I am asking this because in future I might marry another person, so will this friendship cause any problems for me?
2006-12-14 18:08:08 · 6 answers · asked by sapfanatic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm inclined to believe that you already know the answer. =-) You know how it goes. If you have to ask...
Yes, it could cause problems, and I suspect that you feel it may cause problems as well. Your future husband may have a problem with it, the ex may have a problem with the fact that you are getting married, and of course... there is always the possibility that all of your feelings for this other man haven't exactly dissolved.
I believe that being "in love" is completely chemical, but truly loving someone is something that never goes away. You may always care for this ex of yours, but I'd advise you keep a safe distance just incase. You can be "send each other cards during the holidays" friends... but I wouldn't suggest "monday night bowling friends".
Best wishes!
2006-12-14 19:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by Carmen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise against it but it could depend on a lot of things. Why are you no longer in love with this guy? Was he in love with you? Is it really over between you two? If you remain friends would it be a close friendship where the two of you do things together or would it be more of a "keep in touch" kind of friendship? It could also depend on the person you might marry. How would he feel about the friendship? If you're honest with yourself about why you want to keep in contact with this guy you will find the answer in your own heart.
2006-12-14 18:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by snowblower556 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although most will advise no, I have to tell you yes. If you can maintain that friendship even though you love him. It's not easy. I fell for a man....have not felt this way in years....so accepted so cared for....yet I can't have him. He belongs to another. I honor that relationship he has. We have remained friends. I have yet to see how another man will react to my friendship with him, and I intend to keep him as my friend when I do find a man for a relationship.
I want this man in my life for the rest of my life....even when I find a relationship. Time will tell.
good luck.................be well
2006-12-15 00:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly a BIG NO but if the guy is a perfect gentleman and respect your decision, then I figure it is alright. But my advice to you is not to be tempted to lean on him and start having an affair and keep the distance.
Good Luck
2006-12-14 18:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you wanting to keep him around in case the marriage doesn`t work out?
2006-12-14 18:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nooooooooooo
2006-12-14 18:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋