Stress and the art of coping
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It's that time of the year again. With the CBSE Board exams inching closer, students are trying their best to cope with the pressures that come with it. Vibha Parthasarathi, academician and former principal of Sardar Patel Vidyalaya, talks to Navneet Kaur about the various factors that lead to the high levels of stress in children.
Why does the very mention of Board exams strike terror in the hearts of students?
Stress does not grip a child only when he or she is appearing for the Board exams. Today, whether we admit it or not, stress has become part of any child's life.
What leads to such high levels of stress in children? Does the fault lie with our education system?
Rather than putting the blame on the entire education system, we must analyse the various other factors which lead to stress. The most crucial is the parent factor. The behaviour of a child reflects the expectations of his parents to a great extent. And parents often have such unrealistic expectations.
Could you elaborate?
Many parents simply want to go label-chasing. They feel that they must send their child to a certain college for a certain course. And if the child, no matter how good he is, does not make it to a particular institution or course, he is made to feel like a failure. And this is the biggest reason for fear and depression.
Does competition have more of a positive or negative influence on students?
Competition, if it is purely academic, could have a negative impact on children. For instance, it is not very difficult for a child to score 90 or 95 per cent today. But during college admissions a person who has scored even point five per cent more than him will bag the seat. This often results in a child feeling that he is completely useless and that he has failed himself and his parents.
Do you think children are still being forced to go in for traditional choices like engineering and medicine?
There is definitely a need to promote alternative choices as first choices, not as rejection alternatives. For instance, only six to ten science students make it to a medical or engineering college. But the ones who cannot make it have so many alternatives. They can go in for research or other specialised fields.
But the student must be mentally prepared to select an option well in time. What about the examination system itself?
Our examination system does not promote flexibility. The concept of multiple intelligence is completely missing and this is reflected in the pattern of exams. There is always the same yardstick for all children. Even the text books are too general and children from different backgrounds may find it difficult to relate to the matter.
This also makes many students feel inferior and leads to stress. Do you think the CBSE syllabus needs to be changed drastically?
The CBSE syllabus has been changed over the years and one hopes that it will improve even further. Certain subjects have a vast syllabus with portions that are not even relevant anymore. But more than this it is the low number of teachers that is a cause of worry, especially in governmet schools.
Are school teachers becoming irrelevant thanks to tutors?
Class teachers still play a crucial role in the growth of a child. They are the ones who have the time to understand a child and lead him out of a stress situation. Private tutors, on the other hand, put too much pressure on children at times, especially because they want the classes to go on for as long as possible. The tutors may be aware that a child does not have the aptitude for a subject, but they try to cover this up with lots of practice. This often works for Class X, but most Class XII students find it difficult to cope and then they don't know who to blame.
Apart from parents, can the mood at home also lead to stress?
The atmosphere at home influences the child's mind to a great extent. If someone is ill in a family or there is some other kind of turmoil, a child can get even more stressed. The house routine is another important factor. A child gets more tensed if his family does not follow a routine as he cannot figure out how to fix his own schedule.
Over-protective parents and joint families also serve as stress factors as they make a child even more aware of what is expected of him. In the case of girls, especially in lower and lower-middle class families, the threat of being taken out of school or being married off if they do not do exceptionally well also leads to a lot of stress.
What are the outward symptoms of stress?
A child may come down with an illness, complain of nausea, headaches and a weak memory, among other things. Even the pretence of `I don't care' is a form of stress and this is often overlooked.
In extreme cases, a child may think of committing suicide to escape the feeling of helplessness and stress. But at times children use this as a threat. Under such circumstances, a child needs to be told that he is loved.
How can one help a child get over stress?
You can't get rid of stress, you can only minimise it. In fact, an optimum level of stress is known to help a child work better.
It is very important to give proper counselling to tackle stress. This can be done by the teachers themselves. They should keep telling their students to take breaks, call up friends or teachers and talk about something not related to their syllabus. A child must also manage his diet -- overeating can be harmful. He must also take care to rest his eyes and do some eye exercises. Physical activities like aerobics also help.
Do you think helplines really help?
Helplines do help, but in a general way. They cannot understand an individual's needs and can leave a child wanting for more. This is where a teacher's proximity and understanding helps.
2006-12-18 18:06:12
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hi Hand writing does rely even nonetheless it may no longer make any difference on your grade. you have written you're between toppers each and every 3 hundred and sixty 5 days so a difference of a million-2 marks (in worst circumstances) won't actually result your grade as ninety one% to a hundred% is the comparable grade A1. in my opinion there is not any reason to be hectic. each and all of the terrific for A1 grade.
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