Please read this and carefully give me your advice. My boyfriend and I are young parents but not that young. Anyway we live with my grandma who keeps getting into our business. Let me explain..if my boyfriend were to just leave my daughter and at home to play basketball for a couple of hours when he would come home she would get pissed at him whereas I'm not even mad at him because I let him go. He supports all three of us and I have nothing to complain about. He buys me $100.00 pair of shoes for gods sake. But to my grandma..she's not satisfied..shes not pleased! She wants me to separate with him n find someone else with money and it hurt's his feelings because he's trying his best to please her so she wouldn't have nothing to say. But its getting out of hand to the point that shes arguing with both of us. We want to move out and leave her but she's old and no one will take care of her. But we can't keep arguing all the time just to satisfy her needs. What would you do?
2006-12-14 20:29:02 · 9 answers · asked by Jenna06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds to me like Grandma is old school, she is living in the past where most fathers worked hard every day, left the child rearing to mom and never took time to be with his wife or child much. Calmly sit down (you him And her) talk about what the problem is, and explain to her that you two love each other and that you love her, but you live a more modern life style than she does, and if this is bothering her that you could move out because you love her and don't want to hurt, or upset her in any way, but you hope that you all can wirk it out because you really don't want to leave her now that she is getting up in years.see how it goes, if it doesn't work move out and vistit often, but dont do anything in anger
2006-12-14 22:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by kathy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find a nice retirement apartment unit for Grandma and get on with your life.
This situation will not work out. Grandma is set in her ways and no amount of talking is going to change her mind.
You need to be out on your own and if you could find a place where there are other people, your grandma's age, she would have companionship and people to look after her.
My mother is 84 and lives in such a place. She has her own apartment, has made a few friends, is in a secure building, and has many things available to her, such as; a beauty shop, dining hall, transportation, medical facilities, etc.......
Her rent is based on her income and she's very happy there.
Maybe something like this is available where you live.
2006-12-15 04:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your talking $ Honey but say "Grandma" so, what's wrong with moving into your own place if he's so rich throwing money around on shoes. The last tennis I got were at Wal-Mar for $12.00 and that was four years ago, I live in my own places, gramma lives across town.
2006-12-15 07:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the basketbal thing: as long as your daughter was supervised by an adult its ok. Your grandma seems to want to be in control,. But you should let her take advantage of your husband. He's the provider, don't let grandma get under your skin but you might not be able to change her.
2006-12-15 13:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by sadiebabe81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there comes a time in your life were you just need to worry about you and you relationship with your bf...and this sounds like that time..yes she may be your grandma but shes not you so when it comes to your bf you need to tell her to stay out of it..but you say it nicely so she wont be offended by it..Ask you self is your relationship with your bf more important then arguing with you grandma..and if you do choose to move out it doesn't mean you cant go see her so she doesn't feel so alone
2006-12-15 05:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just to be seen as being useful.May be there is no other way she will be heard or seen around th ehouse.she might mean well with getting mad at your husband but tell her to keep off cos it is strainign your realtionship.And don't leave her alone cos she is a source of blessings and curss and she could choose one of them for you. She is through with her life and she might be yearnng for more than material stuff.Show her love and care and she will appreciate it.As long you don't come out as sympathetic
2006-12-15 04:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out,.sell the shoes, you dont need $100.00 shoes, use the money for rent or your daughter, remember when you have children they usually come first, so playing basketball is not really that important than taking care of the child, grow up both of you, your grandmother is right
2006-12-15 04:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by paki 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Better to move out than to have strained relationship with her.
2006-12-15 11:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and be happy.
2006-12-15 04:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by shadouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋