Is it not rascist if a person will only date within their ethnic group? I.E. Hindu's, and Muslims.?

Question

I have found that Muslim women, and Hindu women especially will not date outside of their race. I know for a fact that they find other race's attractive. It's a Physiological gaurantee that they find other races of human beings attractive, yet they in my opinion choose to be rascist, and only date within their race.

I was under the impression that in the 21st century we were over the social misconceptions of other races, and were not ruled by centuries old rascist beliefs. I truly feel pity for women/men who allow their lives to be dictated by family members in other countries, books that carry no relativity in today's world, or social misconceptions they believe to be reality.

Answer 1

Certainly not.

Racism does not mean you cannot have personal preferences and desires. It means that you recognize them and ensure you do not descriminate against them.

Choosing a mate from your own race is not descriminating.

However - I would suggest that criticising people for doing so probably does constitute racism!!

Answer 2

Hinduism and Islam aren't races, they're religions. So no, it's not racist. Did they say they would only date other people of the same religion or only people of the same skin color? Rejecting someone based on their skin color is extremely closed-minded and prejudice, but not racist as it has nothing to do with a power trip. But I suppose it partially depends on how you're defining racism.

I would say that religion is an important critera for selecting someone to share your life with. You have to have similar beliefs and values in order to be compatible enough to make a marriage work. I am a Christian and I don't think I could have married someone who wasn't also Christian because my religion is important to me. I don't care what color the person was. I'm not about to try and tell anyone else not to do it though.

By the way, in response to other people who answered, the Bible doesn't say anything about whether or not you can marry someone of a different skin color; it talks about marrying people of different RELIGIONS (ie a Jewish person isn't supposed to marry a non-Jewish person). That is in the Old Testament. If you look at the New Testament (specifically Paul's letters), you'll see that that idea is later refuted (he actually talks about it being a good thing because you might be able to save your mate). I wonder if people who make those statements have ever actually READ the Bible...

Answer 3

No, I don't think that people are trying to be racist or trying to keep things "pure," but I think they just know what kind of people they want to spend the rest of their lives with. Maybe these women don't take Christianity seriously because it's not their religion, so they certainly don't want to marry into it and risk the chance of their children being silly Christians.

Family is important no matter how far away they are, it they love them. I know if I married a Muslim man my uncles would throw a fit! Maybe that's what those women are trying to avoid. Maybe you don't live in that culture and don't know what it's like. Some of them want to live in their native countries. The whole world isn't modern America. (Sorry, I assume that's where your from.)

It's not fair to say of religion that it's "books that carry no relativity in today's world." Just because it's meaningless to you doesn't mean that it's so for other people. Read a newspaper and see that it carries great weight.

I've thought about this personally and I think it may not be worth the trouble to marry outside of my religion. I don't know what I'd do if my children wanted to be Muslim, Hindu, Jewish, or even-- Protestant. Or even if I'd care at all as long as I told them about Jesus. However I do know for sure I'd think twice about marrying a vegetarian.

Answer 4

It depends largely on perspective and it's very difficult to make such a broad judgement. The fact that they find other races attractive is a moot point, in some respects, because attraction is only part of it. For example, I have a friend who won't date anyone outside her race and religion. She has been accused of racism, but she doesn't think that any race is inferior to hers, in fact, she doesn't have any racist views at all. The fact is, though, that people from other races aren't as likely to understand her culture. Her religion also has very strict and complex doctrines and it requires years of study to become intimately familiar with them, so it's not as though conversion is an easy process either.

Obviously, not everyone dates within their ethnic group for these reasons, as proven by a previous commenter and the highly racist perspectives that he espoused.

Answer 5

That is just a cultural thing. Think arranged marriage. I'm pretty sure a Hindu would not have an arranged marriage with a christian. It's just not going to happen. I don't think it's got anything to do with race at all.

I have many Muslim and Hindi friends who are girls and, in the back of their minds, they do fear the wrath of their fathers if they are dating a boy who is not of the same culture. Again, just a culture thing, and it could be a little racist thing from the fathers, but definitely not on the part of the women.

Answer 6

Not racist. It's religious bigotry!

But they have a right to be however they want to be. Personally, I might actually date a Hindu, but I would never date Muslim, so I guess I am a bigot too. But being a gay woman, I don't think that any Muslim women will be lining up in public to date me.

But the Hindus...oh, those Hindus...

Answer 7

Culture plays an important aspect in choosing a partner. Quite difficult to relate to someone who doesn't know about a partner's belief and tradition. A lot of adjustment is needed.
As for the Muslims, they require marriage on the same faith only. Other religions/sects are like that,too.

Answer 8

You know, white women are more attractive to me than any other color. There are races that I don't find attractive at all. The facial features are all wrong and I can't really say why I feel that way. I don't mind them as friends, but there is no physical attraction.

Also, when you court someone, is it better to go for someone who knows you and understands where you are coming from, even if they don't agree with everything, or would it be better to go after someone who believes nothing you believe and possibly even belittles you for your beliefs.

Answer 9

No it is not racist if someone will make date within their same faith or in their ethnic group because it is not based on certain race only.Hindu religion followers are not only in India there are many also in Sri Lanka and Indonesia especially in Bali .For muslims such as in Pakistan and Indonesia,they can make date with other muslims from other race for instance with chinese muslims or Indian muslims.Our judgement for dating are (1)the same religion(2)the same cultures (3)the same etnic (4)the same race.If we married with other ethnic or race but in the similar religion we will strengten our descendant and enrich our cultures.God created many races and ethics in this world for knowing each other and loving or helping each other.

Answer 10

It is racism.

People shouldn't love other people based on their race. But honestly, not many girls and/or woman nowadays discriminate against other races when it comes to that kind of affairs. Except in third world countries of course.

There are, however, many cases whereby the family of the girls get themselves too involved in their children's relationships. They often discourage their daughters from marrying outside of their race. It's a typical older generation mentality.

Answer 11

I wouldn't say that it is racist. Maybe it is for religious reasons, possibly they have family that is racist and just don't want to deal with the hassle that will befall them if they try to date outside their race. Their are many possible reasons that one might not want to date outside their race without being racist. Even though they may be attracted to other races, you personally might not be attractive in general. No offense, just a possibility. So in the end no I wouldn't say that it is racist, but I am not saying that it doesn't happen. Just not every single one of them. But to judge them all and call them racist for not dating outside of their race is racist. That is like me saying that because I know a couple blacks that are lazy and will not work, they are all like that. Get my point?