When you get an expensive present, and you were planning on getting yourself a better version, do you settle?

Question

It's a dilemma. Someone puts a lot of love into giving you an expensive present, when you were planning on getting the same thing, but better. In this case, what would you do? Settle for what they have given you, and enjoy it to spare their feelings? Or just buy the gift yourself regardless and sell what you've been given?

Answer 1

If someone puts a lot of love and attention into getting me an expensive present, I would not consider it settling, I would be touched at their efforts. It is not a matter of sparing their feelings. If ownership of a 'better version' of the item is more important than the care and love that went into what I got, then I am a very shallow person. The only caveat I would put on this is that if the person and I were both aware what the present was going to be but an error or availablity issue casued the purchase of the lesser version, I would offer to go with the person to get the newer or better version with their full knowledge. I would pay the difference and then both of us could relish the improvement.

I would not, however, return the item for exchange if the gift giver was not aware. To do so is not about saving face, it is about hurtful selfishness in the face of great love and care. That is something I could never bring myself to do.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

im generally seen as a rude and obnoxious person even though i dont intend to be its just my personality and mode of thinking. im a logical person and to me it would make more sense as someone else on here mentioned to just sell the thing and get what you really wanted.

i could not STAND it if that happened to me, now i wouldn't want the person to find out but at the same time, if they did find out, i couldn't get over how it couldn't be seen in the light of either (from the gift givers perspective) "he obviously was planning on a better version, so he did what was best and took the profit from reselling and got what he was planning on" or "well, that seemed like a good gift, perhaps he got interested in the better versions and just had to get a better version after acquiring the knowledge of why it was better".

anyway do what you feel is best, but i certainly wouldn't sit there and try to live in a delusion that i liked a gift that i didnt

sorry if i come across as insensitive or obnoxious but thats just how i see things.

Answer 4

I'd do the latter.

Sell the one you've gotten and buy the one you want. Pretending to like a gift you actually don't really sucks. Sure, it'll hurt the person should he/or she ever find out. But the point of a gift is something to make you happy. Why should you keep it if it doesn't make you happy.

As a matter of fact, you can take it that the newer gift is a gift from him/her. Since technically, you can buy it using the money you get from selling his/her gift.

Answer 5

I think the best to go about it is to tell your friend, you love the gift and it was thoughtful..you've been thinking about getting it, but not this exact version..now that you received it as a gift from your amazing friend..ask if you can return it, get the money and get the version you wanted..now you can afford it..or it saves you money..say that you'll still remember it was a gift from that person and that you really appreciate it..they probably wanted to get you the better version in the first place but don't have the money..tell the person and make it sincere.
it's better to tell them, then have them find out.

Answer 6

Don't "settle" ..... accept what you have been given and use it...... later as time passes you can upgrade to the one you want.... and you will both come out without any hurt feelings or feelings of guilt...
Its a "win win" situation.....

Answer 7

~I would settle.~