Yesterday I asked a question regarding my wife, and her continued sexual affairs in my house. While I am confined to the basement, or forced to go out, she brings in a variety of men.
Anyway, this morning she has told me that she wants to go away with on of them, but wants me to pay for it. What should I do?
2006-12-14 20:29:28 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You deserve her you spineless pathetic excuse of a man.
2006-12-14 23:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... Firstly look in the mirror and ask yourself one thing... do you have Welcome written on you????? Because your acting like a door mat...
You need to stand up for yourself and stop being treated like an ibeceile (mentally weak). I cant beleive you have put up with it for so long....
Look if she is going away with someone else and wants you to pay... consider this your get out clause...
PAY for the dam holiday.... SEND HER ON HER WAY.....
But make sure you change the locks of the house and put everything she owns in bin bags and put them in the garage for her return... 1st of Jan go to your solicitors and file for divorce... A new year a new start ... (beleive you can do this!! as you ARE better than this)
You DONT need to be in this situation. the love has obviously gone and she has made her own life now... which obviously doesnt include you.. in fact the only time she probably does think of you ifs when she's thinking right i must tell him to p*ss off this weekend as ive got company coming over...
You deserve better....
Look im gonna be keeping my eye on your threads... if you want to talk let me know and i will supply an email... I do hope this message finds you well... Take care.... (big hug) X
2006-12-14 20:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Circumstances can be deadly, before you know what's happened your in a relationship that's way over your head.
I have known relationships like yours, it starts with love, at least you are in love but it all soon turns sour and your in it.
At the end of day when it gets bad enough you act..
If you can't deal with her and it is legally your place get
the authorities to deal with it eg divorce eviction etc
if it is your place.
For some the relationship becomes a dependency which is sometimes hard to recognise and even harder to deal with but there is help out there.
In my experience fear can be overcome when life becomes unbearable. I know it can be hard because we are prepared/programmed to endure so much because of our past experiences...
But at the end of the day you must decide what you want....
2006-12-14 20:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by farshadowman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's really taking the Mick! Don't pay for her and her lover to go away together!!! The cheek of it. I would be chucking her out of the house (although you say if you have children or not). It sounds like she is openly committing adultery against you and this is grounds for divorce! The court would look kindly on you because she is the one committing adultary.
2006-12-14 20:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by nettyone2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U for real???!!!
Get rid of her! You are paying the highest price for her exploits are you not? Emotional and financial.
If she wants to go away with one of her acquaintances, she should make a money spin from the others she is seeing and charge em' for her services!! You keep yer money etc and kick her out. If you have no respect for yourself then SHE won't either!!
2006-12-14 22:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send your wife to a reformer/specialist in moral and character mould. You can get the best professional in this field among Pentecostal Pastors scattered over the US. She needs a mind transformation which only comes by the word of God according to the gospel. her mind needs to be renewed to know the significance of sex in matrimony.
2006-12-14 23:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by Thresingfloor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whilst I appreciate some people do have open relationships, this whole thing seems a bit extreme. I would certainly not pay for my partner to go away with their lover, neiher would I allow my partner to have other lovers! I guess if you're happy with it then fine, otherwise tell her where to go!
2006-12-14 21:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sampter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but could u tell me WHY U MARRIED HER??? She needs Jesus! Sry, I don't usually try to "push religion" on any 1 but if u don't mind me askin, who did ya say the vows to? No assumptions, but my personal belief is that u felt strongly enough about her to get married and tie the not, then u need to make things right. Bring it back to why u got married. I mean, if u love her. I would say that marriage is for better for worse til death do u part. If u (both) meant what u said, then work it out. Be a man, and take her @ss to a counselor, or better yet, a preacher. Good luck with that one. FO REAL!
2006-12-14 20:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by zeegeezie 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
See a divorce lawyer immediately and end this sham of a marriage. Make sure you get at least 1/2 of everything and start your life anew.
2006-12-15 10:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle Pennybags 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're taking the piss - surely.
If not then you're being walked all over matey. Get some respect and bin her. Get evidence of her adultery before you do so courts go lighter on you in divorce.
2006-12-14 20:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by Narky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have to ask for adivce about a cheating wife who needs cash to fund another fling is absurd.
Sweetie, if you don't know what you should do, then give her alll your money and stop asking us!
2006-12-14 20:38:31 · answer #11 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋