can unlearn some of the stuff she learned. Teach her to respect her body and that it belongs to her and only her.
2006-12-14 20:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was also abused as a child. Not sexually, but physically. SO in a way I understand to some point as to what this child is going through. My advice to you is simple. Love her and work with her like you would a pet. She will have to be retaught what is right from wrong. It will be a long process but in the end it is much worth the time and effort to know that you could help. Another suggestion would be to seek out counseling for her to go to. Start her out young going and it will be easier on you to help retrain her the difference in right from wrong. Also the counselor will be able to give you many new and good ideas. If you think it necessary, you might even think about a family counselor, so that she doesn't feel alone in the process. Just remember, life is full of hard tasks, but if you are really wanting to be a family than you do whatever it takes to have a family. I wish you all the best. My best goes out to all of you.
2006-12-14 21:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by matthewsisk_2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to these kind of things, there are many things you can do.
For starters, you can take her to a psychologist. Getting professional help is always the best option and action. Secondly, you can start doing little things at home that'll make her understand acceptable social conducts.
Like, teach her what is accepted by society through things such as stories, etc. Like one of those once upon a time story with a moral lesson at the end. It may not seem much, but a child at that age is easily influenced. It'll help her understand what is okay and what is not.
2006-12-14 20:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by Diamond 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is going to take a lot of patiences and serious counseling. But if you are commited you can survive. The love you can show to the child is crucial. This will also help maybe to stop them from becoming what happened to them. It is a gamble, but one that can work..You're gong to need to find a child Psychologist, maybe one that also specializes in sex crimes. Good luck, hard road ahead of you
2006-12-14 20:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by back2skewl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many specialists in this area. Try the American psychological Association website. Also there is a center that treats abused children in boulder, CO.
2006-12-14 20:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by hellothere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her into the right counseling, and you need family counseling. Someone who you are dealing with now should be helping you with this.
2006-12-14 20:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the child how do they feel and what exactly do you want mommy or daddy to do concerning their negative experience.
2006-12-14 20:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by reme14u 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try an psychologist councilor
2006-12-14 21:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by eug3n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please consult specialist.she is in danger.someone has destroyed her life.when she will be grown up she has to face emtional problems too.you must meet doctors
2006-12-14 23:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by UnderstandingLife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋