As a Muslim girl, can I marry a non-muslim man?

Question

I'a muslim girl and I met a man a few months ago. We fall in love and plan to get married. But my mother says NO to our marrage, since he is a non-muslim. What can I DO? I need your suggestion very much. Check me out on my personal page:

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Answer 1

No. According to my Muslim husband, a Muslim man can marry a Jewish or Christian woman, but a Muslim woman can only marry a Muslim man. It doesn't seem fair to me. Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

I am not familiar with the rules or standards of the Muslim faith, but if you are in love and he is in love with you, go for it. As long as he understands and supports your religion and ways of life, there's nothing wrong with it. Your mother wants what is best for you, and probably believes that a Muslim husband would be the best for you. But you make your own decisions when it comes to who you want to marry. Some issues might come up later - like how will you raise your children (if you end up having children)? In the Muslim faith? Or not? Things like that have to be established and understood. Also, the things you will teach your future children according to your religion may be different from what he would teach. Just make sure there isn't a shadow of a doubt that your marriage will work. If you feel in your heart that there will be problems, really think about it. If these issues are not even issues for you both, and you are happy with each other and want to get married, then go for it!

Answer 3

no you are not to do that if you are muslim. but I say go for it love only happens once in a life time, but be prepaired to give up your faith if he is christian. If he is not a christian or a muslim it is doutful your marriage will last anyway. Be it muslim or christian without faith of some kind your love will soon die. Divorce is ramped in the united states mostly because marriage is a throw away thing. don't like it get a divorce. Marriage is a hard thing. so make sure you are on the same page about things talk it over. What will your children be muslim or what???? Even if he is not a christian I bet he will not want his children raised muslim if he is a strong american. sorry sweetie I know it is hard. but my advise is if you are a strong muslim then marry another muslim it's the right thing to do.

Answer 4

Muslim women marrying non-Muslim men in the hope that they may become Muslim What is the ruling on a Muslim woman marrying a non-Muslim man, especially when she hopes that he will become Muslim after marriage? Many Muslim women claim that they cannot find suitable Muslim men, and that they are faced with the threat of having to commit sin or live in extremely straitened circumstances. Praise be to Allaah. It is forbidden for Muslim women to marry non-Muslim men, according to the Qur’aan, the Sunnah and the consensus of the scholars (ijmaa’) (see question # 689) . If such a marriage takes place, it is invalid, it does not have any impact upon inheritances according to sharee’ah, and any children born from this union are illegitimate. Hoping that the husband may become Muslim does not alter this ruling in the slightest. Islam Q&A Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

Answer 5

Consider all of the consequences. Does he practice a different faith all together, or is he non-religious? How well do you practice and how serious are you about Islam? If he is of a different religion, in what faith will you raise your children? You can always say you'll let them decide, but they can't effectively do that until they reach adulthood, so you need to have a set plan. Will you be wed in a traditional Muslim cermony, or, if he's of a different faith, will you be married as his religion so prescribes. Imagine what life is gonna be like with him and how you religion could conflict with a healthy marriage- If it comes to deciding between the two, what's more important, your faith or your fiance? If there's true love there, hopefully that decision can be handled and whatever common ground lies between can be a starting point for a bi-religious life together.

Answer 6

There is no law that states a Muslim can't marry a non-Muslim. Your mum may feel insecure for you if you were to marry a non-Muslim because of the difference in faith. Have you tried converting your friend to the Muslims faith? Alternatively, advise you mum that you have full faith in your boyfriend and is confidence that the marriage will work out perfectly well. Tell her not to worry too much.

Answer 7

Assalamualaikum... Hello. I am a muslim girl as well, practicing and from multi-ethnic background. Islam has laid out rules in detail of everything we do, and this includes marriage. Of course love is imporant as well :) But, we (muslims) are to marry within the faith.

Should your man embraces the faith, your mum should not have anything to reject the proposal, based on suitability or basic requirement of the faith, only personal judgement.

But to better understand the dilema of your problem, try talking to your Imams. *hugs* I wish you all the best...

Answer 8

IF he is willing to convert, then all is OK. But dont forget that he will not be respected by your family as well as his family and friends. A person is only respected if he converts because he believes in that religion not for a girl sake. So think properly. There is always the Civil Court but you will also loose your family & relations. Even your family will shamed and scorn by others.
If you are willing to sacrifice all that, then go ahead.

Good Luck

Answer 9

I come from that same family too but unlike mosted ppl i'm also american, your mother is telling the turth ,but if he loves you he could change his religion once he does and your mother still says no, in islam your mother has no rights to choose between ur feelings ,in islam it says if u feel this is true love runaway with him,it also means your mother will get very angery.but is he worth it? .

I know how that feels but it's your life,whats more safe is changing his religion and he has too go to your mother and father for your hand of marriage.
good luck i hope the bested will come from this.

Answer 10

go right ahead, there will probably be some problems in the future but they may die.Your Grown right make your own decisions. My boyfriend is muslim and im not and only some of his family knows about me, and it gets annoying sometimes.