Am I exaggerating ?Should I be mad at my husband?

Question

My husbands company organizes a Christmas Party.It is party for about 300 hundred people( it is a big company).My husband told me that he is not allowed to bring anybody with him.This is a party just for the people from the company who my husband works for.Cheap company.I feel a little bit weird.Do you think it is ok?My husband went to this party yesterday.Should I be mad at him?
I didnt like the fact that my husband didnt even asked me about how I feel about it and he just went there and I stayed home. He came home at 2 am.

Answer 1

no, dont be mad. my husband and i go to our work x mas parties seperately too- everyone needs time with their friends.

Answer 2

Hi!
Well, being that this is more an opinion question, I will do my best to give you the correct answer! Oh, how I love to play therapist! So, here goes:
First, and foremost, I would like to say that we as woman, can not expect men to think like we do. They never have and they probably never will. On the flip side, woman generally do not think like men do. As a woman, I want you to remember I told you this when you are dealing with your husband in the future. Next, I have heard of this instance before, where the company Christmas party was held only for the employees. And, as we may view it a little odd,(which I personally do agree with you on that) I can vouch for your hubby and say that I have heard this instance before. Companies are so darn cheap anymore these days! Think about it this way; companies are so hesitant to do anything for their employees anymore and they probably view the "+1", per say, as an added expense.
Okay, now comes the consideration part. You sound a lot like me. Yes, your husband should have talked to you about it first. When you and your husband spoke about it initially, did you express your concern to him? If not, refer back to what I said in the 1st line, and that is don't expect the unexpected. Try taking the initiative to express your feelings to him, like maybe you could have come to an agreement that he could go but only stay for a certain amount of time, then come home and spend time with you. Maybe next time, you will get the results that you desire. Sometimes you have to wear your heart on your sleeve. I know because I am in a relationship, not married, but we do live together. And as wonderful as my man is, he still is A MAN. I find I often have to wear my heart on my sleeve, but the benefits are so worth it. I hope this has helped you and please let me know how it works out.

Answer 3

Actually, a lot of companies are foregoing invitations to any other than the employee due to the costs involved. The budget for 300 is very different than the budget for 600!

Unless you are worried about your husband's fidelity, this should be a non-issue. Should he have gone to the party without you? Absolutely! Not going to an office party is a bad career move no matter how you slice it.

Answer 4

Welcome to the great corporate feud over company x-mas parties... no matter what you do, they suck.

Personally I prefer x-mas parties where I can have my spouse along with me... many or most companies prefer to exclude families.

Your husbands behavior is another issue - I don't know if he is embarrassed about his employer (I've been in the past)'s behavior towards families, or if there is some other reason why he isn't discussing it with you.

I mean obviously you're hinting that you fear something else is going on... I would doubt it if its only holiday related. I would suspect that he's embarrassed by whatever his company does during the party... and I've definitely been embarrassed about some of my employers' and their decisions...

On the whole - yes, your spouse works for a cheap *** company, with no regard to family, and probably little regard for the mental and emotional health of the employees. For that I am very sorry.

-dh

Answer 5

My husband has a employer get at the same time like this each and every 12 months. it truly is Disney. So no longer precisely a "low-cost" employer. The get at the same time he went to fee like three hundred grand or something. I had no problem letting him go. because a million) we've an excellent relationship. 2) such issues as this are uncommon. 3) If i replaced into in his position, i'd favor to bypass. 4) it truly is significant for him to loiter round inclusive of his associates once in a lengthy time period. the picture of it truly is significant for me to do an same. 5) Any reason that i'd be mad at him, will be egocentric ones. So, after I felt aggravated, i realized, that it has no longer something to do with him, yet my own themes. previously in our marriage, I probable would were ticked. yet then, i replaced into youthful, and that i replaced into also somewhat worried that he did not somewhat love me. yet now, after 10 years, i comprehend he loves me. we've been by plenty, and we've come to comprehend one yet another. So now, I believe him and that i do not hardship that he would go away me. Now that i'm no longer so clingy, he likes me extra. he's reported so :) And, to be uncomplicated, i love him extra too. wish this helps!

Answer 6

I personally would be pissed. Especially bc he came home so late. I mean its not a HUGE deal but he definately owes you an apology at the least. And what kind of a company is that that he cant bring his wife??? I think you need to check that out and make sure it wasnt an excuse from him, that he actually couldnt bring you...

Answer 7

I would be hurt more than mad which just causes stress. Think about before you were married. Did he take you everywhere that was appropriate for couples ? The boss of his company should be proud to take his wife and introduce her to all employees. They would think of him as someone to look up to and with respect instead of the selfish cad that he appears to be. Enjoy the rest of your Holiday season and I wish you a Happy New Year.

Answer 8

Let it go, gyrl. Holiday parties suck anyways(I just attended my fiancee's-BOOORRRRING). Besides, men run on a different plane than we do. He probably didn't think he needed to discuss because he assumed it would be fine. If you do bring it up, stay focused on the fact that you would like him to include you in decisions like that next time-don't bring up the time he came home or anything...if you do, he'll feel that 'marriage noose' tightening up, you know what I'm saying?

Answer 9

I don't think you should be mad at him, I mean you pretty much are expected to go to Company Christmas parties, it looks good. It's just a cheap company is all.

Answer 10

Office party during the day okay, at night no way, He didn't want you there for some reason, not because you weren't invited. Never heard of a Christmas party at night with no spouses allowed. Something fishy there.

Answer 11

He was going with someone else to the christmas party, and possibly didnt want to be embarrassed bringing you, you never know. i would call the company and ask them about it, then catch him in a lie.