what do you think of crossdressers?

Question

i am a 37 yo cd and i can pass with no problem i go ut in public all the time, my question is this. if a guy like me wants to dress and act like a girl as my way expressing my inner self. do you believ i have the right to do this so long as my actions cause no harm nor infringe upon anybody elses rights? i was recently told to leave a restaraunt where i was going to dine with my gf ( who is a girl) the waitress must have known when i spoke to her, it is the only part of being a girl i have a hard time faking. well any way the manager came over and told us we had to leave or he was going to call the polidce. we were minding our own buisness and not bothering anybody. i know for a fact that no one even gave us a second thought when we entered the place, in fact we had to wait 20 minutes to sit. in that time no one stared, snickered or otherwise gave us a second look. so what is it about us that scares all of you we are not perverts, weirdos, or anything of that nature .

people are people no matter what, there are bad people in all facets of society, but to lable all crossdressers as deviants is wrong. so please tell me just what it is that bothers you all so much. and if it doesn't bother you then please help educate the people that treat us like we are lower than dirt.

Answer 1

Cross dressers should be able to dress as they please. Their choice of clothing, make up, hairstyle or whatever be they crossdressing as men or women is their personal and private business. No one has a right to judge or bother them.

I feel strongly that the world needs to stop judging simply on the basis of appearance and accepted standards of dress. The dominant society cannot speak for minorities.

No one knows better than anyone who has been singled out for stares, ridicule and even violence because of the colour of thier skin, their physical limitations, their stature or weight that one's appearance should not matter to others. Yet it is people from all walks of life who would choose to discriminate against GBLT's and in this case cross-dressers.

Perhaps it is time to turn our hateful eyes to the mirror for with a little empathy, we might note that the world would be a much better place if our eyes and heart were more concerned with the well-being of our fellow humans than with their choice of attire.

Please spare me those who think that they are caring when they judge and believe that their views are the only and the right ways of being.

As for the restaurant manager, unfortunately businesses have the right to refuse service to anyone. That is a shame, perhaps it is time for cross-dresser to make the same stand that blacks and others have been forced to make.

YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE SERVED THAT EVERYONE ELSE IN THAT RESTAURANT HAD.

It gauls me that you were treated so shabbily. Just rest assured that there are others in the world that would have spoken up against your discrimination. It is about time we all did.

More power to you for recognising that this is your right. You have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of. Truly, the shame is theres.

Answer 2

On 16 December 2014, the U.S. Department of Justice issued a statement that they WILL prosecute companies for gender identity infractions. President Obama also issued an Executive Order ( a Presidentially declared law ) that finds employers and government funded establishments that violate gender identity can loose their government contracts -- and it is happening to MANY companies right now.

This means as a crossdresser you have a right to be who YOU are and you do not have to fit "societal norms" declared by nutcases, abusers, employers and establishments that don't agree for any number of reasons. Bias is bias is bias -- the law looks only at whether a person was discriminated against, not the establishment's religious beliefs, morals or any other kooky reason they can dream up.

Bottom line -- You have a rite male or female to dress up as you like as long as it's not sexually explicit and you're not harming anyone. Those who don't agree beware -- your rights end where a crossdresser's nose begins !

A word to employers. This applies to YOU -- FEDERALLY. Yes, a lawyer can and often WILL sue any company for a gender identity infraction, particularly and especially if you're a government contractor and /or contractee.

The one thing to remember and take away from this all is -- is it worth losing all of your stuff over one stupid little bias or would you just prefer to give it away because you disagree with social norm evolution ?

Answer 3

What do I think of cross dressers? Well, they're good for the clothing business.

As for your experience at the restaurant, I think that if you had stood your ground, the restaurant would have backed off. When they told you they would call the police, you should have said do you mind if I call the newspaper first, so that they'll be sure to get this on the TV news. And then you could have said to them "You don't mind being interviewed by the news team do you? You know, explaining to them why you and the owners of your establishment are prejudiced against people who chose to cross dress?" Also, in the future, at other restaurants, you could just not speak. Ask your girlfriend to order for you. If necessary, she can explain that your voice easily gets hoarse because of a recuring vocal chord ailment. This is an alternate suggestion in case you're not one who cares to stand his ground.

Anyway, good luck with your situation. The older I get and the more I hear about what other people have to go through in life, the more fortunate I feel. My life seems so easy and simple when compared with the lives of others.

Answer 4

You have every right to dress up and express your self through dressing in a feminine manner; you are not intruding upon anyone's life by doing that and if it makes certain people uncomfortable, they should try and swallow that discomfort. When people openly shun people who are different, they are expressing that discomfort outrightly, which would inherently be wrong.
If I am uncomfortable with you, I should learn to cope with it instead of telling you to get out of my face because some day someone might think the torn jeans I am wearing is making them uncomfortable and hence tell me to leave.
Stand up for what you believe in and live the way you want to; prejudice is ignorance.
Cheers.

Answer 5

~You have to admit it is odd, weird, etc. If I saw you, I would be whispering to whoever I was with and probably feel uncomfortable. If a man dresses as a woman, what else is this man capable of?
How would I know you weren't going to harm anyone? This is not something I deal with often. In fact, I've only seen a cross dresser twice in person. I didn't feel threatened the second time, but I think it was his personality that won me over.~

Answer 6

I've date particularly a couple of ladies in my skirts, hose and heels and NONE of them complained. In reality, they all knew up entrance who I was once and what I was once approximately. Crossdressing for me isn't a sexual factor, however it is extra like a fetish excellent. I do not customarily do it within the bed room, it is only for remedy, seem and suppose...

Answer 7

I think part of what makes crossdressers a little uncomfortable is that as children we learn the differences between men and women. It's something that has been ingrained in us all of our lives. So when we see someone that doesnt fit that mold it is off putting. I think that men dressing as women or women dressing as men is fine its their choice to live their life that way but as long as they don't try to get with someone without telling them that they aren't what they seem.

Answer 8

Nothing wrong with it in my opinion. And that person that goes by the name "WHO CARES" has entirely too much time on his/her hands to know how to flip you the bird on the computer.

Answer 9

That is discrimination,,I would sue.People have a right to wear whatever they wish.Its not like you walked in with a mask on your face & a gun in your hand,,geez,,what is wrong with some people!!

Answer 10

I feel bad for guys.... especially the ones that want to express their feminine side.. Girls can wear pants, sweatshirts, all guy stuff and no one questions us about it, you guys have to look like freaks to express yourselves...Pity!!!!