Do you think that when a teenage girl gets pregnant do you think that their parents could care less?

Question

1. Why aren't the parents more strict?
2.Why isn't the girl on birth control if she knows she cannot hold herself back from having sex?
3.Why dosen't the teenage boy buy a 75 cent condom and wear it?
4.Why would a normal teenager want to become pregnant when they are still a kid themselves?

I am a 27 year old married mother of one son

I am not judging anyone. I think that teenagers are far too young to be having babies. What i have asked is what i believe and i am entitled to my own opinions. I think it is sad to see a 13 year old pregnant now wouldn't you agree?

I can stand up for myself. I do know a bit about teen pregnancy having friends in school getting pregnant when they were 15/16/17 years old and it ruined their lives

Answer 1

Alot of parents are not to blame. But I do agree with you. I think the government make it to easy for teenagers having baby's, they never have to go to work and get the housing paid for, it also seems to be a trend. (I know not every teenager thinks that way.) I am also 27 with two children 4 and 2.

Answer 2

1. Why aren't the parents more strict?
-Strict or not strict, pregnancy can happen. I have many friends who have the most evil parents and then the others have the most loose parents that will let there daughters do anything. And they'll both end up pregnant. Once your in the situation there's nothing that can be done. You just have to accept it.
2.Why isn't the girl on birth control if she knows she cannot hold herself back from having sex?
-Even if she was on birth control, missing one pill can cause pregnancy. Which i know atleast 4 of my friends have gotten pregnant this way. I had a pregnancy scare from being on BC but I also took meds. that canceled out my pills, and none of my doctors told me this. So BC can also mess up.
3.Why dosen't the teenage boy buy a 75 cent condom and wear it?
-Because he'll either say he was too embarassed to buy them, or plead with the girl and tell her it feels better without them. Or the other two famous lines that if anything happens he promises he'll be there for her or the whole don't you love me. I've heard so many things, me and my friends have sat in a group discussing the things our boyfriends have told us.
4.Why would a normal teenager want to become pregnant when they are still a kid themselves?
-Things happen. There are some teens who want to become pregnant. But not all, so you shouldn't see them all like that. A lot of them accidentally get pregnant but don't fall into what a lot of people think about teen moms. All of my friends are graduating a year early, have jobs, are going to college after highschool, and do everything for there little ones. And nearly all without the kids father in there lives.

I think you need to stop with the questions, and maybe pay attention to your kid if he's a teen. He could fall victim to what happens a lot.

Answer 3

Yes I do think parents could care less about their pregnant kids.

1. Why aren't the parents more strict?

Because they often think of sex as taboo and are too embarressed to talk to their kids about it so the only way these teens learn anything about sex is from sex ed class and other kids doing it which in turn makes the non sexually active teens do it thus getting pregnant at early ages. The parents need to quit thinking that sex is taboo and sit down with their kids at an early age and tell their kids all about it even if they don't think they need to know about it and maybe that will cut down on teen pregnancies.

2.Why isn't the girl on birth control if she knows she cannot hold herself back from having sex?

Because most parents don't want to buy their teen daughters birth control because they don't want other people knowing their daughters are sexually active because the parents and teens are looked down upon by society. The parents because if they buy birth control than the whole world knows their teens are messing around and the teens because they don't want to be "uncool" if their on birth control.

3.Why dosen't the teenage boy buy a 75 cent condom and wear it?

Because to teen boys sex doesn't feel good with a condom on so they don't bother wearing them or even buying them. Again it comes down to the parents not teaching their teens the things about sex before they hit junior high.

4.Why would a normal teenager want to become pregnant when they are still a kid themselves?

Because they think that their parents are too hard on them and that their parents don't love them so they think if they have a baby that the baby will love them like the parents suppossedly don't and don't realize that a baby doesn't give you love. Unfortuntly they don't realize that until they are pregnant and by then it's too late. Or it could be due to maybe their friends have kids and they think "oh well he/she has a kid and their cool so I should try having one too."

Answer 4

I must be an old school mom. As a 33yr old mother of 4 kids, I too think teen pregnancy is a sad state. Personally sex wasn't on my mind until I was oh.. 18? And even then didn't happen til I was married at 20. But enough of me.

I don't think it has to do with the strictness of the parents. My mom wasn't strict with me. I think it has a lot to do with how much the parents let their children know they care what's going on with them. If the child has been ignored or other areas of their life have been ignored then they might not care what their parents think about them having sex. I know that if my mom found out I was making out with my bf at that age she would have been disappointed in me and that alone stopped me from doing a lot of things
As far as the birth control? Hard to say on that one. Maybe she wasn't planning on being active. Maybe she can't get it on her own and if she doesn't want to ask mom, doesn't have anywhere else to go. And for condoms.. well... even my husband has never worn a condom. I think it's a guy thing, they just don't like them. The better question here would be, why aren't the girls saying no unless he wears one? Again, probably the lack of education in this department.
A lot of times a teen wants to become pregnant so that she has someone to love her. Especially if her parents just don't have the time for her. This makes them focus more on her and if that doesn't work, she has a baby who will love her. Wait til she finds out how much work they are!

Answer 5

1) The more stricter the parents, the more likely the kids are to get around their rules. It's called rebellion--and most teens experience some form of it.

2) Some girls don't know--or don't want to know--about birth control. Others simply don't care.

3) Unless either the boy finds a men's room equipped with one of those vending machines, or is 18+, most places either can't--or won't--sell them! Either that, or the boy finds the thrill of doing it unprotected.

4) It appears most "normal" teenagers might not know they can become pregnant. If they do, there is a serious love problem at home. Either that, or they are confused--which is already the case if they are having sex for love at that age.

Besides--most parents truly do care. After all, like it or not, it is their potential grandchildren that's at stake. Today's teenagers are not prepared to handle the ups and downs of parenthood. However, they usually don't learn this lesson until it's too late.

Answer 6

"Cause they're sluts" Haha, the girls that sleep around and don't get pregnant must be quite the saints right? 60% of teenagers get pregnant, 30% have a child before 20. It can happen to anyone that is sexually active. We're not all the same, and everybody has different reasons to purposely procreate. If you ask an adult woman why she decided to have a baby, it usually isn't any more different than a teenager's response. Saying that I decided to get pregnant at 15 to start my family isn't an acceptable answer, but if I was 21 it magically is. Okay.

Answer 7

You act like most teenagers who get pregnant do it on purpose.

Parents can not be everywhere the children are. Most, no matter how involved they are in there childrens lives, have completly no idea there children are having sex.

Birth control does not always work. My cousin is 28 and married (so dont jump down my throat thinking shes 15) and was on birth control to treat PCOS so she could try to concieve and a week ago she found out she was pregnant.

Condoms break. Simple as that.

Only a super small percent, maybe 5% actually intend to become pregnant.

As much as its not your place to judge or think it is up to you, you need to understand that yes they may have made some mistakes but you cant take it out on the baby or parents. It disgusts me when people kick there children out, thats just saying I love you unless you make mistakes (no the baby is not a mistake). Also you need to take it out on the baby. It's not saying that the parents do not care becuase they are being supportive its saying that they love there children.

Kids are going to have sex and honestly, if there in a steady relationsip, and are safe, as long as your not like 15 or 16, I dont see why there is any reason why not to. It's not up to others to control weather or not someone can and can not have sex.

Answer 8

Well, in life, things are never so simple as they seem when written down.
1. Rampant hormones will evade the sensors of even an 'on patrol' parent - eg: teenagers having sex in the front yard at dusk whilst mum is inside cooking the meal!!
2. You need to get to the appointment in order to get the birth control - maybe the parents are too strict and the girl doesnt know how to get the birth control without getting into trouble?
3. the boy doesnt have the condom - but he still has the desire and the will to convince the girl - he thinks he will 'pull out' in time : his mates told him they did it and were okay.
4. Normal is what is biologically determined. Maybe it is a little bit against nature to have to wait, and wait and wait, .... but we are not JUST animals. So we learn to wait.

But not all of us.

Some of us make mistakes. And they are completely human, completely understandable mistakes.

Yes. Its better to do everything the RIGHT way. But it only works out like that for a few people.

Answer 9

Well the parents should have been stricter before she got pregnant. After the fact, there's nothing much they can do. Sure, they'll be angry for a day or two, but they have to get over it and help their daughter out. The girl isn't on birth control or using a condom for the same reason she's having sex. She was never taught properley. Normal teens don't think of the consequences before they act. Becoming pregnant won't happen to them, only those others.

Answer 10

My parents were very strict; I had a 10 pm curfew on weekends until I moved out at 17.
I was on the patch when I became pregnant with my first and the nuva ring when I became pregnant with my second., Both are LOW-dose hormones which do NOT work for me.
We didn't have a 75 cent condom, my fiance spent quite a bit on the economy pack.
I didn't WANT to become pregnant; I got pregnant and don't believe in abortion.